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never happen for me.....
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Hi my first post!! 
Anyway I was just reading a website article link that has totally destroyed my hopes of EVER getting a girl.... :crying: Ok my main problem is that I dont believe that a girl will EVER find me attractive or fun to be with or anything like that at all.Im the nerd who never bothers asking cos I know I`ll get told to f**K off sharpish.Iv never been popular or well liked so I know that I`ll never even be classed as the boring friend......
Right other problem(although main problem kind of negates this one a bit)is that in the article I read it says girls prefer big penises so size DOES matter!! :crazyeyes And it does before any girls say it doesnt.....think about it if you had 2 exact copies of you bfs except one had a 5inch and the other had 8inches you know youd choose the big one!
Anyway,I shouldnt worry really as I`ll never get a girl out to dinner let alone bed.....
Sorry for the length of this.No real point to it but its off my chest now.
Cheers
Anyway I was just reading a website article link that has totally destroyed my hopes of EVER getting a girl.... :crying: Ok my main problem is that I dont believe that a girl will EVER find me attractive or fun to be with or anything like that at all.Im the nerd who never bothers asking cos I know I`ll get told to f**K off sharpish.Iv never been popular or well liked so I know that I`ll never even be classed as the boring friend......Right other problem(although main problem kind of negates this one a bit)is that in the article I read it says girls prefer big penises so size DOES matter!! :crazyeyes And it does before any girls say it doesnt.....think about it if you had 2 exact copies of you bfs except one had a 5inch and the other had 8inches you know youd choose the big one!
Anyway,I shouldnt worry really as I`ll never get a girl out to dinner let alone bed.....
Sorry for the length of this.No real point to it but its off my chest now.
Cheers
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However, the internet is not real life buddy.
i wouldn't. i'm only little, and find that about 7" is my max before sex just starts to hurt.
my other half is around about my maximum and there are positions that we just can't do, cause my cervix gets a proper headbutting, and it's not fun at all, just painful. if he was much bigger i don't think i'd enjoy it much in any position.
My hall friend recently started seeing a bloke...came back after not actually having sex with him, just got to the nudey point before she decided she was way to drunk to try it, with the words 'hung like a hamster' and a disappointed look BUT she decided to pursue it saying that it's just shallow to think that size reflects a blokes performance. Since sleeping with him she sticks firm to that it is the 'motion of the ocean' and not the size that matters. I have been out with big (VERY BIG) and with just below average. Big hurt. Lots. He was also an inconsiderate lover and the below average was amazing - attentive and and painless.
I would seriously not let a web article like that be taken to heart. It's probably linked with some 'Here's the tablets that'll make it bigger' ad. The problem is not your penis. It relates more to your self-confidence, to how you let people perceive you. Women are not all shallow. Men come in every shape and size as do women. And also, why would a preference to larger penises make any different if you were in a relationship as long as you had a satisfying sex life and can work well with what you've got. Size matters...to the smallest extent most of the time. It's what you do with it that counts.
That should be sent to every male in doubt.
They said then that give it time, and it would get better. And you know what? They were exactly right. I don't know how old you are, but I'm 18 now, so in that 4 years I've been to hell and back with girls. My first girlfriend was nice, we went out, my first proper kiss, all exciting. Then she dumped me
Then, I had a rocky patch where I flirted with girls and they flirted with me. Then I realised it wasn't what I wanted and decided not to get a girlfriend. But then, I met a girl, an amazing girl
I know this post might just make you feel worse, but what I'm trying to say, is that give it time and it will happen. It's completely natural and it's just how it works. I only realised afterwards that these things are as destined to happen as the tides are to fall and rise. It's all part of the cycle of nature.
As for size, I'm more or less average, but I've never had one mention of size from a girl. Technique matters, I think, and definately being inexperienced has made my confidence a little shaky. But learning together with someone is ultimately fun
You do sound like me quite a bit but,.....youv had experience from 14!!I couldnt even look at a girl then without feeling like a stupid loser!!Im coming up for 18 next year and Iv NEVER been able to flirt or just have a normal talk with girls, even over a science topic or something.All my school friends could talk and make them laugh with stupid sh*t but Iv never been able to say something wothout going bright red and them just turning away leaving me feeling even more like a tossa.Plus,this will sound totally stupid but even when Iv fancied a girl and shes headed in my direction I begin to pray she doesnt speak cos I have nothing to say!! :nervous: Needless to say I was given a very wide birth anyway....
Also,does or has anyone ever got depressed watching porn?I just get depressed watching these girls give themselves to theses blokes they dont even know to just do whatver they want and then smile and say they enjoyed having 3dicks up their arse.......would any girls here wanna be a pornstar if so tell me why cos I dont understand why any woman would want to do that?
