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I just dont want to do that sort of thing the 1st time i meet a girl.
Why though?
Why can't sex just be fun?
Im sure it can be.
But i want my 1st time to actually mean something to me.
As you get older the opertunities to have no strings attached sex become less and less.
See this is what i dont like...im always getting people to pressure me... i just want an actual proper relationship before i do. I almost did but didnt get the chance in the end. Good thing though cos it would have fucked me up badly in the circumstances. (Turned out she was cheating)
Really? I thought they became more. When your young and stuff people want crushes and they want to be in "love" and all that crap. When your older you can go around and just fuck because thats what everybody else is doing. I always thought it was easier to find a fuck rather than a relationship the older I got (granted i'm only 20)
I've never got my end away more than when I was at college. Plus going on the pull in town is easier when your younger. That's been my experience.
Plus when are you ever going to get the chance to ker 17 year old girls again?
there are plenty of commitment phobes out there of all ages to have casual sex with, and always will be.
If you pick them when their 18 you can do them no matter what age you are.
Age of consent is 16 here.
Well its true, because the older you get the more likely YOU are to be settled down, and its nice to have memories and experience under your belt, to stop you wondering what could have been.
Considering I am a woman...
:yes:
Hopefully in the not too distant future I'll settle down too. I don't want to be putting it about when I'm older, so for me now is the time to have fun.
Stop being such a creep.
Thats an awfully dumb question isn't it? I am a woman. I have a sexual history as do many others. I"ve been in many sexual situations and am very confident and secure with it all. The comment I made, you took out of context. I have fun with sex, whether it be mine or other peoples. When I'm out with some male friends, I will be the first one to point out a hot chick or a skanky looking one and tell him to try to take her home, as I do the same with my female friends to men I see. Sex is fun, its not serious and making light hearted comments in no way discrases my gender.
Now its you jumping to sexist conclusions, "do them" can just be slang for have sex dosnt have to have any other meaning.
If its a women saying "do them" in regards to a man you wouldnt complain would you.
But your jumping to inaccurate sexist sterotypes that see's women as pasive "victims" or "recievers" and not as they oftern are confident sexual beings who have every right just to have sex as casualy as they want.
You're sounding like me, not that any of the boys take any notice of course... :rolleyes:
Oh, for goodness sake, please try and get your head out of your rectum, its very tiring. And very creepy.
What is wrong with the phrase "do them"? I say it, the wife says it, all her friends say it, big deal.
For the first time ever, I think I agree with iknowyourmum- women are just as sexually active and predatory as men can be, and, you know what? That's just great.
As for the question, yes I did have sex on a first date, and yes it was wonderful and passionate, and yes I would again if I was ever on the market. And no, I didn't think less of the girl.
Renzo- I think that's the best attitude to take, IMHO. But don't think that sex always has to mean something, a good hard meaningless shag has its benefits too.
I'm not sure if this comment makes me want to visit your local market, or stay the fuck away.
you can get some lovely bits of meat there,
Oh, definitely stay the fuck away.
A southern jessie who supports Man Utd in the toon? You'd be ripped to shreds:p
its happened twice, the first time was a BIG mistake, i wasnt in the best of states emotionally at the time and have learnt a lot from that.
The seond time however i did know the guy previously and in this situation it seemed like the natural thing to do. if i wasnt comfortable or thought i would be making a mistake then i would not even let it get that far.
i dont do it as a rule. and i guess i do worry what i will be thought of afterwards, but if two people do want the same thing then why not?
however theres still many other aspects of the whole men/women dating game that will always baffle me! so maybe i'm wrong. who knows!
(retracting original statement btw about second occasion
....altho didnt regret it at the time - very much regret it now)