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splitting up with husband
BillieTheBot
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after 9 years.
shit innit.
shit innit.
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No but on a serious note, it sucks.
I'm so sorry, toots. I hope it sorts itself if the time apart works or not.
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I hope whatever arrangement you come to works out
aww i'm sorry to hear that ;[
*hugs*
Look after yourself
Hope everything will work out for you
its not an argument or any unfaithfulness or anything. Hes been depressed for a while now and hes just not sure how he feels. Weve talked a lot tonight trying to work out what were going to do wrt childcare, the house, being friends etc and were not making any rash decisions but I know that once those feelings go, theyre gone.
We cant split properly yet. Were going to try and get the house done up over the next few months and then sell it. I should be able to get housed, hopefully in the same area, and hopefully he`ll live nearby so Lenny has as little disruption as possible. We still want to be friends and are going to try and do this with no fighting.
It seems like you've talked it all through and I hope things work out for you and Lenny and that you and Mr Brite can remain friends.
Stay strong. xx
i hope things go okay for you.
*hugs*
from the way you talked about your family and stuff you always seemed so happy. I hope your ok, try and stay strong although i can't imagine what your going through we are all here if you ever need to rant/talk and what not.
It all feels very unreal now but you will get through this andd be happy, I promise you.
The only thing that concerns me a little is that you're saying you're going to sell the house and that you should get housed. Check this out properly please! You must make sure that by selling your house the council or housing associations won't consider you to have made yourself intentionally homeless. They might possibly expect you to stay in the house until Lenny is 16 and then sell it, which is what would most likely happen in any divorce settlement.
I'm not sure about this and it might vary from place to place, but you must find out, because if they deem you to have made yourself intentionally homeless they don't have to do a thing to help you. Also please bear in mind that you might get put into some kind of temporary accomodation before you get housed and that can mean anything from a hostel to a temporary house/flat. Just make sure you check it all out.
My friend sold their house when they split up and she got a housing association place. i will check it out though. We will need to somehow pay off our debts though.
I dont feel very happy. I keep crying. Im crying now.
No, of COURSE you don't feel happy, why would you? You probably feel like the bottom just dropped out of your world. You probably feel like this can't be happening and in a minute you'll wake up.
But you will be, one day not TOO long from now. It's just way to early for you to even think about that yet, never mind believe it. People told me that too and I didn't believe them for a second.
At the moment you just have to take one day at a time. It's the only way to do it.