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Hi,
Just need a bit of advice, or maybe sympathy or something!
I was out with a girl on Friday, been out with her before and had a one night stand previously. We were in a bar and it was going well, talking and being friendly etc.
Then we went on to a club, met up with my mates and she suddenly got really cold and started ignoring me talking to my friends only.
I tried talking to her a bit but after a while she just said ill be back in a minute and walked off, she never came back.
She ignored her phone then she turned it off.
This made me feel really bad because I really liked her and I thought she liked me!
Total bitch right?
I hate the way women constantly go on about how "men" are so bad, in fact they treat men far worse in my opinion.
Just need a bit of advice, or maybe sympathy or something!
I was out with a girl on Friday, been out with her before and had a one night stand previously. We were in a bar and it was going well, talking and being friendly etc.
Then we went on to a club, met up with my mates and she suddenly got really cold and started ignoring me talking to my friends only.
I tried talking to her a bit but after a while she just said ill be back in a minute and walked off, she never came back.
She ignored her phone then she turned it off.
This made me feel really bad because I really liked her and I thought she liked me!
Total bitch right?
I hate the way women constantly go on about how "men" are so bad, in fact they treat men far worse in my opinion.
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but *hugs* because i've also been on the resieving end of that and i know how horrible it is.
we aren't all like that, and not all the time. but i bet she was a lesbian anyway.
Thanks, yeh I know not everyone is but there are a lot of nasty girls about.
What really made me feel bad was that she seemed so nice and an all round cool person.
Plenty more fish in the sea I guess...well, I hope
Surely I'm not the only female on these boards who would be a little, ummm, disappointed, upset, offended etc if I were out with someone in the above circumstances and the guy's mates ended up on the scene?
From what you've said she was probably hurt that you met up with your mates when you were supposed to be with her.
Thanks dude. That's how I'm trying to look at it...
glad im not the only one who thought that!!!! :yes:
She knew in advance that they were going to be there, she even said that her friends were going to show up too!
She's a bitch, I was beating myself up about it but now I realise that she has the problem not me.
I agree with nicebutdim. It's a bit TOO odd for her to just switch behaviour unless she's an extremely bitchy wench who likes to string along then bugger off on the edge of boredom..could you have offended her in anyway i.e. ignored her when she was speaking to you, made her buy all the drinks, made her a drink using the leftovers on the tables around you...
Are you sure your friends didn't say anything, did you keep gawping out pretty young women around you...I'm just scraping the bottom of the barrel. To be honest, I feel severely bitchy wenches are more of a rarity without a motive..I'm lovely, lots of us womanly creatures are
Malt xxx
Though it's probably easier for you fi you decide it was her and not yourself.
We bought each other rounds of drinks, my friends weren't rude at all, if anything they were too nice.
She sent me a msg. today saying "Actually I'm not a particularly nice person. Sorry to lead you on, what can I say? Just forget it all."
It really was a propos of nothing and I felt really hurt by it, OK now though - Ive come to terms that it was all her and nothing to do with me.
Just needed some reassurance!
Yeah thanks. :mad:
I have however done this to a few lads in my past. It's usually something they do that makes me go off them, the way they look at me, how they dance of something atupid that puts me right off. I then spot other men and fancy them, this doesnt happend if I'm into the date. I usually make up something or go to the loo and fuck off.
This was a couple of years ago and I know it's quite mean.
So that makes it ok to hurt their feelings and be nasty?
How on earth was I a wanker?
Glad I'm not too fragile, I came looking for sympathy/reassurance - not much from the bitches, er I mean girls, on this board!
:crazyeyes
Ok that was harsh I'm sure you're all great. :thumb:
To be honest I don't think it was harsh (OMGoodness, how many times have I ever agreed with Fiend_85?!?)
I know that if I was in a similar position then I would've been quite upset too. The girl obviously had her wires crossed and thought that the 2 of you were going to have a night alone so it is no wonder she turned all distant and cold if it turned out to be a date with you and your friends.
I'm the first to admit that there are some girls who treat some guys like shit but I personally don't think this was the case here.
Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear but you have to see it from her perspective too.
Anyway, yes lots of guys r wankers, lots of girls are bitches. You didnt deserve to be walked out on without her explaining but most people are chicken.
You probably had an annoying (to her) little tic/walk/bogie that made her feel creepy.
It is obvious though otherwise she wouldn't have walked out methinks. She didn't realise that his mates were going to be there. He may've said this, I am not doubting that, but she may've thought that he was kidding or didn't really acknowledge what he was saying. This is why I mean "it was obvious she had her wires crossed". She was expecting something different.
This is the only (rational) explanation I can see about why she walked out on him.
I know that if I was on a night out with a guy and all his friends who I didn't know appeared out of the blue then I would've felt really awkward and may've done similar.
I reckon she's a slapper and realised exactly which one night stand you were, when she saw your mate and remebered he was the better shag.
Yep, that's it. You're a crap shag.
Just wanna say that it's not that I would never want to see him again (if I was in a similar situation) it's just that I would be completely thrown and panicked that I wouldn't know what to do in that situation.
However, I do see your point too.
I've realised that she's a total bitch, made me realise that even though there are many many very good looking girls out there, only a small proportion of them are worth bothering with. I'm gonna be careful who I go for from now on. So many slappas, hos and bitches about. Fuck her!
She was pretty crap in bed actually, worst shag all year , so there!
Secondly, if she does turn out to be a bitch don't tarnish all (even most) girls with this brush. We are not all like that.