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Yeah, I was 14 when I lost mine, with my mates 19 year old sister. I always end up with older girls, I've never been with anyone younger than me.
same! i felt really cheated cos i felt like everyone had made it out to be amazing + it wasn't at all. much better now tho! :yes:
Although yes the sex itself was very disappointing. Although to give him his due he had been out all night on the beer and seemed even more shit scared than me (i seem to have this affect on nice men)
Yeah or a trip to the gum clinic
We'd been down the gym and had a swim and been in the jacuzzi, and then when we went back to his he kinda forced me into it in a sense...we had been heavy petting for a while (more than two months of foreplay etc) and had talked about sex, i was on the pill, but that specific moment to me didn't seem right, i wanted to, but not at that time - it just didnt feel right.
We didnt know what time his parents would be back so we were constantly listening out for their car etc. He wasnt very interested in turning me on like he had before, he was more interested in the act itself...it was crap basically, he didnt last very long (he wasnt a virgin he'd been with other girls before) i didnt feel very much, it didnt hurt at all and id honestly have had more fun watching paint dry.
Yes he was older than me hes 20 im 18 soon.
Im wanting to forget about the whole thing and meet someone new who i can experiment with lol, but i have the patience to wait and meet someone more decent to me than my ex was!
its rather difficuilt though - my ex works at the same place as me...which is rather arkward to say the least.
Ya! I lost mine a year and 3 months and 2 days ago (oh, how sad I am) to my boyfriend who was 11 months younger than me (2 years below me at school). I was 17, he was 16. It was lovely because we were in love and it was both our first times, but extremely painful and I had many thoughts of 'Is this what all the fuss is about??' It was a wonderful experience though.
thats kinda sick :eek2:
Hope that was interesting!
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You could tell it anyway you know...
after that one though had a bad encounter with a guy on holiday, after a while of learning to trust guys again met another ex of mine, that was different sort of sex but great sex! and now with my current boyfriend of 5 months nearly (love him to bits) and he's a virgin, which was a drastic change, but im no way ever gonna pressure him into doing anything he doesn't want to, his mates are saying he's just really shy and i should go for it but from reading all the posts, im just gonna wait until he suggests it then we'll go for it!
im feeling more nervous about taking his virginty then i did when i lost mine.
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Thought you'd never ask
At this moment in time, I'm an ancient (:eek2: ) 22 years old, although i was 15 at the time I lost my virginity (6 years ago, ooo, that makes me feel old..
Anyway. It was with my boyfriend at the time, who I had been with for three years, albeit on and off. We'd been sexually active for about 18 months before that, we just hadn't had penetrative sex up til then. It was one of the most painful experiences of my life. We did it again a few months later, but it was still the same, which pretty much put me off having sex for about 3 1/2 years after that. I split up with the first boyfriend (for reasons other than sex), and I didn't have sex with the next boyfriend, who I was with for 2 1/2 years... he didn't put any pressure on me... like with the first boyfriend, we were sexually active, I just drew the line at penetrative sex. We split up for many reasons, one being the fact that I refused to entertain the idea of penetrative sex and wouldn't really talk about it with him. I met someone else later that year. He had sexual experience which the other two boyfriends didn't, and inspired confidence which the other two boyfriends couldn't. He worked with me to combat my fear of the pain of sex and I finally overcame it. So, in a way, I consider myself to have lost my virginity twice. The first time was totally fullfilling emotionally, and I wouldn't have chosen anyone else to share that with. However, the second time was fulfilling in a mental and physical way... strangely bizzare in that the third relationship didn't last that long, and the bloke in question is now my fuck buddy... it seems the only thing we have left is a sexual connection...
Bet you're sorry you got me started now, aren't you?!
i'm 18, and lost my virginity about 3 weeks ago. at the time i thort it was the right thing, it just happened really. he knew i was a virgin so he was really gentle and kept asking me if i was ok. he's much more experienced and a year older and im glad he knew wat he was doing.
i wish now i hadnt done it in a way, but then im also glad i did as its out of the way so to speak, and i did like him and it didnt hurt etc etc.
i always thought i'd be scared and in the past i had been, as i'd had 2 previous occasions with 2 differnt people where i'd backed out at the last moment. but with this guy i didnt. and if he hadnt now been a complete tosser i wouldnt regret it at all
xx
Laura
I'm not uncomfortable with my body, I just haven't really settled down a great deal on the front of relationships. In fact they rarely cross my mind as I'm forever looking forward to doing things I like to with friends. I don't wish to lose my emotional independence either.
Spiritually... Sexuality is sacred, which means I'd like to keep sex spiritual... Y'know, a connection if the right person ever comes along.
But it takes a lot to keep my interest.
i was completely in love with him and he wasn't in love with me.. he was a virgin too.. but he just slept with me to have sex.. and he reckoneed that seeing i was his best friend it was almost as good as someone yhou loved.. and he didn't cuddle with me afterwards....
so that was the negative part to the emotional side to it...
this is the negative to the physical side... he was wayyyyy too big... 10 inches... and this was my first time.. and i could feel him in my stomach.. let me tell you.. it was not pleasurable.. at all
secondly.... he didn't last long enough for it to eventually become pleasurable.. aka.... a minute and half....
*cough*bullshit*cough*
actually no it's not because he's a big guy... it's proportionate to his body.
LIES!!!!
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is ten inches for a lot of men
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*sigh*
we measured it's almost 9 and 3/4
but keep in mind.. he's 6'2 and 213 pounds
it's proportionate to him
It was somewhat planned though. My bf (who;s 6 years older than me) lives a couple of hundred miles away so we planned to stay in a hotel for a few nights and see the sights of the city we were at. He knew I was a virgin and how important it was that my first time was enjoyable so he didn't pressurise me at all and was quite willing not to if I changed my mind.
But in the end it was me more keen than him hehe.
First time was quite nice, not as enjoyable as times after that but still somehow made me want to try it again
Wasn't a conscious decision at all to wait until now, I was just waiting for someone who I wanted it to be with and that was him