Watching porn and masturbating while in a relationship!

Former Member

Guys,

do you still watch porn and masturbate while in a relationship?

I do still and i have been with my gf for just over 2 years, but i still get urges when i get the chance to just watch hardcore porn on the net!! and 9/10 i don't just end up watching it.....it's just too arousing!

My gf does not know i do this, and there is a valid reason.....she would think that she has either done something wrong, that i don't fancy her anymore and/or that she is crap in bed....when the truth is....it's just an addiction more than anything and there is nothing wrong with her or her performance in bed!

What do you all think?

Former Member

Meh, it's natrual don't worry about it. We all get urges from time to time.

Former Member

Both me and my partner do this now and again - sometimes we watch together - sometimes on our own - its perfectly normal.

like renzo says we all have urges from time to time - from a womans point of view I expect there are things that she does in her own company but doesnt tell you about - we all need our privacy so I wouldnt worry about it.

HTH

Former Member

normal. especially in a long term relationship.

if one of you is horny as a rabbit, and the other really isn't, then a quick hand shandy with the dotcom ladies is so much healthier than the non-horny one having to do it anyway, or for the horny one to sit and stew.

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kaffrin wrote:

normal. especially in a long term relationship.

if one of you is horny as a rabbit, and the other really isn't, then a quick hand shandy with the dotcom ladies is so much healthier than the non-horny one having to do it anyway, or for the horny one to sit and stew.

or the horny one to go off with a non-dotcom lady

Former Member

I watch it with my partner and watch it on my own, she watch's it on her own aswell. Think its perfectly normal and think it is something that should be shared with your partner rather than keeping it from her.

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as far as im concerned ,porn for blokes is like chocolate for women- most of us need it! My boyfriend doesnt own any at all though and has only ever seen 2 pornos (the ones i own). he doesnt masterbate either, just visits when he's horny.
is this normal?

Former Member

I would tend to find myself still masturbating one me own even when I'm sexually active in a relationship. Don't watch porn though, then again I never really do these days.

I can't see it being a problem, even if my partner told me they were doing the same thing, as it's perfectly normal.

Practising safe sex with another person, would be were I'd cross the line funnily enough

Former Member

When I was in a relationship I used to whack myself silly - sometimes more often than when I am single! Go figure?!?!

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M12_GTO wrote:

When I was in a relationship I used to whack myself silly - sometimes more often than when I am single! Go figure?!?!

Well I've heard that the more you have sex the more you want it. So that would probably explain why!

Former Member

i am a wanker. i cannot help myself.

surely better than going out and hitting some other whore though?

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big_man_with_a_ wrote:

i am a wanker. i cannot help myself.

surely better than going out and hitting some other whore though?

thats what i said :banghead:

Former Member

so? do i give a fuck what you said? somebody wants people's opinions you idiot.

Former Member

I dont think theres anything wrong at all!!
Mayb u shud drop some hint abouts watchin it with your girlfriend if u like it that much!
But dont feel guilty, loads of girls do similar when they not single and their guys love it!

Former Member

It doesnt really bother me as ive enjoyed watching porn myself in the past, particularly lesbian :flirt: both on my own, with friends and partners. Lesbian porn is good i find Ideally Goth girls,sooooo sexy!

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big_man_with_a_ wrote:

i am a wanker. i cannot help myself.

surely better than going out and hitting some other whore though?

why do men always say that? its like saying men either need to wank or cheat, and its the womans choice which they do!

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MattLiverpool wrote:

we do NEED to wank, really.

Well we're not forcing her into sex and to putit in perspective I wank at least once a day and my girl just can't please me that often.

no you missed my point dear, i wasnt on about men wanking, i was on about how some say "well its better than going off with another woman" as if they have to have porn or another woman

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Fairy wrote:

It doesnt really bother me as ive enjoyed watching porn myself in the past, particularly lesbian :flirt: both on my own, with friends and partners. Lesbian porn is good i find Ideally Goth girls,sooooo sexy!

Ya damn right

Former Member

so who is doing the masturbation and who is watching the porn

Teh_Gerbil

I wonder if we could start a national non-wanking day for charity?

Meh, men need to wank. Its a fact. Wanking prevents wet dreams. Better get it out that end up sticky in the morning. :yuck:

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Teh_Gerbil wrote:

Meh, men need to wank. Its a fact. Wanking prevents wet dreams. Better get it out that end up sticky in the morning. :yuck:

no it doesnt

Teh_Gerbil

I heard you only get them when you don't masturbate for a while, as your system needs to ejaculate?

Hmm... Never trust the interweb.

Former Member

remember when you used to be 14 and it never mattered?

Former Member

is that real? girls magazines told us that was just an excuse boys will use to make you sleep with them!

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big man

hey, big man

watch the name-calling! no reason for that here. pick up an anger management course somewhere--we'll all be better off.

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Clementine wrote:

I do still and i have been with my gf for just over 2 years, but i still get urges when i get the chance to just watch hardcore porn on the net!! and 9/10 i don't just end up watching it.....it's just too arousing!

I thought i reconised your name from somewhere, then i realised your the dude that sent me a pm asking to meet up for casual sex in Leicester a couple of months ago :yeees: So i think you wanking is the least of your girlfriends problems. Some people hey.

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beans wrote:

I thought i reconised your name from somewhere, then i realised your the dude that sent me a pm asking to meet up for casual sex in Leicester a couple of months ago :yeees: So i think you wanking is the least of your girlfriends problems. Some people hey.

ahahahahaha :thumb:

Dr Pirate

beans wrote:

I thought i reconised your name from somewhere, then i realised your the dude that sent me a pm asking to meet up for casual sex in Leicester a couple of months ago :yeees: So i think you wanking is the least of your girlfriends problems. Some people hey.

lmfao, I can see why he would ask tho. Beans yuo =

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nicebutdim23 wrote:

is that real? girls magazines told us that was just an excuse boys will use to make you sleep with them!

It is used as an excuse but that doesn't mean it isn't true. Guys balls can hurt through lack of sex. It is also worse if you get really wound up then let down. Still shouldn't be an excuse to get people to sleep with you.

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nicebutdim23 wrote:

is that real? girls magazines told us that was just an excuse boys will use to make you sleep with them!

yes it is real....... i'm not 2 sure why but my bf gets it if we don't have sex 4 a while, and the faces he pulls, my life it must hurt!!

Former Member

I also feel that if men want to wank, its better they do that then cheat. I'm more highly sexed compared to my bf so I can understand the frustration, as with porn..... I would rather we watched it 2gether........ I don't like the idea of my bf eyeing up other women when i'm not there..... makes me feel as though I am inadequate, and my body is not good enough e.t.c.... he reasures me but hey, sometimes men say nice things 2 just keep the lady happy!