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hope things work out, sooner or later. i know it's not likely to be sooner.
I dunno why though, I hardly know you...
Anyway, get in touch with the housing assoc/council now and get an idea of what their views would be - otherwise you are just storing up problems, you know what civil servants are like.
Hope all goes well, I know you want to keep it amicable but make sure that you protect yourself and your child's interests. Don't go for the easy option if either of those are compromised...
That's my concern too. I've seen this happen before.
In fact I think you really ought to get some legal advice Abbie. Just to know where you stand. You probably won't feel like it because it doesn't seem real yet, and you probably don't think you need it, but, well, forgive me for being pushy but I think you really should.
I'm confused. Do you think he'll go with you then? Or will you just go by yourself?
I just think that we at least have to try it, for Lennys sake if nothing else.
I think if he leaves me he will be making a mistake tbh. Hes also got to find out if his lack of feelings are part of his depression symptoms or whether theyre real. He needs to get his depression under some sort of control, because at the moment he is having a really low patch anyway, so how on earth is he going to feel overwhelming love for anyone.
Of course it could be all real, but at least we`ll have tried.
Of course, there is always the possibility that it won't change anything in the end, as you said.
If he eventually refuses to go with you, go by yourself. For one thing it will probably hekp you sort your head out anyway and for another, many times one partner starts off doing this and the other follows on a few weeks later.
Were taking it slowly, and were still getting along and being affectionate, but we know its going to end.
Are going to do up the house a bit to sell, but arent planning to actually move out till next year.
Living in the same house when you've already split is hard because you're kind of in limbo, you can't start to move on or make your own life. I know because I was in the same position for 10 months.
Just be kind to yourself eh?
And on the subject of Relate - I know of a fair few people who said that they thought there wasn't much point to it until a few sessions in. Maybe you shouldn't give up on it yet, even if it's only to help you work through your feelings about the situation. Just a thought.