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Settling down

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i don't know what i'm going to end up doing, i don't want to settle down where i grew up and i don't think i want to settle down where i'm at uni. it's weird because i do actually love the city im in for uni but i don't want to stay here forever... i get bored easily.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd love to settle in Oxford, however due to the fact that living here is absolutely extortionate, its unlikely I will. We will be moving to where work for the other half is available, as his field is reasonably specialised. I can go pretty much anywhere with my degree after I graduate, so I guess its just a case of where we end up sue to work. I wouldn't want to be too far from the family though.
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    JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
    I couldn't see myself moving from Yorkshire to be honest, my family and friends and roots are here. Plus overall it is a lovely place to live and fairly cheap too.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    briggi wrote:
    The other Newcastle :thumb:

    Aww, that's actually a nice wee place. I love Newcastle. I'll be down visiting ya all the time then :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I love Edinburgh. It's where my Scottish heritage is. I'd be content to live here for the rest of my life, bringing up a family here, but i'd also be quite happy to move abroad and settle somewhere outside of the UK and bring up a family their. I like the idea of that.

    In saying that at the moment I'm young and just wanting to live life so havent gotten further than the above thinking :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cruel2BKind wrote:
    Aww, that's actually a nice wee place. I love Newcastle. I'll be down visiting ya all the time then :D

    You're on! ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd love to get out of Medway, Kent but I think I'd be too scared to just move to an entirely new area on my own. Unless I drastically change in the next however so many years I wouldn't want to do it on my own!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When i've paid off all my debts (gonna be several years yet :p), i'm gonna just pick some random place to move to. I have no particular fondness for Bristol, seeing as i only moved here 8 years ago. I like the idea of travelling but then i don't. Can never make up my mind.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ive lived most of my life here in derbyshire and i do have a soft spot for the peak district,but my home town depresses me.i lived in cornwall for 3 years and the biggest mistake i made was to come back here.
    i have too many bad memories.i keep trying to raise the money to go back to cornwall,but as yet havent managed it.i will get there one day for sure,the pace of life and the people there make cornwall so appealing for me and my girlfriend.she used to live there and she left her dad to come "up te" north with me.she would like to go back,all her friends are there.

    i don't really feel rooted to any one place,i could up and leave at any time....bit of a gipsy really.but yea,head south luv!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am the same. I don't know where I wanna go.

    I lived i nanother country for nearly 12 years, moved here, been her nearly 10. In a big, decent city, went to uni here.

    I feel is expected of me to travel, though I didnt feel the need until now. I wonder what life is like in other cities and countries bu tnot sure if I'd be brave enouygh to go.

    I mean most people move to big cities in th euk, why should I leave?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I plan on staying in Halifax for the foreseeable future. Even when I go to Uni (Bradford) I'm staying in Halifax, whether I live at home or get a flat with my boyfriend.

    I think it's mostly because my horse is happy where he is, and of course everything I do has to keep His Nibbs in the manner to which he is accustomed. :rolleyes: ;)

    Plus the town isn't that busy (probably because it's a bit naff) whereas places like Leeds are a bit busy for me on an everyday basis and I suppose because I'm familiar with everything here.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kate_342436 wrote:
    I plan on staying in Halifax for the foreseeable future.

    You have my most sincere heart-felt condolences.

    Halifax is alright really, some good pubs. When I'm at the parentals I live in the Pump Room.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sugar wrote:
    bloody cold in the winter though! :grump:


    Same latitude as Moscow :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm funny one about all this. I've lived in Cambridgeshire all my life, and i love it but my mums scottish and my dad only has one brother so all my family are up there (apart the odd cousin in Sweden) so Scotland does feel homely to me. But I've felt really quite settled here in Manchester. Hmm. It does rain far too much here though and its really far from my brother (Exeter) so I'm a bit all over the place really.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've been doing a lot of thinking about this too, tbh. Right now I'm in a moment where i need a radical change in my life - like living abroad for a year or two, and far away from home. But then I say what if I fall in love or get an amazing job opportunity I might end up staying there permanently. And sometimes I think it would be great and sometimes I think not so much as I would miss my country too much. I do feel the pull of my homeland, it's where i grew up, where all my friends and family are. But then I also dislike many things about here - the lack of culture, the conservative way of thinking, the classist society we have here... I dunno.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I want to move out of the UK not to somewhere glamourous, just I think the UK has a different mindset to me. Its work hard, play hard. I want to live easy. Have a 20 hour a week job and a tiny little house that I can barely afford in the middle of nowhere and buy cheap stuff. But have lots of spare time.

    Hopefully anyway.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you live in the OC?? Nice.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    briggi wrote:
    Putting down roots, whatever you want to call it.

