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I think its just trying to find a balance of comfort and security in your head
.matt
Absolutely, but its like I'm always fighting myself. I'm my own worst enemy.
"I hate myself, I'm fat and ugly"
"No your not, c'mon, your not that bad looking and your a bit overweight, so what?"
"But I want to be perfect, I want a body like Carmen Electra"
"But your a good person and you know it, you dont need a perfect figure to prove that"
Ja know wot ah meeeeeen?!
*sighs and collapses*
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I so relate to this myself and I know how hard it is. Problem is its a bit of vicious circle. You worry about your body and being crap in bed so cos your worrying you find it hard to relax and loosen up in bed so you worry about it more and so on and so forth.
I guess at the end of the day you need to try and think that hes with you. He's not only with you, hes married to you which shows devotion.
One thing that has helped me is that I have a positive book where Ive got people who cares about me to write down all the things they like about me and good times we had. my counsellor recommended it and now when I feel paranoid or insecure I just look at it and it helps me feel better
take care
Phoenix
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I so relate to this myself and I know how hard it is. Problem is its a bit of vicious circle. You worry about your body and being crap in bed so cos your worrying you find it hard to relax and loosen u
Hehe, we're not married. He was married. But isn't. Anymore.
I wouldn't say boring, just slow to experiment. My girlfriend's the same, very conservative. We've been going out now for over 18 months but she complains she's too nervous and inflexible to expand our repertoire. I've heard very good things about both blowjobs (that I've never been given) and doggy style (that we tried once when we were drunk holidaying in Paris). I'd love her to have sexy underwear, she's gorgeous and would look all the more fantastic in it. I'd buy her some if she'd even consider wearing it. I love her though so these things are not important - she already offers me enough. It would be nice if she'd perhaps take pity on me and give in to my pestering and return the favour. Living in the 50s man :impissed:
are you boring yor partner? yes
Yeah, that was really helpful wasn't it.
Wanker.
why can't u trust him.. ask him what he likes don't just assume bcos he's male helikes dressing up.. that assumption will proove a big turnoff - 'oh you really don't kno me at all'...
.. wanna spice things up use ur freaking imagination. you'd have thought in this age you can learn pretty much every exciting tactic there is to know thru pornography.. or is pornography a dirty word here. pathetic double standards.
:chin:
Go and take a long walk off it, preferably carrying something really heavy.
see section 2 suicide act 1967
Takes nothing away from the fact you're a complete cunt.
karma sutra is gud inspiration, bit like using someones ideas but changing the wording!!
at the end of the day, if he didnt think u were good in bed then he wouldnt be with u.
also if ur concerned bout ur weight enough for it to be an issue in bed it might be time to do something to make urself feel better - pole dancing classes are all the rage, or belly dancing or salsa are great toners!
many blokes find them sexy too, so when u feel a bit more confident u can incorporate it into the bedroom!!
bit of a shallow thing to say dont you think?
you made it sound as if you meant if she was crap in bed then he would of dumped her by now
1961.
Telling you to do something is not complicity.
back to those school books, eh?
They say honesty is the best course of action, so here goes.
If that is true then it doesn't make a great deal of difference. Sure you will get compared, who hasn't thought about the difference between lovers in the past. In some instances you might come off badly, in ithers you might be better. What makes you so sure that he wants someone so in your face? Why wouldn't he want someone down to earth, relaxed?
Maybe he has got that side of his sex life "out of his system" so to speak.
Besides, a relationship isn't just about what happens in the bedroom (or any other room if you are so inclined), but it's also about what happen when you are not naked. There is a reason why they split and I think that is more relavnt than whether she was a complete tart in the bedroom.
Okay, having said all that, you couldn't get her phone number for me, could you?
I understand what your saying. But its not just him, I've always been a bit worried that I'm boring. You know, not wanting to try new positions and stuff, but thats all down the fact that Im overweight and not very confident about showing my body off.
The more I talk/think about it, the more I drive myself mad over it.
Im a naturally jealous person, I cant help it, but I try not to be, I try very hard. And anyways, as you guys keep saying, hes with me, not anyone else, just concentrate on what I have. I just dont want to ruin it.
Oh and Kent Man...You'll find her in the Whore of Babylon Telephone Book under Spamela Anderslut - 0808 IM-A-HO 200.