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Getting a girlfriend
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Whats the best way of getting a girlfriend? I've never really had a proper g/f relationship. I've tried but somehow I'm held back by the fact that I suffer from severe acne and it affects my confidence. How should I go about it?
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Acne can be a pain but personality and confidence is more important...
Try to be more confident and not let your acne problem affect you too much...
Do you belong to any club of some sort?
if you ask a girl out and she says 'no' (or something like that) don't keep on - talking from experience, if someone keeps asking me out the answer is still the same.
And why do you want a girlfriend anyway? Is it because everyone else has one and you feel left out by any chance?
That happened all my school life and Im worried it would just be the same everywhere.Are the girls in clubs different to girls when I was at school?
Sorry,bit off topic and a naff question but Id like to know.
Just go for it - the worst they can do is say no (or slap you / beat you up... just kidding. But seriously - don't be stalkerish, or they will).
Just because people give you a hard time at school doesn't mean that everyone will. :thumb: Speaking from experience a new group of people is a chance for a clean slate and to meet some really great people!
Wow,my late night posts are more depressing than normal!!!
When i met my girlfriend i was quite literally wearing the last pair of clean clothes i had on, i probably looked a right mess, so appearance isn't everything obviously.
I reckon winning the national lottery is a failsafe method!
And its not just my clothes that would be messed up.........my head is a total fuck up as well.
But I would have been well steaming tonight though..... :thumb:
I was trying to work on it and I felt much better but it creeped back in again......
Seriously though I dont have anything Im particularly good at. Maybe in a few years I`l be able to say Im good on guitar hopefully.Thats it really...
Oh well,shit happens.I can deal with lonliness. :razz:
And is this just a girl issue, or a talking to new people in general issue? Because you can talk to new people as friends without any risk of rejection, then if one of these people happens to end up being a girl that likes you, then that's a bonus, but don't go out expecting that or looking for that.
Often Its how you are in yourself that attracts people tbh.
But,I have seen an improvement in my guitaring today.......a little bit anyway.Its just talking to people in general really and I know its a vicious circle but a hard one to break!! :banghead:
just wank more.
If you think you're worthless and crap you'll never meet anyone. Firstly you'll be too terrified to just start talking to people, and secondly negativity puts people off. If you're always negative and down about everything then, quite simply, people don't have the time or inclination to deal with you. If they don't know you, people will rarely be arsed to deal with your misery, it's too much work.
I actually think a lot of shy people just need to get a job where they need to deal with people regularly. Customer service roles did wonders for my confidence, because you learn how to deal with people.
Customer services jobs.........I`ll have a look at them.
"Yes sir,this sofa can do 0-60 in 5-6secs and also has numerous mobile phones BUILT-IN and you can also just stick your washing in the back and it tumble drys it as wellPlus,toilets UNDER the seats!!
How much?I`ll let you have it at the bargain price of £5555999000000." :chin:
Nah seriously mate... I think the most attractive people arethe ones who don't wantor need a relationship... Just be you, it'll happen.
Totally agreed here. Why does it matter that you don't have a girlfriend now anyway?
To be honest Id just be happy having some girls as just friends,girls at school thought I was below them so it would be nice to actually converse with a girl without worrying when the slagging me off part would be......
Its not some unwritten law that if you dont go and sit in a pub/club youre sad.
stop envying what other people do.