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Marriige is it really worth it?
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now i know this sounds stupid but from what i've een in my short time on this crazy lanet (20 years and a bit) from what i can see some people should jsut not get maried and from what i've seen using my parents as an example marrige has jsut ruined them not jsut emotionally but financially also
another thing in my opinion i dont think i could ask someone to marry me if i loved them that much as i wouldnt want to hurt them if something happened to me is this just me being too cautious
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ps. sorry one of things that jsut came to me that i had to say just ignore me
another thing in my opinion i dont think i could ask someone to marry me if i loved them that much as i wouldnt want to hurt them if something happened to me is this just me being too cautious
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ps. sorry one of things that jsut came to me that i had to say just ignore me
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my parents will have been married 30 years next year, and my grandparents have been married 58 years and are still crazy about each other, despite the fact that my grandma is bordering on senile, and my grandad is losing control of his faculties. that's true love.
when you have been through the ups and downs ...especialy the downs ...and your STILL there for each other ...it's wonderful to be able to look back ...like reading a book of your lives and being able to give advice to your kids thats actualy based on something.
why do you need a contract to prove you love eachother??
Can someone make you marry them?? (ive asked a few friends about this and of course they say no, you can't make someone marry you) But I'm still worried that it is possible. What if the person has your parents consent and everything? and you've told the person NO, time and time again, can they force you to marry them? Sorry this is a lame question but I just need a bit of reassurance that there's no way it's possible.
God no, nothing that serious. :no: I was just wondering, just for the sake of wondering.....
but it works for us ...keeps us on our toes ...teaches each other so many different things.
i couldn't hae married someone who liked the same music the same places the samey samey ...bit of spice.
(...yeah, a-level french did teach me some things...)
the reason i know about the legal advantages of marriage versus cohabitation is because of a project we did in french a-level, so i could probably tell you all about it in french.
if i could remember.
Good job there's no plans of marriage on the horizon then;)
gives me soemthign to do while off work sick lol
that should give you some idea...what i had for french was better though, it compared everything. if i cba to get my french stuff out before this thread dies, ill get that for you.
this next paragraph comes from another article on the above site about co-habiting partners.
If one of us dies, how much property will the survivor inherit? Usually nothing, unless the deceased partner made a will or used another estate planning device such as a living trust or joint tenancy agreement. In a very few states -- California, Hawaii and Vermont -- registered domestic partners may automatically inherit a portion of a deceased partner's property, but domestic partnership laws carry numerous restrictions and are by no means the safest or easiest way to plan for inheritance. The bottom line is simple: to protect the person you live with, you should specifically leave property using a will, living trust or other legal document
Of course some people get coerced into it or pressurised, and of course there are arranged marriages, but none of it happens without both parties saying `I do`.
Obviously it's about so much more than that, but the fact that someone would be willing to commit to spend the rest of their life to being with me, that's just so unbelievably hard to get my head around.
At the mo, I'm well insecure about women and stuff, so I suppose marriage would mean a lot more to me than a bit of paper.
Och, I know what I mean.
Yeah, hills as in streets near my house. My friend's cousin was pretty much forced into marrying a girl he got pregnant, by both sets of parents. I felt so sorry for him. Granted he should have been more careful, but it's not necessary for them to marry, just for him to be there.
Anyhoo, I'm of the view that marriage is right for some people and not others, and that it's not something to be taken lightly at all. I can't comment anymore than that really, I don't have personal experience and the marriages around me (family, friends..) have been a mixed bag, some terrible, some amazing and a lot inbetween.