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Im not the most confident guy in the world but I would never stoop to having to pay for it.
come on mate, surely you can go after a girl you want without fear?
I'd rather actually have a first time...
No. I can't say I would either. When I made this post I had a extremely bad week and I was more than a little suicidal. And when I feel low this kind of idea comes into my head. I kinda wish I could take this thread back.
Umm, have you read my posts?
Know how I know? im the same! only difference is I don't focus on it all the time. I get fucked off with girls as well but I can't go blaming them for not liking me cause its their choice and most of the time I don't put in the effort.
Just build on improving yourself rather than posting silly posts about going to brothels.
Nope. It won't.
Yes. But I've been through the whole improvment stage and nothing came out of it. Nothing changed. I can't see anything changing in the future. So, why bother?
Although unless you're well protected you may very well end up paying for it...
if you want to do it. do it. its your body after all.
It's experience.
It would relieve some anxiety/frustration.
It might make me less resentful.
No feelings involved to get hurt.
I get to have sex.
Can actually say I've had sex.
Might be fun.
Cons:
Might catch something.
It might make me feel worse.
There's a stigma attached to it.
Might be difficult to explain in future relationships. (Not that Im gonna have any)
Might get addicted to paying for it.
No feelings involved.
Not if you use protection and use it properly. Remember, it's not just prostitues that carry around STIs & STDs. You can catch them off anyone you have sex with. (not saying that everyone is infection though)
Not as fun as taking some random bird home from town though. It's always better when they're up for it too - and when you've have to put the effort in.
I almost paid for it once, but it was a drunken misunderstanding, I thought she was some random girl chatting me up, next thing I know I'm at a cash machine and she's rolling off her price list and I'm like nooooo :yuck:
One, there will be feelings involved on your side at least, it will probably make you feel worse in the longrun.
You also wont get a relationship if you constantly think that no-one is intrested in you or you'll never meet someone. Etc.
If you are too shy to talk to girls properly I have a feeling you will be too frightened to book a hooker too. Sort out the confidence and you'll get your bones jumped.
But why hide from the truth? It's never gonna happen...
Really? Did it effect any of your relationships?
I'm only shy because of the constant fear of (eventual) rejection. And if a prostitute rejects me I will truely go nuts.
What is it about rejection that you fear so much?
Do whatever you feel you want to do. At the very least it will be eventful.
It's not something I'd shout about. A few my mates know - but then most of them have paid for it at some point too.
Agreed. Sophia - remember that all women are different, but you are right.
Indeed. And how the hell would you explain that to any future girlfriends you have?
Indeed. And it might not be what you expect.
Eh? Strippers and prostitutes aren't one and the same.
In a general sense, I don't have a problem with people paying for sex. I know a hell of a lot of people who have done so in the past and I wouldn't brand them as pathetic or similar.
But the difference being that they did it to get their kicks and try something they hadn't done so before, not because they felt like it might further their sexual (and romantic?) experience with women. I don't think that's good motivation for doing something that I reckon is only going to make you feel a hundred times worse afterwards. If you're desperate for a shag then go for it, but don't think it's going to alter anything other than the semantics of actually having being inside a woman.