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Loneliness is the worst feeling in the world, because one can never see any hope from it. If you want to PM me I'm often about, and I won't say I "understand" because I'm not you so I don't, but I suffer from similar things sometimes. This place isn't the real world, but it's a start, and real things can develop from here- my wife to be and my best man are from here, sad as it sounds.
I know that your comments probably weren't meant for me, but they were helpful all the same. Weekend hobby? I'd like that. Beats spending Saturdays in my bedroom crying and Sundays just walking the dog and reading the very large newspapers. Volunteering? Everyone tells me that, maybe there's something in it. Mountain biking? I love this idea!
What bloody expectations? I'm getting thoroughly annoyed of people constantly commenting on this supposed idea that my expectations are somehow too high. Sadly, I don't have any friends to ask myself, so that's out of the window straight away. I know your advice wasn't meant for me, but thanks all the same.
gave me a different perspective about a few things.
this kind of work isn't a chore ...it's revealing.
That makes a shit load of sense to me, you don't get nothing if you don't put something in.
Lot of us have become lazy and selish, that's big reason why I have lost lot of my friends. Haven't made the time for them, haven't gone down the pub with them, haven't listen to them - In short, I've lost touch with the real world cos I'm a slacker when it comes to friends.
And friendship is a fuckin hard cookie to crack, but if it does start to crack, its even harder to mend. But I think you should try again with your friends instead of trying to make new ones.
Pick an old friend off your mob, one that you've know for ages and can remember alot of shit about them. Once you know what it is they really like, do something nice and treat them to it. (with you going along of course!) Maybe if you can, open up to them about how you feel and ask if you can go out with them more. One to One, it should be easier to talk etc.
It may not be to you liking, pleading with your mates to let you back into the fold. But it might be eaiser then trying to make new friends.
Well kind of shit are you interested in? Change job or something, meet new people who have similar interests. My main thing is probably smoking weed/taking drugs which aligns me to various social groups, gives good opportunity to meet people etc.
If you're really stuck then start again...move to london, go to uni...etc etc.
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Do It - the best place to start!
is anyone going to follow any of this stuff up or what then?
Nope.
Takes more guts than I've got.