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Sex before marraige
Pearly
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Hey guys and gals,
I just wondered what your opinions are on sex before marraige - are there any of you that have decided to wait and is it religion or simply a choice?
Have you encountered any problems with having made this decision? I have a friend who is a Christian and the men she meets seem to run a mile after she mentions it, are there any guys out there who are not Christians but would accept their beliefs and wait and if not, why? (yes apart from the obvious!)
I'd be really interested to hear your views on this!
Thanks,
Pearly
I just wondered what your opinions are on sex before marraige - are there any of you that have decided to wait and is it religion or simply a choice?
Have you encountered any problems with having made this decision? I have a friend who is a Christian and the men she meets seem to run a mile after she mentions it, are there any guys out there who are not Christians but would accept their beliefs and wait and if not, why? (yes apart from the obvious!)
I'd be really interested to hear your views on this!
Thanks,
Pearly
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This is how I see it. Like, it's not sex before marriage, but sex before love. I think it's just the case that marriage is seen as proof and a symbol of love, and therefore sex should wait till then.
I'm a Christian, and though I'm fine with foreplay, I don't want to have sex until I'm with someone that I love, and that I trust. However, this is more a matter of my personal opinion rather than the fact I'm a Christian.
Hmm... I think I'm just making this issue more confusing.
Sex is for love. The end.
So many girls I know need to learn that lesson :yes:
Personally, I have never considered waiting til marriage, but I can understand why someone would want to. I think it's nice in all honesty. I personally didn't, but I lost my virginity to the guy that I love, and there's no regrets - if anything happened in future to break us up, I still wouldn't regret it. I guess it's what everyones comfortable with.
If you don't mind me asking (both you and Piccolo)... As Christians, does it affect your attitudes to sex?
Do you guys believe in sex before marriage?
I guess it depends on your value system. I would marry a person whom I've never had sex with because I don't think sex to be very important. But lucky my boyfriend and I have no problems
Something like that. I struggle to see the immoral part of having sex before marriage. Religious part? Easy.
No biggy.
I can understand why some people choose to wait, and good for them and all that, but i do think that fewer and fewer people are making that descision as times move on, but each to their own.
I had sex before marriage because for me, a physical relationship is a very important aspect of the relationship as a whole. Plus, I don't know if I ever will, or want to get married, it's pretty moot as far as I'm concerned.
I have a friend who went out with a Catholic girl who was willing to do 'anything but'. It was very difficult for him because he respected her choices, but found her very contradictory because they'd end up naked together, rubbing genitals, oral sex, mutual masterbation and he didn't enjoy the teasing aspect of it, and the relationship prompty ended. I have very little time for people who pull the Clintonesque defence.
As for the other question, I won't be having sex before I'm married unless (as far as I'm concerned) something goes wrong.
Just because I've just spotted this, for the record I think this catholic girl is behaving in an extremely hypocritical way. For me, no sex before marriage is more than the "anything but" attitude, it's because you want to be saving a particular physical aspect of your relationship for just one person. If you're willing to behave as this girl did, then you're not really doing the no-sex thing for the right reasons.
If people want to wait until after marriage, then there's no harm in that.
Ilora x
when i marry, i intend to stay married for life. so i want to be as sure as i can be that every aspect of my relationship is going to work out. which includes sex.
I do believe in sex before marriage, I don't think marriage even appeals to me.
I think everyone's entitled to their own opinions about sex, but for me I don't have sex outside relationships. Some things are better when you have a connection with the person.
I dunno, I mostly don't get catholics.
I didn't wait until marriage before I had sex, and that isn't a choice that I would have ever wanted to make. But I wouldn't throw stones at people who did choose to make that choice in life.
True, but for many poeple as Fiend said...
If sexual realtions is that important to you, surely you shoudl know that you future partner can please you in the bedroom.
I think finding out if youre sexually compatible before marriage is a fine idea, but people might be sexually compatible at first, and then drives vary, and sexual tastes can change throughout life. If you base sexual compatibility too high, you could end up being disappointed later on, and then it be more of a shock, than if two people love each other and really really do love each other without sex, then WHATEVER sex they have after marriage is just going to be a bonus and an expression of that love - nothing to do with knowing how to please someone or individual learned sexual tastes. Also got more of an opportunity to grow and learn about sex together.
I think it sounds like a beautiful and romantic thing.
Yes, but as I understand it, great sex tends to come from emotional closness and being able to communicate what your needs are. If you can't talk honestly with your partner about anything before getting married, then perhaps you shouldn't be marrying them, irrespective of sexual compatability.
All the people I know who waited have no complaints at all, and believe me I've wanted to know.