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Hmm but I prefer someone with a dominant streak, i like the conflict. Don't like someone who lets me have my own way all the time.
Its all very confusing i suppose there is no answer. Everyones different.
Im not a doormat by any stretch of the imagination. Its really difficult to explain lol. I probably shouldnt even have tried.
you just have to find out what works for you.
Exactly! What's ht epoint of telling the person who's supposed to know you best what to buy you... they might as well just give you money. Valentines Day is meant to be about being with the people you love the most... so to hear that a week before drives girls mental!
So if a girl told you "Oh surprise me" what would you get her? Hm?
but anyway, it saves the frustration of not getting anything. a card, well written, means a lot. some nice flowers and food go well together as well. my girlfriend cooked me a bloody creme brulee!!! It was sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo nice!
No big pressies though
She ain't in mine.
Girls through up challenges, tests, to see if you can pass them. Claiming they don't like Valentine's Day and pretending they don't want anything is one such challenge...immature, but it's textbook stuff.
Failing a 'test' is keenly noted and the most likely result is getting dumped.
How much one likes the other doesn't determine who holds the power, either. No offence, but your understanding of women is virtually non-existant.
None taken I'd say the same about you. We'll just have to agree to disagree.
As long as there's another lad in this who doesn't believe the whole 'women have all the power' thing then I don't really care what your reasons why are.
Errr...i wasn't talking to you.
Eh?
Thought that was in reference to me as I'd made the post about one person liking the other more being less dominant.
Arghh never mind i'm buzzing off my tits and not entirely with it
I think it's stupid as well, but creating tests doesn't apply only to people who are playing the 'dating game'. Girls create tests/create arguments etc in relationships to gauge personality, see if their b/fs act in their ideal way and see how 'tuned in' they are.
It's investigation into character, which isn't necessarily a bad thing.
That particular type of mind game whilst practiced more frequently and more effectivly by women isnt a women only thing, everybody claims somethings less important to them than it actually is sometimes.
This is the same with most "womens mind games" their generally not unique to women.
As for the women being in charge thing the way it usually workes for me is thatthe womens in gets her own way unless I realy want my way or I feel she's using me (using as oposed to "testing")
Generally they like a man to take charge at certain times, but not to boss them around loads.
Spliffie you make good points about "tests" however In my experience it seems these test are usually givern before your in a relationship (or maybe sometimes at the very begining) and a lot of the time you will fail these tests in her eyes if you do what superficialy she's asking for.
In a relationship the balence of power (if you can call it that) will generally shift much more towards the man, and their generally not "tested" much or if atall.
just what i was thinking!
silly renzo.
even if she'd have meant it, you could've got her a card or something.
good point. no, you can't have automatically been expected to see through her 'lie' but... she's told you now- have u got her anything?
Me and my brother!
For every example you could give of a woman being in control in a relationship, I could counter with the fact that the man allows this aspect to be controlled. To be submissive is a choice and therefore the submissive act is in fact a dominant one, noone can dominate you unless you FIRST are willing to be dominated! So, no SG, I don't think you really understand the dynamics of a sexual relationship and power.
blah blah blah
This conversation is useless.
There is no manual to love.
I know. Would you like me to explain a little more?
Well, if you don't 'get' her signals, and she's giving out signals that you wont get; sounds like continuing a relationship would just be too confusing. Doesn't mean either of you are in the wrong, I would just read it as being incompatable even if you're attracted to each other. Go with the 'friends' thing, you might end up more in tune with each other to the point where you can restart a relationship, or you might not...
And ain't that the truth! :thumb:
Yeah
For sure, just replied what came to my mind on the moment
get over yourself.