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'Quiet' people
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Not sure if this is the right forum but didnt know which one to put it in so sorry if its the wrong one.
Anyway, my question: For those who dont consider themselves or are not considered to be quiet or shy, how do you percieve people who are? Do you not notice them as much as louder people? Do you find them boring/rude/weird? Have u had a relationship with soemone who is quiet and found it difficult?
Im asking because Ive always been a quiet person and lately people seem to be commenting on it...Im finding it quite offensive and im not sure whether i should be.
Thanks
Anyway, my question: For those who dont consider themselves or are not considered to be quiet or shy, how do you percieve people who are? Do you not notice them as much as louder people? Do you find them boring/rude/weird? Have u had a relationship with soemone who is quiet and found it difficult?
Im asking because Ive always been a quiet person and lately people seem to be commenting on it...Im finding it quite offensive and im not sure whether i should be.
Thanks
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I rarely express myself. It's up to the individual. I see nothing wrong with quiet people - actually, I enjoy spending time with quiet people more than I do with 'loud?' people.
everyone says what a strange combenation we are but hes not quiet when hes with me just around people that he doesnt really know so im not sure its the same thing
90% of the people said I looked bitchy and stuck up. The few other quiet people (except for that sad looking one) got the same answers.
I'm also crap in meetings especially where there are loads of people who I don't know very well. I'm not at all bothered by public speaking though or having a tough one on one meeting with someone. As long as i'm totally confident about what there is to say then i'm happy to say it.
If you are shy I found getting a job where I had to meet people was a great way to build confidence. My saturday Job at 16 really made me come out of myself and have more confidence.
If people are commenting it might just be to try and draw tou in to the conversation a bit more.
I'm like that, and getting a job is what built my confidence to how it is today. I'm not as quiet and shy as i used to be but i still am to an extent. I used to be so quiet i would hide away in teh corner and people would say " i completely forgot you were even here ". I only speak when comfortable also, otherwise, and still to this day i keep my mouth shut.
I found when i was unemplyed i lost a lot of my confidence and finding another job gave it back to me.
Personally, i'm quiet & shy mostly and i dont care what other people think, i'm beyond all that now.
I find i get judged by it alot. Gets me down actually.
People constantly telling me to cheer up, or "let my hair down", or perk up a little.
Being a quiet person myself i find quiet people of the opposite sex more attractive than the loud. being quiet leaves something for the imagination.
She'd come out with my mates and their birds but she'd say fuck all. It wasn't that she was shy, she just didn't say or do much. Although she was stunning and a lovely girl, she was boring, and it pissed me off. In the end she had to jel.
i think the trick is, if you don't have much to say, or if you're nervous, keep quiet, but smile a lot.
i'm not really that shy though, anymore. if i have something to say, i'll say it. but sometimes i don't, and the kinds of people who must fill every silence sometimes don't understand that.
I've been told that people have perceived me to be pretentious or arrogant. Which is completely the opposite... I'm shy, but people don't see that, they just see me not saying anything and automatically assume I'm purposely not speaking to them... I find it quite frustrating at times, because I really want to be perceived as being friendly, when usually it's the last thing people think I am, because I'm introverted.
Ilora x
Although I can natter enough amongst my friends.
A lot of the time I'm out of my 'comfort zone' and become introverted, when I'm dying to be the extrovert I should be.
Ilora x
Should be isn't the right term i don't think ;p
Me
i think that kind of quietness makes me suspicious, like shes planning to take over the world or something.
there was this lad when i was in first year, who was quiet and always sat on his own. i dont like seeing people alone so i tried to befriend him and he just wasnt very nice! i learnt my lesson and now dont force myself on anyone! but no not all quiet people are nice.
I do that too. I'm making a conscious effot to stop doing that because if it infuriates me like it does it must be worse for other people. I'm still quite shy though, more than i admit to myself, which is why im making more of an effort to get out it of again. I used to be scared to speak up for myself or open my mouth for fear of sounding stupid but i'm moving away from that now. Takes time though