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hi everyone-I was just wondering-my boyfreind wants to have anal sex-but someone told me it absolutely knackard the first time and then got betta-I love my bfriend so I 'd take the pain-but does anyone have an ideas or suggestions or anything on whats it is like-why I shud do it-or why I shudn't
thanx v. much
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thanx v. much
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j9
Anyway what ever you decide make sure you use condoms and good lube(KY Jelly's probably the best).
Have Fun.
To protect each other from STIs, and the bacteria that live in the bowel.
http://sexuality.about.com/health/sexuality/library/weekly/aa110298.htm
Goes through all the issues with links to more detailed pages discussing it all... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
There is a certain technique to making it hurt a lot less, I'd say you need to relax and not tense your anal muscles whilst its going on or it'll hurt like hell
[This message has been edited by Justin Credible (edited 22-05-2001).]
Go slow, go gentle, and go lubed.
It is all about relaxation, and if some idiot just goes shoving his dick in (after all, everyone knows it hurts, so might as well get it over and done with - after all they love me and they are making an offering of this pain as a token of that love, so I might as well collect as much of that as I can) when you are really tense (oh my flob, this is going to hurt, everyone knows that it hurts the first time, but I will stand it, I'll grit my teeth and take it) then it is going to hurt, and if you keep going at it that way it will hurt *every* time.
2 be honest it bloody kills 1st couple of times!
Why not tell him that you have had this long running fantasy to wear a 'strap on' and do a bloke up the bum, and see if he is prepared to put up with the pain for you. If he says no, well then you know, and if he says yes, then at least you know he would be prepared to do it (or he is a little twisted, depending on what was you think.)
All in all, it has to be your choice and on your conditions, one recomendation is that you dont let him thrusat into you, you reverse onto him, this way you control the force and depth, but to be honest, he is probably on a power kick and sees it as a way to control you and have dominance over you in the beadroom, but hey, some people like that.
I say USE LUBE, go to the toilet BEFORE you are going to do it (preferably have a shower) oh and you know toilet brushs, they aren't really for cleaning toilets, they're for poking up your rectum to clean it out ready for anal. HONEST!!
Anyways, have fun!
One thing, I'm curious... WHY DOES IT HURT THE FIRST FEW TIMES and not the rest? Oh and how safe is rimming? Just curious... don't normally think about these things, but since this post is on the subject...
i just saw this...hmm, can't help laughing at the thought of her searching for anal sex. i mean, c'mon j9, what WERE u thinking <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
*goes and does his own search for anal sex...just to see what the help sites have to say about it, naturally <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">*
Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
My ex only ever wanted to have anal sex and just shoved right into me without any lube or anything. Not only was it really hard for him to get inside me but it hurt like hell. I didn't let him do anything after that because it showed what a jerk he was... basically on a power trip.
My bf now starts off super slow and gentle and slowly builds it up... it's absolutely amazing. It is a bit like losing your virginity every time, and if I'm in the right mood it's better than vaginal sex.
Rimming is pretty dirty and i don't really think it's that safe. I mean, how safe can sucking someones ass be?
I think you're supposed to use, like, a really strong mouthwash afterwards, to kill the germs and take that taste out of your mouth <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
The last beutiful free soul on this planet.
Actually I remember reading about something called a 'Dental dam' ages ago it was a peice of latex you can use between the vagina and mouth so I assume it could be used with rimming. Not sure, and where the hell do you get those dams anyway, I've never seen them ANYWHERE ever!!
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You probably don't want to know, but since you asked...
Fleching is sucking your own cum out of your partners ass.
Yummy <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
In your sad machines you'll forever stay, desperate and displeased, with whoever you are.
but I think I'll give it a miss, unless you're up for if Jeffrey me old mate? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">
Well there another term I now know! Aren't i going to be the envy of everyone. I really didn't think I could find anything to top 'Rainbow kisses' but I think I just did.
I'd rather not, as i've said in other posts, I hate the taste of cum.
In your sad machines you'll forever stay, desperate and displeased, with whoever you are.
Don't ask!
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~ the late, great Douglas Adams
You've lost me now. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"> What's sounding?
In your sad machines you'll forever stay, desperate and displeased, with whoever you are.