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Ive got no friends
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Im sitting here crying because ive got no friends. I work in an office by myself, no one else around me, at least i get to listen to music.
Ive got over 100 numbers in my mobile and upon calling at least 50 of them im either presented with people hanging up on me before its finished ringing or the phone just continues to ring and then goes to voice mail. i can understand a few people not answering but 50 of them?
No one ever calls me, or emails, i dont even get texts, the only text messages i get are from companies telling me ive one lots of money and have to call an expensive number to get it.
This whole weekend ive been in my room by myself, ive got no where to go, and even if i did it'd be by myself cos i got no friends.
Its not through lack of trying, i call people and text them and write them letters but no one ever responds back, im a nice person people get on with me at work when i speak to them, but no one ever keeps in contact with me or wants to see me.
I just want to die to end this horrible lonelyness, hell i dont even have one friend to tell how im feeling thats why im writting this on a bloody forum!
Ive got over 100 numbers in my mobile and upon calling at least 50 of them im either presented with people hanging up on me before its finished ringing or the phone just continues to ring and then goes to voice mail. i can understand a few people not answering but 50 of them?
No one ever calls me, or emails, i dont even get texts, the only text messages i get are from companies telling me ive one lots of money and have to call an expensive number to get it.
This whole weekend ive been in my room by myself, ive got no where to go, and even if i did it'd be by myself cos i got no friends.
Its not through lack of trying, i call people and text them and write them letters but no one ever responds back, im a nice person people get on with me at work when i speak to them, but no one ever keeps in contact with me or wants to see me.
I just want to die to end this horrible lonelyness, hell i dont even have one friend to tell how im feeling thats why im writting this on a bloody forum!
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Hang in there.
I can relate to you and hopefully knowing that you aren't the only person out there feeling like that, might make the pain easier.
That said, there isn't much I or anyone else on here can do apart from listen and who knows, you may have good time on here & make some friends, and who knows what could come from that!
It's a start at least, you may feel you're at rock bottom but now's the time to change that. This site can be what you want it to be, so spend some time here and enjoy!
:yeees:
Never as easy as that.
Nope... but he's not going to make friends sitting at home and the timing is just about right to go do an evening class!!
Aye, definitely.
the hardest thing about making friends is actually thinking that you can:(
Don't say you want to die, try to keep things in perspective. You'll be alright. Honestly. Things will work out. But if you go and die then you'll never see the day when you are happy and have loads of mates around you. It's worth waiting for.
camping comes to mind cos it gets a group of people together in a completely different environment than the usual day to day kind.
the physical closeness is different and the shared activities and responsibilities ...the exploring and cooking ...fetching water ...sitiing round a fire with a can or three ...
just an idea.
feel free to shoot me if i'm out of line here.
And there are always people here to talk to, it is not the perfect substitute for personal contact with friends, but it's a start, and by chatting on here you can gain confidence in yourself and not feel completely alone.
it will be worth it ...in the long run ...of that i am sure.
Actually the evening class idea is not so bad, I've made some very good friends whilst studying over the years.
Other good places to meet people are churches, sports clubs, volunteering, working behind a bar. All these I've done, not to meet new people I admit but I did make some good friends.
Working in a bar is not an option, i like money...even if i have no one to spend it on/with.
I dont want people i just chat to when i see them i want proper friends who call me and care and txt me and go out places with me.
Its not easy making friends, you cant just walk up to someone in a club and say 'wana be my friend'.
Even having a girl like me would cheer me up, but none of them do, they just tell me how great and wonderful i am and how badly treated i am by everyone then bugger off never to be seen again.
You have said you want people to care about you, not just people you chat with occasionally, but you are going to have to start at the acquataince stage to get to the caring bit. That's is how a lot of friendship start, you start talking, you start to go out more, you see each other a lot more, then it starts to develop. And unfortunately a lot of set backs may come along the way, which can really get you down, but you have to accept that fact.
Do you live on your own? or with your family, do you have bros and sis?
I personally find clubbing is a good way to meet people, especially in the chill out room, where people are just sitting around and conversations just happen, a lot of it is superficial i admit, it may just be for one night and 90% of people don't become great friends, but a few have....
you first go through the small talk ...the occasional drink that means nothing at all ...you help someone out ...with words or time or even money ...dare i say.
you give people your time ...you give people ...yourself. with no expectations or rules.
that way ...people begin to get to know you ...understand you ...discover you care about people ...
serious question ...why?
are you thinking to much about yourself ...your needs and wants ...your problems.
why life doesn't seem to deliver YOUR expectations?
being trapped in self seriously cuts off interaction between you and the rest of the world.
Good question, and it is one I cannot answer. I'd love to get out there and have some fun, but I have no friends. I've got all the social skills of a piece of wood.
What in the name of Santa Claus's beard are you on about now?
is there a chance that your social skills are lacking?
is there a chance that your expecting to much from others?
expecting certain behaviour toward you that isn't necessarily due?
all the other kids seem to have been interacting with each other ...they wouldn't knowingly decide to leave you out enmasse.
maybe you are the one who is opting out becuase nothing and nobody meet YOUR expectations?
enlighten me.
Help comes to those who HELP THEMSELVES!!! :yes:
Quit whining and go out and meet people!
ridiculous cruel and insesative.
oh and dumb.
Oh yes hang on, let me walk up to the first stranger i meet and start talking to them, im sure they wont mind me just doing that and will become my good friend.
*slaps cheak* if only i realised sooner how easy it is.
People say friendship is a two way thing, funny that, im always the one that calls people i know, they never call me, guess they dont really wana be my friend...when they do at least answer the phone. Its not like i dont put in the effort, i put in lots, but no one ever puts in anything positive my way