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I expect this has been done before but not that i've seen recently, so if it has then I'm reviving it, if not then wahey new topic,
Thought it would be interesting to see views on long distance relationships, who's in one? if not would you ever? if you are, how do you get over the distance? what do you do when you meet up?
I personally am In a long distance relationship have been 7months next tuesday.
I have MSN and phone so I'm hardly ever out of contact, but still the longing to be in her arms is still hard to deal with.
Thought it would be interesting to see views on long distance relationships, who's in one? if not would you ever? if you are, how do you get over the distance? what do you do when you meet up?
I personally am In a long distance relationship have been 7months next tuesday.
I have MSN and phone so I'm hardly ever out of contact, but still the longing to be in her arms is still hard to deal with.
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LDRs can work if both parties are fully committed. I did it for a while, over a considerable distance. Yes, it's hard but we were both committed.
As littlemissy said, if the commitment is there and you have enough love and trust between you it can work - with effort. I think it'd be easier to sustain if you were together and then had to move due to circumstances or whatever (which was my situation) rather than meeting while you were already settled far apart, but since I've only been in the former situation I can't really say for sure..
If i really did like the guy enough and he was serious about it i don't think i would out rule the possibility of giving it a go, but i'm not sure it would last too long.
I don't find it hard, actually I kind of like it. We still see each other at least every weekend.
Its good for me...stops me freaking out about commitment issues and what have you and it means I look forward to seeing her more.
Anticipation is a fucking amazing aphrodisiac!
:yes: Same. But It really depends on how long the distance is.
i aint finding it that hard, dont get me wrong, i miss her during the week etc.. but it just means the time you get together is extra special.
its certainly worth the travel and the wait.
I'll second that lol
Basically, Long distance relationships break hearts and leave you miserable!!! In My Opinion!!!
i love him to bits, and would feel the same if he lived next door or in australia!
They can do, just like a relationship with someone in the same city as you. LDRs can work. Mine was a commute between Sheffield and Edinburgh and now we are married and live together. A friend did it between Edinburgh and Belfast and are now living together in Oz. David knows of a couple who did it transatlantic and they now live together in England. They *can* work. Just like any relationship.
That's really inspiring, it seems that, from reading this, long distance relationships generally last for a long time, whether that's because you don't see them all time and therefore don't get sick of them as easy, or you don't have the time to argue I don't know.
Gee... she sounds quite a catch... and it also sounds like you are far better off without her! Try not to get down even though it's hard... get out and do stuff to just completely distract you... there will be someone else in the future far worthier of you.
dont get me wrong, when we were together it was mostly brilliant. i wouldnt have one again though. but u have to try these things for ur self.
That's exactly how I feel about my relationship with my boyfriend. Although I miss him to bits we speak every night and it makes us realise how special our relationship is. I definitely appreciate him a lot more than if he lived a few minutes away from me, i think i'd probably end up taking him for granted.
:yes: I won't go into a LDR either. (I have been advised against it and the person who mentioned it, was in a LDR [internet] before he met his current partner)
See, I used to think like you but then I found myself in a funny situation where I met this wonderful guy but he lived 250 miles away from me. However, I wasn't keen to let him go so we made the most of a bad situation. And it worked out well.