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Do women prefer a "Nice guy" or a "bad / devious guy"?
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So come on girls, tell us what keeps you coming back for more? Do you prefer a guy to be kind, gentle, romantic and loyal - or do you prefer the "loveable rogue" type - somone who will treat you well, but behind you back be off doing other naughty things and keeping you in the dark and be mysterious!? <P class="body">
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I've always told myself that if a relationship becomes bad for me I'd get out but it's so diffrent when you're in the middle of it(Bad guy For)
I'd love a healthy relationship with a kind, sensitive, intelligent guy and I'm pretty sure that if I did have that kind of relationship that I would work my hardest to keep it(Good guy For)
That's all I can say and I can only speak for my self when I say
Good guys Bad guys it just depends on the woman.
Sounds like a balanced response to me! I hope you find a "Good Guy" to restore your faith! :-)<P class="body">
Alan
Now we are getting to the truth!
I think you speak for a lot of women. The trouble is, you all complain when the bloke treats you like sh*t! I guess there's not much hope for the good guys then!
Alan
If we go for good, soft, sensitive, or whatever, and you are not that type: do not even try: you will be found out and be dumped faster than a politician with his trousers down on the common.
If we are (a bit?) masochistic and go for the bad type: you can only pull that off if you really are.
The worst is a totally non-cool or non-macho bloke trying to pretend cool or macho.
Actually, correction: it is the best, because we can spot them a mile off and have a very good laugh, without even getting close!
Very wise words indeed! I take it you don't like The Pretenders then? I thought they had some pretty good songs myself!
Personally, I have never had a problem trying to be someone I'm not. I just don't know who I am to begin with! Only joking... I think!
Alan
Well I'd add that if you want to keep getting hurt... stick with the bad guy!
In the end you'll find yourself marrying the good guy because it is he that can provide you with all you need. You as girls will also grow up for want of a word and see this.
Bad guys have a hidden agenda to and they don't really have respect for you... yes they may be sex bombs and have loads of money but will that realistically make you happy?
Ian.
I guess that's why I'm still single then HAHA! Probably a bit to late to become a rogue, but maybe us nice guys should try to hold back a be a bit more!
Even so, if we do this, you women will complain that we are being cold and distant? Isn't that how it works?
As for the mummies boy theory .... well that doesn't really appeal either!
Alan
It seems that girls have a real problem between the, should I date a bad or good guy!? When it comes to girls I certainly know that I'd want to date a good one, bad ones are just trouble... hmm a bit like bad men <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">)
I think ultimately a girl needs to feel safe and Rachael mentioned that she feels insecure . Therefore I think a girl will only achieve this with a good old boring good guy :-)
Has that tipped the balance?
Ian.
Rachel: Nice guys aren't ALL boring <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> - but I can see your point about the bad guys being more of a turn on. The question is - and this is to all you girls out there - how long does the lust thang last?
Like beauty, everything will fade slowly and you just end up with a shell.
Surely it's better to have a more longer-term view and check out the good guys (who you're parents will love!).
As Ian said, this will give you more stability and happiness in the long-run!
Far too sensible, I know - but the "bad guys" attitude isn't really conducive to long-term happiness!
Alan
Well thanks for the vote of confidence Sexier!
So far guys it looks good if you're a rogue, and not so good if you're not!
Alan
Personally, I like my men a bit rough round the edges. The pay off is you wake up in the morning to find he's made off with your speakers.
HAHA. I probably shouldn't laugh as this reply sounds far to zany to be made up!
How can I put this politely NuGyrl....... You got f**ked in the morning as well then <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Let that be a lesson for us all
Alan
They can be just as spontaneous as 'bad boys' and just as bad if you know what i mean!!
be yourself and be happy, that is what makes a lad so attractive!!
The nicest fella I ever had was an utter romantic, but he moved to fast and wanted to move in with me after 8 weeks, so I dumped him. So remember its not only you fellas who run a mile at the thought of commitment
[This message has been edited by pingcuter (edited 13-08-2000).]