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Some women like men who can admit their feelings, so many people are conditioned not to show their emotions because its a bad thing, which isn't good in the long run.
aww thats soo sweet!
You can't take your own reactions to emotion and apply them to all and sundry...people vary, there is no standard.
You can be close to someone without feeling comfortable crying in front of them...all depends on you as an individual, the other person, and the relationship dynamics.
i heard my dad crying the other day, and i dont think ive ever heard him cry before
Obviously that post of mine wasn’t entirely serious
Well sometimes I find it hard to discus my feelings about but this depends on what it’s about really and other circumstances. If pressed to my favourite avoidance technique is to talk about something personal (the real you) that your comfortable talking about e.g. your relationship with your father, or with your cousin or gran or something talk about that for a while, and that avoids talking about your true feelings.
Therefore I can bottle up all my simmering rage anger resentment and insecurities with out having to address them or resolve them: like a real man ! *
As for crying in front of a girlfriend (not that I’ve had loads) I’ve never done it, but most of them have cried to me a quite a few times, If a woman cries a lot over relatively minor matters, I'll think she's weak and dippy and probably mildly attention/comfort seeking, If a man cries a lot over relatively little Ill think he's got serious issues much more so than with a women.
This either underlines my out dated sexist attitude or one of the many differences between them
Note to Little_one thats irony
Would be nice to comfort him in that situation.
Well as it was a question about opinion I can, really.
I'd be worried about a man who was ashamed to cry in front of his wife, tbh.
~ and i'm really sorry to say that so crudly but i cannot think of another way of getting over what i mean...
my mum has never seen my dad crying, and they've been happily married for over 30 years. that said, he didn't cry when either of us were born, or when his dad died.
some people are just not crying types.
i don't mind men crying when there's a reason, they're human, after all, but i once knew a guy who cried at everything, inculding maury povich when they reunited the mother and daughter who'd not seen each other for 25 years, and i have to admit that i did think he was a bit of a woman.
My ex used to cry all the time and go through my phone when I broke up with him which pissed me off to be honest. I think its good if men can share their feelings but all my ex used to do was work himself up into a jealous frenzy and have crying tantrums like a big baby, he NEVER told me what was wrong and that's what pissed me off.
Aww I remember my eighty-year-old grandad coming across this ancient black & white pic of his father and getting really upset, it was so sweet but the saddest thing in the world too..