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you really can't judge.
Noone is forced to cheat.
OK, maybe forced was the wrong word, but some people blame their cheating on their partner saying how they were pushed into it by the way they were cheated and that the situation caused them to cheat. I just don't agree with that.
I just think that's a bit ridiculous. Someone makes one mistake, and you rule them out forever?
We all make mistakes. If she had a history of a lot of infidelity, then fair enough. But to say, "once a cheater, always a cheater" is just ludicrously simplistic imo.
OK, you've misunderstood me. Or I haven't put it down properly...
In any case, what I meant was....
Depends on why she cheated. If she cheated once FOR THAT REASON there's every chance she would do it again. To be specific, one of my friends was going out with a guy for a certain period of time. At one point they didn't see each other for a few weeks and she cheated on him with a guy that worked with her. When I asked her why, she said to me because she had chemistry with the other guy and it didn't really mean anything, it was just about sex. She never told her boyfriend and got pissed off at me when I told her that what she's done was wrong.
So suffice to say, I would never date her.
How can you say that without knowing the intimate details of someone else's relationship, as well as their psychology? See, you are judging after all...
Even if it was a one-off and this was the first time she'd ever cheate on anyone?
"there's never any excuse for infidelity and no one can say their situation gives them an excuse", because it's making too broad a generalisation imo.
I think it's fair enough to have your own opinion of it, the point I'm trying to make is that it's unfair to make sweeping generalisations about all people who cheat, because it can be far more complex than you might imagine.
I'm not trying to justify being unfaithful to my ex, but at the same time I think given the circumstances of our relationship at the end it's kind of understandable. So while it's fair enough to say you personally wouldn't want to go out with someone who had cheated on a partner, it becomes different when you extend the argument from that to "there's never any excuse for infidelity and no one can say their situation gives them an excuse", because it's making too broad a generalisation imo.
life and relationships aren't black and white!
so you're seeing someone for a few weeks and you're starting to develop feelings for them. then you have a talk about past relationships and they say that they once cheated. are you telling me you'd actually say "oh right, well sorry but once a cheater always a cheater. you're dumped!" as if!
and just because someones never cheated before doesn't mean they they never will!
I'd say cheating doesn't really count when you are that age! I last cheated when I was 18, though I had good reasons and I was young etc.....I ope someone wouldnt bare a grudge over it! I wouldn't do it again.
sometimes people cheat when theyre young and stupid though :angel:
I i know she is prone to do it again.
I'm laid back about almost everything, opinions attitudes each ot their own, I know someone who was/is incestuous, heck I went out with them for a while, but Two-timing Is one of the few things that I cannot stand, Obviously it would be circumstancial, but most likely no.
How do you know that? Not saying what she did is right or anything, but she could've had a reason to cheat on him...
She is one of my best friends.
She is neither young or stupid.
And she told me why she cheated on him.
I know that the underlaying reason for her cheating is that she doesn't trust men as far as she can throw em, she's been burnt a few times. Fair enough.
most guys cheat cause well they get tempted by other women and alot of men are weak when it comes tot he poon.