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it's nice when you can get a bit of banter going with someone randomly. I am not the kind of girl that will ever give my number to a guy that I don't see regularly and is genuinely a mate of mine. but talking to people, maybe in the queue at a post office would really build your confidence. Maybe if you spotted a reverend in the lunch queue at your local PO you could say to the lovely lady behind you. "he must be here for births marriages and deaths while we're waiting" haha chortle.
I'm With Stupid wrote:
If you just start talking to people that are near you in a pub or something, then no-one will have an issue with that, even if they're not really into you, because it's just a conversation. If you make a conscious desicion to walk up to someone and talk to them, then it makes it seem as if you're just out to pull her, which is fine if she wants to pull someone and thinks you're good looking. Otherwise, she'll probably be quite uncomfortable. What you've got to do is just to talk to randomers, people sitting near you in a pub, on a train, at the bus stop. That way, it won't be a big deal to you, and you'll be able to chat normally and not make an issue of it, rather than picking out a girl and building it up until you eventually talk to her.
you mean make small talk with people? Yeah I can do that. Its just I can't do it with girls.... Its also girls look more mature than me and its sort of intimidating.
Thats a good idea to get a laugh or a smile from a girl but there is a strong possibility that it will backfire on you. Heres a couple of stories.
My sisters on her way to work on the tube.
Man: Are you a supermodel?
Sister: Are you a comedian?
A mate walks with a girl past a cemetary
mate to girl: You Know something about that cemetary!
Mate:People are dying to get in there!
never saw her again.....
of course ive always got my trusty train tracks joke....
Yeah, the following would backfire, because they're SHIT. You don't have to come onto someone to make conversation. Just say something. Like if you could help out, say "sorry, I overheard, but what you want is over there" the smallest thing can get you started.
you said panties....
My biggest fear is that a girl (the pretty ones imperticular) would tell me to fuck off if I try to speak to them or look at me like "Why are YOU talking to someone like ME!?"
silly I know but....
^^^^ of course
There's a certain novelty (not always in the positive sense) to an accent but if you can't back it up with personality and a certain element of charm and confidence (not to say you have to be some lothario) then you'll be fucked whether you try and pull or start a relationship in Birmingham, UK or Birmingham, Alabama. That's a bit of an extreme step to take, anyway.
I don't think anyone can dole out advice about gaining confidence - especially as I suspect a lot of us are possibly a little lacking in that department ourselves - but there's a lot to be said for faking it. Acting as if you're a confident self-possessed person will do you no end of good, it will make those around you feel more confident themselves and most definitely warm to you. You don't need to run around spouting chat-up lines and freaky dancing in clubs, just be chilled and when there's an opportunity to strike up a conversation/ask a question/ask someone how they are then for god's sake just take it. You might get knocked back a million times but you just dust yourself off, don't sweat the small stuff... some people are arseholes but most would have a polite chat with you even if they're not remotely interested. In that case, it's all practise :thumb:
I'm With Stupid wrote:
So he started dressing more fashionable and lost weight? Chances are he was more confident from that. Plus the accent is always a good icebreaker, but it's not enough without something to go with it. Wouldn't work with my accent anyway. I'm more Peter Kay than Jude Law.
how do you get a girls attention?
I just wanna know what im missing cause ive never had one before.
No-one ever built a house starting with the roof.
1. Do you have to spend a shitload on clothes ie get T.O.T.R gear just to get a girls attention?
2. If I wanted a grunge girl, Do I have to don grunge gear (I wouldn't mind, i like the music and all sorts of rock anyway) how does one dress as a 'grunger'? (I kinda want that look anyways)