    It seems that a lot of people stay in the area in which they grew up, or where they went to University... at least for a considerable chunk of their life. Makes sense, of course, since you know the place...more than likely have a job etc.

    I was wondering if anyone has any plans to that effect, or if you've already effectively "settled down" then was it where you planned to? Anyone actively planning to stay in their hometown for the forseeable future?
    to move but I can't quite decide which direction to go..

    I grew up in Birmingham and would be quite happy to settle down there, it's a good city, as long as I could afford to live in a nice area. I've lived in a lot of places round the UK and I liked it best. At the moment I'm tied down to Wolverhampton for the next 2 1/2 years. When I was younger I always thought I would move away from the area and I'd still like to have a few years bumbling round different countries.

    But a lot depends on work, if I'm offered a good job in London, I'll take it but I wouldn't want to stay there for good.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Theres no way I'm planning on staying in Preston despite the fact I probably wouldn't find it hard to get a Law related job here. The crime rate here is very high.

    Still, I don't really know where I'm going to live yet when I leave uni. I know that when I leave uni though, I'm hoping to rent somewhere in a city. Not decided which city yet though. I'm not planning on moving back to my home village as theres nothing there.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As much as I love Plymouth, there's not a lot down here that caters for what I really want to do.

    My parents are selling up and moving to France in the next 12 Months (if all goes to plan) and by that time I hope to have moved out and got my own place, hopefully a flat with a mate or someone. London seems like a place to start for job hunting with an offer in the pipeline, so I guess i'll look on the outskirts of the southern hemisphere of the city, although I think i'd prefer the south/south west as i've spent most of my life in the south east.

    Doesn't mean I don't want to stay with my friends and everyone that's left in Kent, but I just want to get out and live somewhere I want to live. Plus I reckon Maistone would be far too expensive for my liking, that and having to travel into London everyday would cost a bomb.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I just moved down here about 2 months ago.

    Place I used to stay was just full of shit going on, I needed to get away and I did. Got a job, then a flat and am away to move into a new place this weekend. I miss people like fuck, spend half my time at work looking on Google Maps at where I used to stay etc, but I'm getting there.

    I still prefer my life here now to the one I had 3/4 months ago, mind.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i'm quite excited about the future (as in after uni) because i don't have any commitments and really could end up anywhere. i don't want to emmigrate so will stay in the UK. i've lived around the UK for most of my life however spent much of it around lincolnshire and the past 10 years in the same town until i came to uni (in lincoln).
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    last time i went to lincoln, this happened
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MrG wrote:
    last time i went to lincoln, this happened
    you n them bottles again :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh thats a diffeent set of bottles
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    briggi wrote:
    Putting down roots, whatever you want to call it.

    It seems that a lot of people stay in the area in which they grew up, or where they went to University... at least for a considerable chunk of their life. Makes sense, of course, since you know the place...more than likely have a job etc.

    I was wondering if anyone has any plans to that effect, or if you've already effectively "settled down" then was it where you planned to? Anyone actively planning to stay in their hometown for the forseeable future?

    By this I mean realistically, none of this "I want an apartment in NY, beach house in Miami, mews house in London etc" - be realistic, not aspirational. :p

    I'm having a bit of a think about this at the moment; I want to move but I can't quite decide which direction to go..


    I am in my home town where I grew up, and only left for 3 years to go to Uni.

    But not sure if I want to be here foreever, always fancied living by the sea on some nice beach type area perhaps, but also saw a movie set in Ireland today and it looked so lovely over there.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Rich-E wrote:
    As much as I love Plymouth, there's not a lot down here that caters for what I really want to do.

    Personally, I don't like Plymouth and am hoping to move out ASAP.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sofie wrote:
    Personally, I don't like Plymouth and am hoping to move out ASAP.
    The place I live right now in my final year, all my mates and everything i've done down here has made it what it is for me. Going to leave behind loads of good memories here unfortunately, but the main reason being I just find Plymouth too far afield and i'd have more luck looking for jobs in the london area.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To be honest, wherever I do end up going for university, I can see myself settling down to live there for a few years afterwards. Quite simply, there's no way I'm coming back to Wales afterwards. Spending a few years in Manchester/Bristol doesn't sound bad to me, and after that, I'll most probably go and live in London.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Aww, I thought I'd always be someone that travelled all over the world and lived in countless cities, but as the time gets nearer for me to actually decide where I'm going to live, I think I'll be quite happy staying here.

    I mean, who wouldn't? Capital city? Family, friends, nightlife, culture. It's got everything and getting better all the time.

    I sound like the fecking tourist board.
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