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Its a case of simple human understanding . . . it doesn't matter how hot some one is - to know someone finds you attractive is nice . . . they're gonna feel flattered whether they show it to you or not.
Secondly people like confident people - they tend to be magnetic and if you're enjoying yourself and have a good time it will rub off on others.
Thirdly if people see you having a good time - they're gonna want to spend time with you and share in that
Fourthly people are suckers (ok this ones more cynical . . . but true) make them laugh or find some way to give them an innocent compliment - if you make someone feel good about themselves they're gonna want to spend time with you, its simple human nature, just don't go overboard.
No one gets everyone they go for, maybe not even most of the people they go for but you can still have fun along the way . . .even if you don't pull - you meet someone new, maybe make a new friend . . . whatever its all fun and games.
Oh yes, and confidence is a great thing. Confidence breeds more confidence, which breeds more confidence, which breeds... ah well, you get the idea!
I too have never been approached and don't have much confidence in approaching girls myself, although I will do it. I think, over time, the whole relationship thing may revolutionise and people might end up just not bothering. Is this why we see huge amounts of dating agencies these days and an increasing amount of single people perhaps? Why waste all that time and effort on fighting a losing battle (chatting up girls) when you may be on to a loser form the start? You could just be getting on with your life and reaping rewards from other more feasible things.
Approaching people on the Net? Doesn't take much confidence really...
But anyway, girls do approach guys, just not as much as guys approach girls. Just depends on the situation and the girl.
Nope, men will always approach girls and people will always have relationships. But you're onto something there, sort the rest of your life out and become successful and the girls will follow. Don't make girls the focus of your life, otherwise it'll never happen!
Did this guy have a TV camera with him by any chance, now thats a good way to approach women.
no on a serious note, girls are a pain in the ass for this but like someone mentioned i think there is a few that will make the first move i just wish everyone was liek that
.matt
An interesting point. You mention to become sucessful and then the girls will follow, isn't this indicative that they will only go for the guys that 'have it all' though? I would prefer for a girl to like me for me rather than like me for what I surround myself with. Besdies, my life has been very sucessful and I have lots going for me, hasn't really made much difference though!
Listen im no cassanova, but trust me when you are looking to pull/meet whatever, its all about confidence. Women fear rejection just as much as men yet we are meant to be the stronger sex so fair do's we have to just go out there and make the effort.
The attitude i allways take is to be confident, polite, friendly find a way of getting chatting to the girl. What i always think is 'Im making the effort to come talk to you, im a nice enough bloke, you would be stupid to turn me down' With that confident stance your bound to get somewhere even if you get rejected there are plenty more girls out there and i can guarantee one would respond more positive. If you get rejected badly by her taking the piss just be a gent walk away and maybe she will feel bad.
Girls love to be complemented when im chatting i allways try and compliment neutral things like 'car, choice of holiday etc.' You need to act friendly with them at first if you going to get anywhere with them. Show interest in what shes saying women love to be listened to! You just need to be open friendly and chatty and if you ask for her number say it like she wont turn you down!
Think about it your dad prob asked your mum out he had to be confident to do that so everyone should have the ability in there genes to be confident.
At the end of the day if you see a fit girl and think 'oh shes prob got a boyfriend' DONT MAKE EXCUSES, she may not have and if you try and fail at least you can say you tried, get out there and do it otherwise you will get nowhere!
Girls am i right?