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Does anyone still see their ex?
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I know recently a lot of people here have been trying to come to terms with break ups, but I was wondering if anyone who's been through it, still sees their ex?
For another question, would you feel confortable with your partner still seeing their ex?
For another question, would you feel confortable with your partner still seeing their ex?
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I wouldn't be happy with my partner seeing their ex no but thats me being silly. Theres no reason why exes shouldn't remain friends.
Half of my boyfriend's social circle is made up of exes, so it would be very awkward if I wasn't comfortable with it. We get on like a house on fire though and it's always good to compare notes
I was friends with a different ex of mine for a while years back, but every time I saw him I kept thinking "for fucks sake, ive heard this story 50 thousand times - how the hell did i live with this"
I think exes are exes for a reason tbh. I think its obviously better if youre not bitter and twisted about them, but I have no desire to be friends with my ex.
Only a couple of my exes have turned into complete arseholes, and luckily one of them has moved to Yorkshire, so I don't see or speak to him. The other is permantently stoned these days, so I don't think he quite knows who I am.... or at least, doesn't remember me being with him.
My nice exes are OK though, I chat to them when I see them, and we can have a giggle about the past. My boyfriend isn't overly keen on them, because they're my exes, but he chats to his exes occasionally too, and I don't particularly like that. So we keep quiet about it and it's easily ignored
I've just cut all contact with a recent ex which is a shame cos we were best mates for 4-5years, really close mates at that but once I started seeing her she started being weird and doing shitty things to me every week, I don't need mates like that when I've got plenty who respect me greatly.
I still see most of my 1/2/3 nighters weekly aswell as I've being through quite a few girls from my local pubs and the surrounding areas and I get on great with them all still. Wouldn't exactly call them exes though, just bits of fun and both knowing the situation where it was just sex and nothing serious.
But yeah, we still talk. Only through email, and probably only a handful of emails every couple of months. They may be exes for a reason, but they can't be all bad unless you're a really bad judge of character .
Yes, I would have a problem if my girlfriend was friendly with her exes. Luckily all my previous girlfriends have had the same attitude as me, so no problems there.
i just think that if i was to get jealous and say he can't be friends with his ex who is actually his friend now then it would just drive him away. also i have lots of male friends and so expect the same trust back.
From what I know, he doesn't want anything to do with his last ex in particular and shares the same view as me about splitting up for a reason, but I wouldn't say to him that he couldn't see her, as like you said, it would drive him away.
Friendly, but not friends - that's my ex rule :yes:
I think tho id feel a bit awquard if it was the other way round *shrug*
I disagree. It depends on why you broke up - if it was just because you'd stopped working as a couple and would be better off as friends, I can't see any problem with being friends. That's why me and my ex broke up and we're still friends.
I suppose, but for me I don't think there would be a situaiton where I would still want to have contact with an ex. Even if we broke up because we stopped working as a couple, I wouldn't be able to get over the fact that we were once so close. There would be too much history to make a friendship on any level work. Like I said before, I have nothing against my exs and wish them all the best, I just don't want contact with them.
I guess some people can make it work, just not me.
Another ex is on my MySpace friends list and we recently briefly exchanged a "what have you been upto for the last four years?" chat there, but that's it.
And my "most recent" ex (bearing in mind I've been with my boyfriend for two years now!) is constantly hounding me on MSN (right now, actually) about us getting back together and how things could be wonderful between us! We were only seeing each other for about three weeks!
My boyfriend recently saw his ex and went for a coffee with her. It didn't bother me at all - I think he was more freaked out at it than me! Had a giggle about it later with him, and he's - surprisingly - heard no more from her.
He really doesn't like the idea of me getting on with his ex though. I sorta started talking to her again just to make things easier (used to be pretty close to her) but he doesn't like it.
Maybe just because she's a great source of amusement to us. It would be a shame if I started liking her.
I still see him because we work together. I hate it, but I get on with things and don't let it affect me. I get the impression he avoids me at all possible opportunities, unless he's with this new lass (well, not so new now) when he seems to feel the need to flaunt it. Again, *shrug*
What I find harder is that I still see his family from time to time round town or whatever, and they always say how much they miss me, and how I should come round sometime and we can all catch up, blah blah. I was even invited to his sister's wedding on Saturday. It's nice, but really awkward, cos I'd be much happier having nowt to do with him at all any more.
I've not got any exes that are amazing people that I just have to keep in contact with, just girls that I happened to go out with but don't really give a shit about anymore.
If she was in contact with her ex, then I wouldn't really worry about it too much.
get on fine now but tbh life was a lot simplier with her off the scene.. but in general id prefer to be on good terms