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LMAO then your end up like this dude who is 15 and has 4 kids and on wellfare and life is RUINED
It doesn't hurt everyone, it certainly didn't hurt me. It depends on the individual.
Heyitsme - before you have sex, I think it's a good idea for you to get a list of organisations in your head if things happen to go wrong. For instance, where you can get emergency contraception from, testing for STIs etc. a little reassurance can be a great thing.
Take a look at the section on sex and relationships too
That's obviously physical protection. As for emotional, only you know how secure you are about this person and having sex with them. Best of luck, please come back if you have any problems.
1: ) Always wear protection unless you are betting on premeditated concieving or you are on the pill and have had all the tests necessary.
2: ) You do not know for sure whether he gets turned on with whips, chains and blindfolds ffs. You could specify that you post is an assumption.
3: ) It depends on the individual whether they suffer from pain or not. Another factor is also that the female might not be turned on.
Twatty troll :rolleyes:
Anyway, looking the part could range from a lot of things but you don't wanna go too far for the first time. Some sexy undies would do the trick - a matching bra and thong/french knicker/(whatever type of undies it is you like to wear!) set and maybe so as to not looking like you would everday, a pretty top, maybe a nice skirt, something that reveals a little, without it needing to be a lot - just so that you're comfortable - you need to feel sexy - don't dress uncomfortably with the idea of it looking sexy to him.
We're trying to give decent, helpful advice to this girl, she doesn't need to read things like 'be drunk'. That is NOT good advice, so just shut up and go away.
ta this but im not planning on being drunk, maybe it does feel good i wouldnt know! but id rather be sober i want to make sure i remember every minute of it..
Glad you're ignoring thisisnotmyname, but it's a really good idea to listen to go_away, she linked to lots of useful information, especially the stuff about contraception and STIs.
Oh and thisisnotmyname you should probably take a look at the guidelines for this board before you post again.
CB
yeh enjoy it . I didnt use the condom coz it was so shit . Its up 2 u what you use babes.
a) gives extra lubrication, better for your first time
b) you say he's experienced, possible STI's is that what you want?
c) pregnancy, you are 15 feel ready for sex, are you ready for a baby, the pill isnt 99% certain against pregnancy
Yes condoms might take away somecloseness then having a guy come very close to me without a condom, pregnancy scares arent fun hunni!
will it feel so good when he has to be checked for sexually transmitted infections with a swab? or when you're nervously sitting waiting for the results of a pregnancy test and wondering if you are going to be a dad?
sensible people use condoms. People who don't want to use condoms should both be tested together for STIs and be using alternative contraception if they don't want to be parents BEFORE ditching the condoms.
i would really advise that you take go_aways links seriously and read them thoroughly, she knows what she is talking about.
to the original poster...don't rush it, good sex is about good foreplay for both of you, not just penetration.
Sexually transmitted infections
Unplanned pregnancy
Contraception
The bottom line is that dealing with any of this isn'[t pleasant. If you think you are mature enough to be having sex, you should be mature enough to learn about the risks and protect yourself against them.
This article provides more advice on deciding if you're ready for sex.
I will leave the thread open for now but if this irresponsible advice continues it will be closed.
Condoms were a definate no no for me, would have ruined the whole experience, because of this we had to find other ways to do it safely. We both got checked out for STI's and waited for the all clear before doing it. My g/f was using the pill anyway, so the whole pregnancy thing was pretty much sorted.
What ever you do to keep yourself safe, make sure you do it properly. Condoms aren't for everyone, but make sure you protect yourselves against STIs and unwanted pregnancy.