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Just wondering where I stand on this really.
I know you can have it at up to 3 months but what happens basically?
Im pregnant and have always been anti abortion although im getting alot of pressure from my boyfriend and a couple of mates that thats the way to go.
Any advice is appreciated.
I know you can have it at up to 3 months but what happens basically?
Im pregnant and have always been anti abortion although im getting alot of pressure from my boyfriend and a couple of mates that thats the way to go.
Any advice is appreciated.
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Have a look at the fpa website and others for more information, and don't forget to arrange an appointment with your GP if you want medical advice on the procedure.
Why are you against abortion?
What child?
Fuck off Born Stupid.
Do your parents know? They might be able to help you and they may be more understanding then you think. Good luck with what ever you decide, remember you will have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.
I agree, it is a decision that is only hers to make.
it is your choice. if you do go through with it you may need alot of emotional support afterwards, depending how you feel about it all. some women are ok about it all, some aren't.
www.afterabortion.com have some good discussion boards for support and stuff, and you can always pm tink or glittery vodka if you decide to continue with the pregnancy and want some advice/experiences of motherhood , they both have had babies recently, and tink is also a teen mum.
whatever you decide to do, there are people here who have had similar experiences and can help you if you need to talk.
take care xx
I had one and I was fine, but I wanted it. You need to be sure its what YOU want, no matter what your age, or what your boyfriend says.
An abortion is something you need to be 100% sure about, and having other people put pressure on you certainly doesn't help the decision making process, especially if your beliefs were against it in the first place.
Just wanted to add that afterabortion.com does have good forums, but unless they've changed, they're mainly for people who are dealing with post-abortion issues. But I'd really recommend you look at the Coerced Abortion forum, and hope that you see the harm it can do to make a choice that isn't what you really want.
My boyfriend is 17 and isnt ready to face having a child, I guess im more we will manage and cope but he is adament we cant do it, not together at least. My friends all see it as im 15 (nearly 16) and I shouldnt be havng a child at this age no matter what.
Im going to see a doctor this week. My mum has a long history of miscarriages and I want to find out if im at risk which she was told when she had me.
At the end of the day if I keep this baby it looks like il be on my own.
They shouldnt be trying to make you do what they think is best.
its not at all fair.
You just need to be 100% sure of what you decide.
I hope u manage to find the best plan for you.
Ive looked on the FPA website and realise it could be like a couple of weeks before the actual abortion is done. I have a doctors appointment tomurow.
In some ways I wish it could be sooner because I dont want to get too attached if you get me...
you clearly have no idea what its like to be pregnant
And take no notice of born slippy, he posts bollocks most of the time.
you have just pointed out why it is best because they missed their final year of school, what about how it will effect her if she has an abortion when thats clearly not what she wants? Its not as simple as that.
You're still number 1 though. If you want it - have it. But make sure you prepare yourself.
Her spineless boyfriend decided to bump her within weeks of her having the abortion, as he no longer loved her and it had nothing to do with the abortion. I had a feeling, which I did not tell me friend that he saw her as someone just to have fun with and once it got serious (baby on the way, he just wanted to get out of there) so when she said she wanted to get an abortion he helped her set it up and then with the baby problem sorted he would not feel so guilty about bumping her.
But I would just like to point out that while I supported my friend thourgh her decision, as she was happy that it was the right thing to do for her, it does not mean that it is the right choice for you. By all means go and speak to you doctor and get advice from them on abortion, but you really have to think is this the right choice for YOU no one else JUST YOU.
Not your boyfriend, your friends, parents or any of us on here BUT FOR YOU.
I dont think im ever going to be sure weather I want to have an abortion or keep it but they do say make the desicion sooner rather tahn later. Thats what im doing I guess. I think also on here im able to get gals/womens points of view. All the mates that know are all male. And dont really see what women do I guess you could say...
Thanks for the support guys you are all being ace!
^^^^^
what she said
But if you're unsure, it's better to make a decision in haste rather in speed. Surgical abortion procedures don't change until about 14 weeks (where a D&E would be required, and tablets would need to be taken to 'soften' the cervix) so isn't it better to put aside a week or so just to go over your options so you really want to know what to do? I'm not saying wait until 24 weeks, but you do have time if you need it, and I think in making the right choice, it's vital - especially if you're having pressure from outside people.
Trust me, I see a lot of women who are terminating because it's what their partners want, and not what they want, but at the time, they insist that they're making the right choice and want it over and done with, or they don't/can't speak up, so we can't help them. If you look at stories of women who have terminated, the ones who had negative experiences are the ones who somewhere along the lines would say, "I never really wanted it, my partner/parents/friends convinced me it was the best thing to do." etc.
The majority of women who come through the clinic will be able to get on with their lives - because they were sure of their decision, and the decision was theirs.
Abortion or not, I really think you should have some counselling (I know both providers have compulsary counselling for under 16s) and it's also worth looking at this website... Pregnancy Options I can't rate it enough.
I had my doctors appointment this morning and not really good news, well I dont know I cant work out if its good or bad.
Basically because of the family history the doctor says there is no way I will carry this pregnancy and will miscarriage at some point. She reckons it could be any time between now and the middle of march but I will lose the baby, theres no way I will carry it to full term according to her. Ive basically been told that I either have to go through a miscarriage and let it happen naturally which she says will be better for my body or have an abortion. I really dont know what to think. Does anyone think it might be an idea for me to get a second opinion on this?
Cheers guys.
Im really considering a second opinion but cant really go to the same practice because i dont want to seem unaprreciative of the advice already if you get me...