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Do women prefer a "Nice guy" or a "bad / devious guy"?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
So come on girls, tell us what keeps you coming back for more? Do you prefer a guy to be kind, gentle, romantic and loyal - or do you prefer the "loveable rogue" type - somone who will treat you well, but behind you back be off doing other naughty things and keeping you in the dark and be mysterious!? <P class="body">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It may come as a surprise, but we are all different!!<P class="body">Personally I like a man who is kind, considerate, doesn't promise to do things he can't do, thinks about his actions, likes himself and can show that he enjoys my company. He must also be strong and supportive.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I always go for the rough guy, but actually end up hating him coz he treats me bad, but love the mystery and his whole attitude, but do like them to actually be kind and considerate when I'm going out with them! I kinda like to have it both ways, but then you have the suffocating booyfriend who's always there and feeling inscure which I hate! Soz that aint helped you much has it?!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So far it's 1 all then! Obviously everyone is different (well 2 people anyway!)<P class="body">What about everyone else?<P class="body">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well in answer to your question Good guys Vs Bad guys, in keeping with your first reply yes we are all different.
    I've always told myself that if a relationship becomes bad for me I'd get out but it's so diffrent when you're in the middle of it(Bad guy For)
    I'd love a healthy relationship with a kind, sensitive, intelligent guy and I'm pretty sure that if I did have that kind of relationship that I would work my hardest to keep it(Good guy For)
    That's all I can say and I can only speak for my self when I say
    Good guys Bad guys it just depends on the woman.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Darkeyes:
    Well in answer to your question Good guys Vs Bad guys, in keeping with your first reply yes we are all different.
    I've always told myself that if a relationship becomes bad for me I'd get out but it's so diffrent when you're in the middle of it(Bad guy For)
    I'd love a healthy relationship with a kind, sensitive, intelligent guy and I'm pretty sure that if I did have that kind of relationship that I would work my hardest to keep it(Good guy For)
    That's all I can say and I can only speak for my self when I say
    Good guys Bad guys it just depends on the woman.
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    Sounds like a balanced response to me! I hope you find a "Good Guy" to restore your faith! :-)<P class="body">

    Alan
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well we all know that we should go 4 mr nice but can't help but be attracted to the nasty guys!! well thats me anyway!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Angel star:
    well we all know that we should go 4 mr nice but can't help but be attracted to the nasty guys!! well thats me anyway!

    Now we are getting to the truth!
    I think you speak for a lot of women. The trouble is, you all complain when the bloke treats you like sh*t! I guess there's not much hope for the good guys then!
    Alan
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    eventually we'll all learn!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You know by now that we are all different! But I think there is one thing that unites us all: we want the real thing!

    If we go for good, soft, sensitive, or whatever, and you are not that type: do not even try: you will be found out and be dumped faster than a politician with his trousers down on the common.


    If we are (a bit?) masochistic and go for the bad type: you can only pull that off if you really are.

    The worst is a totally non-cool or non-macho bloke trying to pretend cool or macho.

    Actually, correction: it is the best, because we can spot them a mile off and have a very good laugh, without even getting close!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by sarah21:
    You know by now that we are all different! But I think there is one thing that unites us all: we want the real thing!

    If we go for good, soft, sensitive, or whatever, and you are not that type: do not even try: you will be found out and be dumped faster than a politician with his trousers down on the common.


    If we are (a bit?) masochistic and go for the bad type: you can only pull that off if you really are.

    The worst is a totally non-cool or non-macho bloke trying to pretend cool or macho.

    Actually, correction: it is the best, because we can spot them a mile off and have a very good laugh, without even getting close!


    Very wise words indeed! I take it you don't like The Pretenders then? I thought they had some pretty good songs myself!

    Personally, I have never had a problem trying to be someone I'm not. I just don't know who I am to begin with! Only joking... I think!



    Alan
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well we 2 like the bad guys, but moan when they treat us like sh*t, but in the end we settle for the good guy, but usually lust aftr the bad guy-u r rite ther's not much hope 4 goods guys. if the good guys are sexy and great then we will go 4 the good guy, it's jus that the bad guy intrigues us...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Bad guys are fun @ first, they keep us interested and wanting more, but then they treat you like sh*t and we go to the good guys who we were told were better all the long. <sigh> And then we treat the good guy like shit and he dumps us.......<sniff>
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi,

    Well I'd add that if you want to keep getting hurt... stick with the bad guy!

