Bi girls

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Is it me or are more girls of 16 up to 20something bisexual? I know alot of girls who would sleep with other girls but not have a any kind of relationship like they would with a fella. Is this a cool fad or is it that more females are more open to exploring their sexuality more these days? Also, how about guy's.. are they more open to bi releationships?

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from the young uns 14-18 social scene around here

people i know sorta agree with you thats its becoming a fad

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I presume a lot of it is social, i see it all the time and its pathetic. Because it is easier for bi girls to be accepted that bi males, no doubt about it.

However, i do believe that i recall watching a discovery program that all females share the chemicals that reside in lesbianism/bisexuality. If i were female i would be gay because girls are lovely things compared to the vulgarity of the male.

:rolleyes:

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females are by nature supportive and helpful towards each other

men, even from ages gone by where we lived in caves, compete against each other for dominance and strength, and do not like to appear different (and henceforth viewed as weak by others)

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Perhaps it's like a new fashion craze or something.

I think perhaps it's a way out for confused people?

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I'm 21, male and bi.

I wouldn't have a relationship with a guy, only a physical one. I'd still have a proper relationship (physical and otherwise) with a woman though.

It's hard though, people assume that I'm just plain gay, even though they know I'm bi. I get looked down and patronised a hell of a lot by people, as if I don't know what I'm doing or I'm just going through a phase.

I know what i am, and I don't need anybody to tell me it.

I just do my best. I'd lie if I felt I was totally accepted, and it does really upset me at times.

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tell them you are a decendant of a Macedonian, they will either be confused or understand. :yes:

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yes.. I know someone who said they was bi but when confronted if they'd kiss a girl they said no it's disgusting,

Now i know there are some girls who are actually bisexuals without it being a fad. I mean i know some who've been in relationships with girls and who are genually bisexual, it seems to be alot of girls do it to seem cool, imo they're stupid morons

JsT

Its cos its cool to be bi innit.

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Hellfire wrote:

yes.. I know someone who said they was bi but when confronted if they'd kiss a girl they said no it's disgusting,

Now i know there are some girls who are actually bisexuals without it being a fad. I mean i know some who've been in relationships with girls and who are genually bisexual, it seems to be alot of girls do it to seem cool, imo they're stupid morons

Everygirl i have dated with the exception of my current and only worthy partner has been properly bi sexual and it made no difference or whatever.

A lot of people get bisexuality confused with simply being able to see qualities in the same sex.

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I see what you mean.. alot are in it because of the fad.. but a few.. are in it because they actually are/do like girls and are attracted to them

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There are particular girls around my college who like to get off with girls. For some reason, having a bf warrants this as perfectly acceptable as they're not going off with another bloke, it's just like 'cool' to make people question your sexuality among ladies at the mo. My ex has always encouraged me to swing both ways for his viewing pleasures, though I can't say I ever have...the current would say "Um...love...whatcha think you're doin..?!". Personally, although ladies are LOVELY...being bisexual and getting it on with a fellow girly does not appeal to moi, regardless of whether it's the fashion..!

Malt xxx

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oh that really bugs me that shit. Its like, still another person, its being unfaithful yo!

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Yeah, happened to a mate of mine. He was like "So there was my gf, and she started getting off with her best mate. And I was surprised at not really being very, well, turned on by it. I was just like hey...is this cheating or what cause...its your mate but like, I'm not turned on by it"

I was like..."Dude, she's snogging someone else...dipshit!!"

Malt xx

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The last 3 girlfriends I've had have all been bi, I don't go out looking for bi girls I tend to learn it after we've started going out. So I think it is much more common nowadays, far more socially acceptable for girls to be bi. It is for guys as well but to nowhere near the same extent.

I can understand being annoyed if your girlfriend kisses another girl, as, technically, it would be cheating. But if it happened to me I wouldn't really mind, because it doesn't feel like a threat, even if she is bi. Doesn't make a lot of sense I know.

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My current gf (and my last one) are genuinely bisexual. I do think it is becoming more common becuas emore girls are getting the idea that they should try it and this experimentation opens it up to a lot of girls.....but i have met a lot of girls who just do it for attention, which i think is ridiculous really. i mean....immature no?
For guys though, christ, ive been threatend with violence purely cuz of my sexual choices...so i dont think its becoming any more acceptable for guys. I mean, its kinda obvious that there are more guys that enjoy seeing two girls have a game of tonsil hockey than there are girls who like to see a pair of blokes up to the same thing.....

As for the "bi partners snogging the same sex"...well....its a tricky one in my opinion. Me and my gf have done it and do do it when we're out for the night with friends and on the old merry wagon...in the end, as long as your both cool with it then its doing no harm. For us, i think its part gettin kicks from it for each other (though curiously it doesnt turn me on if it aint my gf ) and the other part of it is just the fact that we're very sexual people....neither of us wud ever take it any further but it seems to help us blow of a bit of that steam that might make you wander off track. Plus the people involved are normally friends anyway so its not really a threat......so wheres the harm if we're both enjoying it......

