anal?

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hi everyone-I was just wondering-my boyfreind wants to have anal sex-but someone told me it absolutely knackard the first time and then got betta-I love my bfriend so I 'd take the pain-but does anyone have an ideas or suggestions or anything on whats it is like-why I shud do it-or why I shudn't
thanx v. much
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Welcome to thesite Kathster, if you go to the search section & do a search on anal, I'm sure you will come up with a multitude of answers <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
j9

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well it will hurt like hell first time but it does get better if u ask anyone theywill tell you. My girlfriend and i did and it hurt her the first time but it doesn't hurt anymore.

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In my opinion you should think carefully about why you want to do it, and if it's more to please your boyfriend than because you want to, I'd say don't go for it. It might feel ok at the moment but if you split up anytime soon you'll probably feel bad about letting him use your body, even though you agreed to it - that maybe doesn't make a lot of sense but trust me, you can end up feeling it.

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I can honestly say that it will hurt more depending on how big his knob is. If its fairly large i'd tell him there's no way he was going stick it up my arse! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;
Anyway what ever you decide make sure you use condoms and good lube(KY Jelly's probably the best).

Have Fun.

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if you don't want to do then don't. Think about yourself. Don't let your boy friend bully you into something that makes you feel uncomfortable. If it's something you might want to try then go ahead but let anyone make decisions for you make up your own mind.

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My GF said it hurt like hell the first couple of times, but use a lubricant(NOT vaseline-It damages condoms and your insides) from the chemist and you'll be sound after a couple of bashes. just go easy the 1st few times.My GF loves it now. she said it's like losing your virginity every day!

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I was thinking of trying it with my boyf too, why should you use condoms, is there a particular reason?? I was just wondering!!

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Originally posted by PussyCat:
I was thinking of trying it with my boyf too, why should you use condoms, is there a particular reason?? I was just wondering!!

To protect each other from STIs, and the bacteria that live in the bowel.

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Heres a link that might prove useful to you:
http://sexuality.about.com/health/sexuality/library/weekly/aa110298.htm

Goes through all the issues with links to more detailed pages discussing it all... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

There is a certain technique to making it hurt a lot less, I'd say you need to relax and not tense your anal muscles whilst its going on or it'll hurt like hell

[This message has been edited by Justin Credible (edited 22-05-2001).]

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There is no *good* reason for it to hurt more the first time than any other time.

Go slow, go gentle, and go lubed.

It is all about relaxation, and if some idiot just goes shoving his dick in (after all, everyone knows it hurts, so might as well get it over and done with - after all they love me and they are making an offering of this pain as a token of that love, so I might as well collect as much of that as I can) when you are really tense (oh my flob, this is going to hurt, everyone knows that it hurts the first time, but I will stand it, I'll grit my teeth and take it) then it is going to hurt, and if you keep going at it that way it will hurt *every* time.

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maybe its just me but i dint understand that!!

2 be honest it bloody kills 1st couple of times!

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PING. An idea just popped into my head. And no, it didnt hurt)

Why not tell him that you have had this long running fantasy to wear a 'strap on' and do a bloke up the bum, and see if he is prepared to put up with the pain for you. If he says no, well then you know, and if he says yes, then at least you know he would be prepared to do it (or he is a little twisted, depending on what was you think.)

All in all, it has to be your choice and on your conditions, one recomendation is that you dont let him thrusat into you, you reverse onto him, this way you control the force and depth, but to be honest, he is probably on a power kick and sees it as a way to control you and have dominance over you in the beadroom, but hey, some people like that.

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Personally never done it, but a finger up the bum at a crucial moment never hurt, and if anything heightens the enjoyment. There are a lot of nerve endings around the anus.

I say USE LUBE, go to the toilet BEFORE you are going to do it (preferably have a shower) oh and you know toilet brushs, they aren't really for cleaning toilets, they're for poking up your rectum to clean it out ready for anal. HONEST!!

Anyways, have fun!

One thing, I'm curious... WHY DOES IT HURT THE FIRST FEW TIMES and not the rest? Oh and how safe is rimming? Just curious... don't normally think about these things, but since this post is on the subject...

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Originally posted by j9j9:
Welcome to thesite Kathster, if you go to the search section & do a search on anal, I'm sure you will come up with a multitude of answers <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
j9

i just saw this...hmm, can't help laughing at the thought of her searching for anal sex. i mean, c'mon j9, what WERE u thinking <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

*goes and does his own search for anal sex...just to see what the help sites have to say about it, naturally <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">*

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What everybody's saying is completely true. Go slow, use lube, be sure you want to do it.

My ex only ever wanted to have anal sex and just shoved right into me without any lube or anything. Not only was it really hard for him to get inside me but it hurt like hell. I didn't let him do anything after that because it showed what a jerk he was... basically on a power trip.

My bf now starts off super slow and gentle and slowly builds it up... it's absolutely amazing. It is a bit like losing your virginity every time, and if I'm in the right mood it's better than vaginal sex.

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Originally posted by Insane:
Oh and how safe is rimming? Just curious... don't normally think about these things, but since this post is on the subject...

Rimming is pretty dirty and i don't really think it's that safe. I mean, how safe can sucking someones ass be?

I think you're supposed to use, like, a really strong mouthwash afterwards, to kill the germs and take that taste out of your mouth <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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Okay, I just like to know details of anything, because nothing shocks me and people are often asking "WTF does [sexual term] mean?" and I can answer and give details... I get some funny looks sometimes. But, its better to know full well whats going on and the risks of doing anything!

Actually I remember reading about something called a 'Dental dam' ages ago it was a peice of latex you can use between the vagina and mouth so I assume it could be used with rimming. Not sure, and where the hell do you get those dams anyway, I've never seen them ANYWHERE ever!!

Girl-From-Mars

yeah ive heard about dental dams too. i think rimming's pretty rank tbh.

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I have no interest in it either GFM but I just like to know the in's and out's about everything. (In this case the outs). No harm in asking anyway.

Girl-From-Mars

i know what you mean insane, im the same!

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... then you've got felching (which is totally discusting in both contexts) which has two meanings...

etc. etc.

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Sorry, being thick!! Whats felching?? Or don't I want to know??!!!!

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Yes please explain...

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Originally posted by PussyCat:
Whats felching?? Or don't I want to know??!!!!

You probably don't want to know, but since you asked...

Fleching is sucking your own cum out of your partners ass.

Yummy <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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Yummy indeed...

but I think I'll give it a miss, unless you're up for if Jeffrey me old mate? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

Well there another term I now know! Aren't i going to be the envy of everyone. I really didn't think I could find anything to top 'Rainbow kisses' but I think I just did.

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Originally posted by Insane:
but I think I'll give it a miss, unless you're up for if Jeffrey me old mate?

I'd rather not, as i've said in other posts, I hate the taste of cum.

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Rainbow kisses?

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Originally posted by amadee:
Rainbow kisses?

Don't ask!

Girl-From-Mars

what about sounding then? that makes ME cringe and im just a girl... and no im not telling you unless i absolutely have to!!

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Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
what about sounding then?

You've lost me now. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; What's sounding?

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