This may seem a bit blunt but you are the only person who controls how other people think of you. If you believe yourself to be a boring unpopular unattractive loser then why should anyone else think differently?
The start to bringing yourself around begins with you altering your perception of yourself. If you can't do that alone then maybe you need to find professional guidance to help you.
i agree, if anyone came near me with 8inches i would have to pull the "lets just be friends" line tbh.
what an optimist hey?
Don't worry too much, it will come with time
Aye, I agree with you there. We should form a club. This is quite freaky actually...
If I was you I'd explore life and your other interests first. You're more than likely to meet someone on your journey, not thinking about it.
The first thing that makes you unattractive to woman is your attitude, no one wants someone who thinks of them selfs as a boring nerd who nobody likes, because with an attitude like that you won't get your self a woman, plus your only 17!! It would be a bit different if you were a 30 year old virgin who has never had a girlfriend.
Also, the only way you know that girls like big cocks is because you've read some shit thats been written by someone who probably likes bigs cocks and so thinks every other woman does. You've not been with a woman sexually so until you have been with a girl you couldn't possibly even begin to know what a woman likes and doesn't like, and don't pay attention to articles like the one you've read, their full of shit and everyone single woman is different.
You need confidence which you clearly do not have, get in involved with after school activities, join a club that interests you, do something you have knowledge of, that way you you are able to talk to people about the same thing and installs have something in common with the first person you meet.
Don't give up...there is a chair that fits every butt. Keep looking and don't give up.
People here might not, but the opinions on this site cannot be representative of all human female opinion!
If a girl doesn't like you for your small cock, ignore them.
oh yeah,I agree with the porn thing too :nervous: (REALLY freaky now)it made me think that the only way to have sex with a girl is to be a pornstar so I was seriously thinkng about trying it when I was 18.Sad huh?
I can honestly say i would never go out or even sleep with a guy if i knew he'd been a porn star (or slept with a prostitute) I would know we had very oppositie views of sex and that we would enternally be incompatible. I dont think im alone on this, and im a nice girl, so my advice is don't ruin your future by making mistakes just to have sex!
I did actually meet a guy a while back at uni and liked him quite a bit but then when we were getting to know each other and i thought something might happen between us he told me how when he was 18 he was so desperate to have sex he slept with over 20 girls in the space of three months just cos then he'd had lots of sex and wasnt a virgin anymore, he slept with any and every girl who he could get, many he met in clubs and at house partys and really had only known an hour, was totally wasted and so were they, many he wasnt attracted to and he said one he actually thought was both fat and ugly (harsh but his true opinion of her at the time) yet he still *did it*. I lost all respect for him and i know it sounds horrible but his past "mistakes" did affect the way i viewd him as a person. I knew i could never have a relationship with a person capable of that because of the kind of person i am, (i have nothing against one night stands or casual sex as long as you both are actually attracted to each other and want to sleep together, but i hate the idea of sex for sex, regardless of who the other person is)...anyway I stopped seeing him. Might sound harsh for judging someone by what they did in the past but i owed him nothing.
My point is its far better to be a virgin then to ruin your future.
THEN
I met this woman at work who I've posted about the other day...nothings happened yet but just being round her dragged me outta my shell. no one's ever seen me like this and it's like something inside me is forcing my true colours out to try and tempt her.
trust me mate you'll come outta your shell when you meet someone like that - might not work out (mine probably wont) but it's changed my take on things in a big way.
And the pornstar thing was a desperation phase which Im over.I could hack people like friends,family and people who knew me seeing or knowing about me doing things like that. :yuck:
It's difficult, I know, but try not to get all obsessed about being single, not having met anyone etc...as a few people have said, it will come in time, and probably when you're not even looking for it. But first you need to be comfortable about and learn to like yourself - and realise that girls, even the ones you fancy, are just human too and certainly don't need to be put up on pedistals. Concentrate on other things, living your life, having fun and the girlfriend will soon follow
I was 18 before I'd even had my first kiss, and certainly noone paid me any attention before I got to uni. I have hemiplegia, so have a limp and a left hand that wiggles - trés sexy, I hear you say - and at school was pretty quiet, regarded boring and a bit of a square. Whilst I never really let it eat me up, I used to sometimes get frustrated by my complete lack of romantic history and my apparent invisability to boys. But my time came eventually - I had a 2 week disaster in the first term of uni (NOTE - don't fall into the trap of going out with someone you're not really interested in, in the belief that you'll grow to like her - it doesn't work like that) and then a few months later I met my current boyfriend. We first kissed in a club a few hours after we met, I was stunned. I never thought I'd get with someone instantly like that, always thought my hand and limp would be offputting, even in the case of a random pull. Apparently not
So, dont give up hope or get all bitter - it will happen, I promise.
Right cos you can't talk to a girl but you could shag plenty infront of a camera :chin:
Don't think that'd work somehow.