Peace

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I have known girls who would lie to their boyfriends/somone they fancy about their sexuality just to get more attention.

BUT I do believe the majority of girls are just alot more open minded these days to think about having a sexual relationship with the same sex as it isn't frowned upon as much as it use to be many years ago.

Say 10 years ago, I bet there was just as many teenage girls that were curious about being with the same sex. But they just had no choice but to deny those thoughts as bi-sexuals were not as well accepted then as they are now.

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I just think it generally more accepted for people to be with the same sex. It's ok if you want to experiement you are not looked down on for it or scared to do it. I wouldn't say I was bi but I would, if the opportunity arose kiss/sleep with a woman but not if I was already in a relationship. My boyfriend said he wouldn't mind if I found someone to experiement with, but to me it is still cheating.

With it being mainly girls in their teens and twenties experimenting more, its the way ideals have changed, we can aim to have anything and everything that we want, and if that includes other girls then so be it.

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its just not really taken seriously, girls going with other girls. If a girls partner thought she really WAS bisexual or worried she was gay, then I bet he wouldnt be as cool about it. A lot of guys just seem to think its titillation, and to be honest thats why a lot of girls do it too - Because its the whole pornstar thing that is supposed to be a good thing to aspire to :rolleyes: .
I wonder how many so called bisexual girls would snog another girl if there was noone watching or they couldnt tell anyone how outrageous they are?

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A LOT of the girls studying here in Bangor are bisexual. Some seem to have relationships with both sexes (not at the same time of course!), whereas others will only have relationships with a guy but will go out and kiss women. It does seem to be quite a "cool" thing to do, although having said that some of my friends are genuine lesbians.

Personally, I don't understand why it's acceptable to kiss someone of the same sex whilst in a relationship. Each to their own I guess, but when I'm in a relationship I would never dream of kissing anyone else, man or woman.

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Joey Potter wrote:

Personally, I don't understand why it's acceptable to kiss someone of the same sex whilst in a relationship. Each to their own I guess, but when I'm in a relationship I would never dream of kissing anyone else, man or woman.

It is weird, because if I were in a relationship and kissed a guy everyone would see it as cheating straight away but if a straight girl is in a relationship and kisses a girl it's just "experimenting" (even though I've never kissed a guy). It makes no sense - cheating is just that regardless of who you're seeing / cheating with.

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Nothin wrong with being attracted to both sexes is there? and if you're exploring your sexuality, why isn't that cool? I mean sex is sex at the end of the day and you are who you are.

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girlinthecurl wrote:

there is a difference between finding girls attractive, and actually wanted to have a sexual relationship with them.

Definitely, I mean I find many girls really attractive and I can see the sexual attractiveness too, but it doesn't mean I want to actually have sex with them.

There seem to be a lot of people around who want to "have their cake and eat it" with regards to the whole kissing/having sex with others whilst in a relationship.

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Alot of girls do seem to do it to get male attention, i see it all the time when im out. :rolleyes:

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Some girls do it to get attention (getting off with a girl in a nightclub has the guys flocking round you like flies round shit), some girls do it because of teenage hormonal confusion, and some girls do it because they genuinely are bi or lesbian.

Personally I think most people are probably a mixture of all three, depending on age.

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Personally I get really fed up of the whole situation, I'm 19 and genuinely Bi, however because of these so called girls who think it's the fashion to say they're also Bi this means two things for me...

a) It makes me appear to people that don't know me well enough, that I'm just like that myself, which is really annoying because I'm not. I'm not who I am just to get attention etc.

b) It makes it really hard to find a girl that is actually looking for something more than just a bit of fun to impress some guys!

:banghead: :crying:

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haha i read the title wrong! i thought it said Big Girls...

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I would have said I was bi a few years ago only my first really serious relationship is with a man and I intend to stay with him forever so will probably never ever experience a sexual relationship with a woman.

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It depends - as a it of fun, I'll kiss my female friends (with great big mwahs) on a night out, and perhaps pretend to be brought to knee-trmbling hights of pleasure by nipple play. This is amusing to everyone who knows us - because it is obvious we are only playing.

To take it beyond a 5 minute laugh is wrong, as is doing it primarily for strangers to see.

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yeah you see plenty on a night out and reading stories and articles by girls, they happily admit to having some girl on girl fun on anigh tout, and some even go the whole way and sleep with their friends.

Its nice to see, not that I am into the lesbian porn, find it boring to be honest. I don't think its accpetable thgough if a girl is going out with a guy as his gf then kisses or doe smore with a girl and saying coz its a girl its ok. Its still cheating. I'm sure she wouldnt be pleased if he got off with a girl or a guy.

It is an interesting state of affairs.

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None of the girls where I live are