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exactly
no relationship can ever be a permement honeymoon, however if it goes to vilence or emotional blackmail then just leave
Glad to hear you're in a happy relationship now.
I agree with there being a line between being oversensitive when it comes to mental abuse but having endured that step over that line, you really begin to understand the difference. The remarks I got involved my intelligance, my appearance, my opinions and me being pathetic, vulnerable and weak. The physical was harming when my opinion didn't match, raising a hand to provoke a response, outlining his capabilities. Only when out of that I realised how 'pathetic' in a way I'd become. I was bubbly and confident once - suddenly I had no confidence in the things I said, I was quiet, withdrawn and tore my appearance and character to pieces when I was alone.
When asked why I stuck with him, I would say "He used to be really nice, he used to treat me really good once" and he had me slightly convinced that by overpowering me, he'd protect me if the need ever arose...yet nothing could protect me from him, then he overstepped the mark and I hated the sight of him and yet was terrified to tell him to leave me alone, then there was someone else who wanted to protect me from him and I managed to get out. Othewise..I'd have stayed if I had to go it alone.
Funny world, loopy minds
But it still continued. And I remember when I was a teenager, I always said i would not put up with it, I would definately leave it if it were to happen. And there I was taking the abuse over and over again. So what changed? It was because I was in love, and I thought he would change.
I wasn't totally sucked in tho, I left him for good, before he got a chance to put me in hospital.