    In the end you'll find yourself marrying the good guy because it is he that can provide you with all you need. You as girls will also grow up for want of a word and see this.

    Bad guys have a hidden agenda to and they don't really have respect for you... yes they may be sex bombs and have loads of money but will that realistically make you happy?

    Ian.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well it all despends on the person..i personally go for nice guys..You know the "moma's boy" type..That always gets me..Guys who are romantic and actually show the girls how to have a good time instead of just jumping into the backseat of a car are usually more favorable...Yet some girls enjoy the bad boys...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Intriguing to say the least! So far, I make it a definate majority of women voting for the bad guy!

    I guess that's why I'm still single then HAHA! Probably a bit to late to become a rogue, but maybe us nice guys should try to hold back a be a bit more!

    Even so, if we do this, you women will complain that we are being cold and distant? Isn't that how it works?

    As for the mummies boy theory .... well that doesn't really appeal either!


    Alan
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi,

    It seems that girls have a real problem between the, should I date a bad or good guy!? When it comes to girls I certainly know that I'd want to date a good one, bad ones are just trouble... hmm a bit like bad men <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">)

    I think ultimately a girl needs to feel safe and Rachael mentioned that she feels insecure . Therefore I think a girl will only achieve this with a good old boring good guy :-)

    Has that tipped the balance?

    Ian.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There are no such things as good guys and bad guys. Everything is relative. It is not a zero sum game. Anybody understand what I mean?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah Spikey I know what you mean. We all like different things, sometimes a bloke what bends you over backwards and calls you terrible names is sexy, but usually cause you know him well and its just his way of doing things. Each to their own, there is no best way, just hwat yuo like and we're all different.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Rachel: Nice guys aren't ALL boring <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; - but I can see your point about the bad guys being more of a turn on. The question is - and this is to all you girls out there - how long does the lust thang last?

    Like beauty, everything will fade slowly and you just end up with a shell.

    Surely it's better to have a more longer-term view and check out the good guys (who you're parents will love!).

    As Ian said, this will give you more stability and happiness in the long-run!

    Far too sensible, I know - but the "bad guys" attitude isn't really conducive to long-term happiness!


    Alan
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey sexiER here-dont tell my mate that! Well the lust thing lasts until u get hurt - which is relatively quickly! The thing is I like a lad that my mum TOTALLY hates and it makes me want him more! My parents really liked my last boyfriend and thought I'd dun well, but it became boring, but I thik Ian is right, we'll end up marrying the fodd guys, coz we realise how we CAN be treated and how we dont av2 put up wiv sh*t! The gbad gut=ys r gud wen ur young and u wanna bit of fun, and to learn bout lads, but the gud guys win u want sumert serious, so don't worry Alan, u'll find sum1 who'll realise that u r REALLY special coz ur actually NICE and u'll becum more attractive than the bad guy EVA was!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    BAD spellin there! soz! i think fodd ment good! and gbad means bad and gu=ry means guy!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Well thanks for the vote of confidence Sexier!

    So far guys it looks good if you're a rogue, and not so good if you're not!

    Alan
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Personally, I like my men a bit rough round the edges. The pay off is you wake up in the morning to find he's made off with your speakers.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by NuGyrl:

    Personally, I like my men a bit rough round the edges. The pay off is you wake up in the morning to find he's made off with your speakers.


    HAHA. I probably shouldn't laugh as this reply sounds far to zany to be made up!

    How can I put this politely NuGyrl....... You got f**ked in the morning as well then <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Let that be a lesson for us all
    Alan
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    us girls have different tastes in blokes and to be honest with you i've been with bad and good guys! there will be no one the same as allen though. lucy (isle of wight)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Everyone knows that there is something that is so attractive about a 'bad boy', maybe it's just that mischevious glint in his eye or maybe the way he treats you that can be so appealing. Personally I wouldn't like to say that only 'bad guys' do it for me, as 'good guys' don't necessarily mean boring or predictable.
    They can be just as spontaneous as 'bad boys' and just as bad if you know what i mean!!

    be yourself and be happy, that is what makes a lad so attractive!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    everyone loves a bad guy. it's sexy! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    mix of the two, but not a cheater as they get kicked to the kerb straight away.

    The nicest fella I ever had was an utter romantic, but he moved to fast and wanted to move in with me after 8 weeks, so I dumped him. So remember its not only you fellas who run a mile at the thought of commitment

    [This message has been edited by pingcuter (edited 13-08-2000).]
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