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has anyone used ask the site i did and ive been waiting 6days for a reply.
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PM a mod and ask them.
Their names are listed at the top of every section, but either DOM or JimV are your best bet.
And, as Fiend so rightly points out, we dont know who you are and we dont have a great deal of interest in finding out who you are either.
he also raped my younger sister when she was 13.
i found out a couple of weeks ago that he was abused by his uncle at the same time, i dont kno the details but the police are involved.
if hes gone to the police about his uncle surley he ralises what hes done to me and will say something.
i would rather go to the police myself than have them coming knocking at my door.
i am pregnant and need to deal with this the least stressfull way possible but i havent a clue what to do, i kno i need to start telling my parents but its difficult cos were not close after the way ive been with them.
i feel like his victim i remember the pain how people pushed me aside and ignored me, it makes me feel so sick. :crying:
And to be honest I think this is an issue that 'ask the site' isnt really able to deal with, you are much better off talking to those trained in this, the Samaritains for example are always willing to listen.
Or you could of course raise the issue with your GP and see if you can get treatment.
i dont need help ive delt with my probs by myself all my life ive been off drugs and alchohol for 5 yrs now, i suppose im scared that im going to be asked about it wen im not ready (the police) cos i wouldnt be able to hold myself together i dont even kno weather the police would do anything because theyl be no evidence unless he admits it
jo@samaritans.org
You have been told he is unlikely to incriminate himself if it can be avoided. You have clearly not dealt with your problems, we have given you suggestions of people to talk to. You can do whatever you like. Though I advise that you drop the text talk and learn english.
All we can do it tell you what we know, the rest is up to you.
Nice attitude.
A slightly friendly ear I think was what she was hoping for.
i dont know how to tell the police i kno i have to because he raped my sis and would probably rape again.
I presume, by the way you are talking that years have past, rape convictions are difficult as it is, yet alone after years and with no actual evidence.
If you are going to report it to the police see if your local force has a special rape team, then contact them and ask if you can come in and see them. This could all be done by email reasonably easily.
Not a problem, though as I have said I wouldnt hold a great deal of hope for the police pressing charges or anything.
i dont kno what to do, i know that i should go to the police and tell my parents because it will answer alot of questions about my beaviour towards them (well towards everyone) but thats about it. writing im being me but talking im a different person i come across as gobby im not its just i feel more confident with a "mask" on. thats why i cant speak to my friends i dont want to be vunarable again.
And I have advised you to email the samaritains, which I think would be helpful.
Other than that I'm not sure how much help I can be.
http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/helplinenumbers.htm
but im not sure weather its rape or abuse