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how come girls never approach...
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ok personallly for me.. unless its someone insanely attractive i never come on first... im physically attractive and i like catching their eye if they are staring when im not looking.. they turn their heads prtty fast ... OK now anyways... see ok this is how my situations are usually are:
a girl sees you..
they think that your attractive and start displaying subconcious body language
tell their friends how much they like u
tends to shy away from eye contact
*ok so now i get the point*
so i wait for the girl to approach me....
*a month or two later*
still no frikn approaching... just the same body signals conversations but varied
i see this as this... girls can send messages to a guy that they want him.... and the guy picks it up.. the guy approaches her or not.... but ultimately... girls have the grasp and final say of every greeting or acceptance... generally speaking
a girl sees you..
they think that your attractive and start displaying subconcious body language
tell their friends how much they like u
tends to shy away from eye contact
*ok so now i get the point*
so i wait for the girl to approach me....
*a month or two later*
still no frikn approaching... just the same body signals conversations but varied
i see this as this... girls can send messages to a guy that they want him.... and the guy picks it up.. the guy approaches her or not.... but ultimately... girls have the grasp and final say of every greeting or acceptance... generally speaking
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Malt xxx
Nah, as above, it dates back to the old theory of the Man being dominant and doing the work, whil the woman is there to be seduced and overcome by the man. What a load of twaddle...
The problem with that for girls though, is that if the girl doesn't get approached a lot, then she is even more stuck than a guy with no confidence because she apparently 'cant' do anything about it, whereas the guy can ask someone. At the end of the day, a guy can be asked out, or a girl can ask a guy out, but most people feel more comfortable with it the other way around. I know when I asked my girlfriend out I definately preferred it being me, same as with if I ever propose, I would like that to be something I do, not being proposed to, if you get what I mean.
Yes, but it such a situation the girl is creating her own problems by refusing to ask a guy out. Most people with normal emotions are afraid of rejection, the difference between men and women isn't the level of fear, but that men do it anyway whereas women often choose to opt out. Besides, I don't know any women who are never approached. Even my short, chubby friend with a moustache had men approach her on a semi-regular basis. Some men, out of a sense of masculinity perhaps, want to be the ones that 'take charge', but I think that's a minority view.
Still going with not getting them though! (What do you girls look for in a guy)?
If you wanna bag an nice and honest guy start doin the approaching yourself!!
I disagree. I think people with low confidence are often, not necissarily 'seeking' a girlfriend, but would jump at the chance. And it is off putting. People who aren't looking for a relationship normally look more relaxed, and thus more easy to talk to. I have confidence talking to people and yet I don't cheat on people lots.
Though there are a lot of people with such low confidence that they go out and cheat on their girlfriends to get an ego boost 'I can pull' etc etc.
If guys are going to mope in a corner peeking glances at girls they are not going to get approached, simple as unless you're gorgeous like me
If they're staring at you they either like you or are a bit weird. Or are thinking of the best way to mug you
Quite sad really, especially when its supposedly "sexy" when a girl takes control.
If you wont do it why should it be any easier for them?
Whether women should approach or not is irrelevant anyway - there are always gonna be guys who will which means girls don't have to.
So lads, you can either get in the game yourself or wait patiently until you meet someone where things just happen . . . either way it IS your choice. If you're really so struck by a fear of rejection that you can't even tell a girl you think she's fit then perhaps you're taking life too seriously and need to think about whats important in life . . .
Honestly, the very worst she can do is laugh in your face - hardly the end of the world, just say something sarcastic wander back to your mates and take the piss out of yourself. And to be honest that is not gonna happen . . . honestly!! Its never happened to me and i'm far from being the most attractive lad in any bar - at the very worst i've approached girls a bit up themselves who were plainly uninterested so i chatted to them for a bit,
told a joke or something to make them laugh and left them to it.
Get over yourselves and go approach the next hot girl you see!!!!! :mad: