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A quick question or two about sleeping together
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No, this shouldn't be in Sex, it's not what you think!
I've recently moved into an apartment with my girlfriend and am therefore sharing my bed on a more regular basis. At home, in my single, I'd mostly sleep on my right hand side, towards the open (non-wall) side of the bed, legs slightly bent in a kind of foetal position or occasionally face down so I almost suffocate. Now I find myself unfairly annexed to the left hand side of the bed (from the pillow end looking down), I've switched sides to face outwards so I'm back to back with my girlfriend and I'm constantly waking up. I hope it gets better with time!
So, to you I ask:
What side of the bed do you sleep on?
What position do you sleep in?
Is that the same when you're sharing the bed as when you're by yourself?
What's your position relative to any other occupants? Do you think this has any meaning for the two of you? Having your back to them: rude?
I've recently moved into an apartment with my girlfriend and am therefore sharing my bed on a more regular basis. At home, in my single, I'd mostly sleep on my right hand side, towards the open (non-wall) side of the bed, legs slightly bent in a kind of foetal position or occasionally face down so I almost suffocate. Now I find myself unfairly annexed to the left hand side of the bed (from the pillow end looking down), I've switched sides to face outwards so I'm back to back with my girlfriend and I'm constantly waking up. I hope it gets better with time!
So, to you I ask:
What side of the bed do you sleep on?
What position do you sleep in?
Is that the same when you're sharing the bed as when you're by yourself?
What's your position relative to any other occupants? Do you think this has any meaning for the two of you? Having your back to them: rude?
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When I first started sharing a bed with exes, I always had rubbish sleep at first. It does change with time and you find a sync.
It's blatantly not that either!
Oh dear, will everyone else ignore the questions as well?
I sleep on the right side of my double bed at home, facing the middle, with my knees slightly curled up towards my chest. My single bed at uni was side on against a wall, I slept with my back against the wall facing the room, knees up again. When I shared that I shuffled over to the other side, still facing outwards, inevitably with back to my man as it was the only way had any hope of sleeping.
Was never really a problem, I need me space to sleep.
however in single beds its pretty shit at first! i sleep on the outside so i'm not squashed against the wall. you do get used to it though.
lol ok I only asnwered 1 question.
I sleep in the middle of the bed
no 2 nights are the same, which ever position feels comfy at the time
sharing isnt the same, it is proven that sharing a bed, effects your sleep and there is some statistic that states how many more times you move around in bed when sharing
Is that a come on? :hyper:
no it wasnt! :angel:
2) Usually I sleep on my side (knees a bit bend), with my bent arm underneath the pillow, but imagine now, that you lean a bit more in stomachwise. On both sides, actually I switch sides constantly before I fall asleep, (and I think while sleeping too).
3) When sleeping with someone in bed (lets say sex-partner), there aren't any rules. Usually I try to face them, especially when talking (d'oh), but if there is not talking I just turn around etc.
Oh, yeah... there is this funny story, when I was sharing this bed with the londoner girl (I am austrian), and she spooned me. and I always jiggled a bit more to the open side, and she (in her sleep) always caught up. When I finally woke up, because I was almost falling out, I woke her veeeeery dizzy (I can't even tell you my name, when waking up), told her, "He, kannst du ein bissl rücken, ich fall gleich raus." Yes... I talked in german to her. she looked at me puzzled, "huh?". Am I talking that unclearly? I repeated that sentence in german once more, until it dawned on me.. "oh... ehh, could you move a bit more to the center of the bed, I am about to fall out. ha!
In winter when it's really cold, I put every corner of the blanket and pull it underneath me, sleeping in fetal, effectively making me a turtle
It wasn't me miss, or at least I don't remember it!
I do remember what you look like though. :flirt:
Basically I need a feeling of freedom to sleep, I hate proximity and have never been able to sleep "spooning" or anything like that, which some of my exes have taken offense to.
If I have the bed to myself I'll be closer to the middle, but still on the left hand side-ish... and usually spreadeagled like a big, greedy bedhog. It's a thing of beauty having a double bed to yourself :thumb:
Loving your German story; I like the Austrians, I was on a university field trip to the mountains in the Tyrol and everyone I met was immensely friendly and helpful even though I couldn't speak a word of German.
The turtle formation is genius!
If he isn't here then I adapt the same position as my cats then sleep where he sleeps!
Sleeping issues= health & well being...
So moving it there
Good God, you were serious!
Stick a fork in it, this thread's done!
lol, everyone seems to love the austrians and I can't understand specifically why :chin: Like we did some aphrodisiac in your drinking water
tbh: vienna is - as far as I can judge - the worst part of austria. I mean it's great to go out and stuff and it's actually a rad city, but the amount of dicks walking around here is uncanny.
next thesite meet -> vienna :hyper:
although i always wake up on my back x
I sleep on the left hand side curled up, facing outwards, That's how I'm comfiest but, If i was sharing a bed and I liked the person, Then I would face there way.
I do think the position you mostly sleep in has a meaning
In the night i'll normally wake up too warm with us stuck together with sweat or something (nice..) and change sides to face the outside of the bed and he'll normally curl round me in a spooning like position.
Its quite restricting in a single bed, but i sleep well enough when i finally decide to go to sleep, whereas when im alone in a bed it can take me hours. A security thing maybe?
That's immensely cute, and nothing like my two in a single experiences, that, hopefully, are now behind me.
Having said that, we have a cali king sized bed. Nondisturbing coil mattress with a memory foam top cover. Its unnaturally comfortable. I couldn't imagine sharing a bed in anything less than a queen. How horrible
I sleep on the window side and he sleeps on the door side, he always did so when I came into the picture I just took what side of the bed was left. I sleep facing one wall and he usually faces the other, so backs to eachother, except for this last week when he faced me, crossed the barrier and snored right in my ear. He usually doesn't snore, but of course when he would, he would be breathing down my neck with it.
There has been some abuse in bed. One night whilst I sleep I reached across the barrier, stole his pillow and punched him in the chin and made him bleed. Another night I poked him in the eye. This doesn't include the various kickings, kneeings and slappings towards him. My stuffed Simba will also beat him. I've been known to throw him on Ed's face.
Theres also the random outbursts of "NO, NO MUSTARD!" and mumbling thruout the night and occasionaly I get very gassy.
I, however, always sleep so well.
At least I don't choke him with the sheets anymore.
Though I guess I'm stuck more on the sharing side of things as opposed to sleeping alone.
It would begin with "The time we were 4 peeps in my bed...."
tony, nadine, raphi and me.
some stuff better be untold.