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Certainly that's a big part of it, but it's not everything. I suppose it also depends on how much importance you put on sex as part of a relationship.
I fail to see how something that's so much fun and so natural can be considered wrong.
Just to be a cunt!
The fact that sex is best in a loving relationship isn't disputed by most people. Marriage is a long term commitment to a loving relationship, nothing more. It's not that hard to understand.
It's a very different type of sex in my opinion and yes it is often the best sex - but not always.
Still you don't have to be married to be in a loving relationship. I was in love at 16 but I wasn't ready to get married, and thank fuck I didn't.
I don't understand this attitude though.
Great sex comes from emotional closeness- if you love someone enough to marry them, you will love them enough to find them attractive and have good sex with them. You will have the patience to teach them how to please you, and you will have the patience to learn how to please them.
The idea that you can "test drive" sex is rather silly IMHO. And marriage is for a lifetime, that person won't be the same when they're 70, so what exactly are you "test driving" first?
Some people think sex is very special and want to save it for their spouse. Some people think its special and want to save it for someone they love. Some people don't care about that at all. It doesn't make one choice more morally correct, and it doesn't make one choice morally inferior.
It isn't a "trick" for people to believe that sex is special and they want to wait. For many people who wait it isn't guilt that drives them, its the fact that they feel its important to them. Who the hell are people to judge that?
I don't believe shagging around is a "human instinct", either.
Marriage is both a legal and spiritual event. You can get married without going anywhere near religion- civil ceremonies actually prohibit the use of religious readings and songs.
Only those that believe in fairies!
It isn't a universal truth, I'm sure some people have better sex with people they can't stand. So what?
We're not the ones saying that anyone who wants to wait has been "tricked" into "thinking sex is sinful".
You enjoy shagging around, you go do that. But why the sneering about people who DON'T want to shag around? Who the hell are you to say that your life choices are better than anyone else's?
And besides which, how does "test driving" solve anything? People change in 70 years, you know, and sometimes you don't like the changes. Having sex before marriage doesn't change owt.
It has?
News to me. I don't find my "natural sexual urges" sinful in the slightest.
Getting back to the point though, I'm still waiting for someone to explain to me how you can "test drive" someone fifty years in advance. I'm also still waiting for someone to explain to me why they think sex is the only thing that counts in a marriage.