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My ex husband (henceforth referred to as "wanker")
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The wanker is refusing to give my son back after he went there for Christmas. What planet is the man on?! I have a residence order FFS!! :mad: Now I have to spend all day tomorrow fannying about at court, all because of that BOLLOCK!
I am pissed off.
I am pissed off.
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Nope, they won't do anything, they say it's a civil matter.
it will all get solved... but plz... calm down... act just after the court
seriously... good luck!!
Go to court and get it sorted, surley this must affect his visiting rights. Couldnt he now be made to have supervised visiting times ? not too clever on the law like, you need to speak to a solicitor/citizens advice or someone to find out exactly where you do stand.
lucky... I'm 17 and I have to see my dad... they are divorced now, but he still lives here
the guy will loose his visiting rights and you will get your son back and then ...he will give you hell!
then after more fucking moronic behaviour he will end up in jail ...tell him this.
Only now shes run away with him again, and hes corroberating her stories.
Been a sad xmas for my brother.
So that gives wanker another week almost to drum all kinds of shit into my son's head.
Beautiful.
He's CERTAINLY not worthy of that title.
Do try the police again...
Honestly, you're worth 439024839024839024 times more a parent than your other half is. You'll get it sorted, and you'll have the last laugh.
Thinking of you.
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I'm sorry to hear all this Miffy. As I can't offer any constructive advice I just wanna say that I hope it all works out for you (and your son)
edited as had a spelling mistake
He's just turned 7. And to answer someone's earlier question (can't remember who) about whether he wants to live with his dad, if you knew my ex you would probably feel pretty much the same way as I do, that you would hesitate to leave him in charge of a gerbil never mind a child. My heart is in my mouth when he goes to visit, never mind to LIVE!
And as for my son, he clearly, as far as I'm concerned, showed his lack of a proper understanding of the whole situation a few weeks ago when he told me he'd like us all - me, Mr M, my ex, and all of my children - to live together in one big house.
hmmm. still quite impressionable then, really.
it's a crappy situation to be in, but i really think the best you can do is keep your head and do everything by the book, and then you will show yourself as a good, capable mother, while the evil ex will inevitably show himself as being unreliable and quite clearly mental.
i think your son is old enough to appreciate that, even if it's not totally clear to him atm.
The police are really useless in these circumstances. I hope you get it all sorted soon.
Sometimes they are, sometimes they're not.
Up here they do something, because I know my next door neighbour had his kids for the weekend once and his ex called the police and said he'd abducted them, y'know, as you do of a Saturday afternoon when you're bored, and there were two police cars outside trying to get the kids!!
Well, I mean the CARS weren't trying...oh you know what I mean.
I think it is. In my experience they don't actually want the child living with them 24/7, the ex is just throwing their weight about and they usually bring the child back when they decided they have had enough and want to go to the pub instead.