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for a friends birthday and paying for a lap dance.
right/wrong/cheating/not cheating
discuss please...
right/wrong/cheating/not cheating
discuss please...
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when they've let a naked woman, no, when they've paid for a naked woman to stroke their head and their arms and their chests?
even if it was just because they didnt want to be the only one to not have one?
It's just not worth the earache. I'm not cheating, and I don't see the harm in it.
Of course it'd be fine for women to go and see the Chippendales or something :rolleyes:
Watching a bird get naked with ya mates for a laugh is no way cheating.. nor is having a private dance, slapping their arse or having rub them selfs in your face.
I think most woman exaggerate what's right and what's wrong.
Its a long distance thing, and I think the girlfrind would have prefered this interaction than going out and pulling some random girl to get a fix when she wasnt around. Nit sure if that makes it right or just not-as-wrong though...
it wouldn't be the happiest moment of my life, but i'd let him go.
of course, the sensible thing for him then to do is to come home from the strip club and tell me that none of the girls even compared to me, no matter how gorgeous they may have been.
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Correct.
Women want equal rights, but would anyone ever consider some random bint getting a stripper for her hen night as cheating? There's a slight difference, but it's the same principle.
Not meaning to sound sexist, but I hate it when women take the moral high ground, and start laying down the law. If a guy did that, then all her stupid Lambrini girly mates would be telling her to ditch him and all that shit.
Women aren't really bothered about it anyway, they just seem to take any opportunity to moan and be awkward.
But in principle I don't see a problem as long as it was your mate your going for, not yourself. And its not much different from watching some of those explicit chick flicks that the missus would pobably be watching whilst you're out.
I just wouldn't do it myself.
Theyre my personal feelings, but each relationship is different and has different boundaries. Im not saying what another person should do in that situation. I know id be freaked out by it and it would severely test the relationship, I have enough self esteem issues as it is.
As for chippendales or dreamboys, Ive never seen the appeal there either. My mate keeps wanting me to go, but I cant think of anything more embarrassing or seedy.
I agree.
My boyfriend has video porn on his phone, naked women all over his walls etc He hasnt been to a strip club yet but I think id be the same as Kaff.
Id feel a bit low inside and stuff but id get over it and it's not that big a deal.
Men think differently to women, we always have to think emotionally where as men are more physically minded.
I say not cheating because it's just a bit of fun and such to celebrate your friends birthday. Anyone can disagree with me, but think that it is not cheating at all, but just a day to celebrate your friends' birthday.
Its only a problem if hes always doing it.
Theres also the fact that male and female strippers are treated completely differently, when you go to like a hen night and see a man stripping all the women are screaming and giggling, whereas at a strip club the men just sit there staring, lapping it all up and taking it really seriously like they're storing it all up for masturbation purposes later on. Lets face it, if women acted that way when they saw a man stripping then I'm sure their boyfriends would NOT be happy.
Actually I might have changed my mind.....hmmm I cant decide now.
I kinda agree with this. I don't see the big appeal, but like Vinyl Vicky previously said, men are more physically minded. He would have to tell me though and he should only be going when its a stag night or mates birthday....not the regular saturday night out....that would annoy me. However, on the other hand, if your partner loves you that much why does he need to look at other women? So in a sense it is cheating but just mentally seeing as the chances are that they won't hook up with the stripper afterwards.
Women scream at anything. Every time you see highlights of a pop gig on TV there's masses of of the stupid bitches screaming so loud they can't actually hear the music. Or the other week when I was out and saw six armed robberies. The men stood there looking tough and taking it like, well... men, while the birds just cowered in a corner and shreiked. Nice plan, dumbasses, piss the guy with a gun off so much he's gonna bust a cap in yo' ass to shut you the fuck up!
I really, really wouldn't care.
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If the partner is fine about it then its all well and good, but if shes not OK about it, then he shouldnt go. If my partner was absolutely dead set against me doing something and had good reason, then I probably wouldnt do it. I expect the same consideration in return, otherwise whats the point of being in a relationship.
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I'd be the same... if they had good reason. In this case, there isn't good reason - it's not cheating.
In my opinion it isnt cheating, no more than having a sly wank at a porn mag is. So what if shes naked, and gyrating around him- he cant touch, he cant get involved, so where exactly is the problem? All it is is looking at another girl with no clothes on, big deal. The only problems start if a man would always rather be watching a lap dance than being with his girlfriend, the occasional gander at a bit of naked flesh never did anybody any harm.
Though if a partner is dead set against the other doing somnething, and the other goes off and does it anyway, then that couple have problems. Then it comes down to respecting the other partner's wishes, and if there isn't respect in a relationship then it is doomed.
Though I do agree with Vinyl Vicky- when you see these strippers on the telly they, without fail, have faces like a sack of spanners.
what do you mean 'in this case'?
I dont believe anyone can give a precise answer due to no one knowing the relationship between this hypothetical couple. I dont think you can go just on what happened, but rather who it happened too also. and the question was whether or not it was right, or wrong, as well as whether people would consider it cheating or not.
sorry if i've missed something, just from reading it it sounded like you know something i dont
In this case, as in the whole strip club thing, 'cause there isn't a good reason to object to it.
I think if I was a girl, I'd be more worried if my bloke was going to a normal pub/club and potientially getting off with/making contact with loads of other girls. Not that it'd be much of a concern anyway.
At least you know he aint cheating on you, especially, seeing as there's a no touch policy, and no-one ever pulls in a strip club.
Women are very, very good at double standards.