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Going out with 'friends'
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Short and simple. Girlfriend goes to cinema with male friend. Just the two of them. What do you reckon? There's the rational part of me which says if it was a female friend I wouldn't mind so why should this, but I doubt I'm alone in not liking it too much.
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exactly. if you completely trust her, you wouldn't mind. and if you don't trust her, you should think about why you don't.
have to agree.
i'd go to the cinema on my own with a male friend just like i would with a female friend. and believe me, i have no intention of getting it on with any of them.
i think if she was being dodgy about it, she would have lied about who she was with so you didn't get suspicious.
Nothing wrong with her socialising with male friends. After all she is with you, and that is what matters most.
Are you jealous of him? Do you trust her that little? I think you've got some issues mate.
We all have friends of both sexes who we perhaps met/got to know before we got with our current partner and to be honest, we all need space once in a while to go out with our mates and if your boyfriend or girlfriend can't respect that, then personally I'd tell them where to go.
Not bitter at all...
Thunderstruck, you appear to be in the small minority with your views. It seems it would bother most people. I thought as much. I also even think many people who would claim to not mind would probably be a bit unhappy deep down.
Maybe im too new age for this thread. lol
Do you know the guy your gf's going to the cinema with? Is there any history between them? Perhaps it's a film she knows you wouldn't like, or perhaps it's something the friend is interested in and he's got noone else to go with so she's going, more doing him a favour really!
ive actually have had a girl recently sod me off because my best friend happens to be female and she couldnt handle it. bad stuff.
I guess it would depend who it was, and who they were going with. I used to get jealous if my ex even spoke to another girl, but then there are guys who I wouldn't care if they were going out with another girl as long as I was told.
I echo the point that if she told you, it is more than likely it is nothing sordid and you're overreacting.
Cheers Franki, I guess your post goes to show it all depends on the circumstances. You were very jealous if your ex even spoke to someone, but would be put out now if your current man got annoyed at you going somewhere with a guy friend.
She came round and saw me last night when she got back and was absolutely normal with me....
I guess like plenty of you I have 'baggage' and worry that history will repeat itself.
I'm hoping she turns out to be different. I really like her :thumb:
Ummmm I dunno what else to say that hasn't been said already.
I can understand you being wary, but try not to let it affect your relationship. As I said, if she's told you she's going with him it's unlikely anything's going on otherwise she'd have lied.
Well me, for starters.
The wife goes out with male mates from work, and I've been to the pictures several times with girl mates without the missus. I know she won't go and cheat on me with them, and she knows I wouldn't cheat on her.
I really don't understand why people get so paranoid. I don't understand how someone can have a relationship without being able to trust their partner. It's not a criticism, I just don't know how they can have a fulfilling relaationship without trusting their partner implicitly.
If you are being paranoid it is your fault, and to restrict anyone else's movement because of your behaviour is really rather odious.
Or maybe it's because I'm in a fully trusting relationship...
Ah, I dunno.... :banghead:
IF.....you have good communication and trust then who she goes to the movie with, male or female, shouldn't matter.