HELP!!! male masturbation!! guys I need help..

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Help ... people actually u guys.... I 've been living w/ my boyfriend for 6 years our sex life is great ok... but yet in the mornings when i have to get up early to go to work this guy has the need to masturbate...ok.. even if we just had great sex the night before.. I think he has a problem , he says is normal... what do u guys have to say about that? and it really bugs me him doing that I get sooo pissed off. ... but no matter what I do He won't stop.. and he thinks I never find out but I do all the time he does it I find out and go all out of control...Im I over reacting??? HELP....

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Normal.

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What exactly is your problem with it?

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well .... My problem w/ it is that I feel that no matter how much i try to satisfy he's needs... what am I not enough!! or is it just normal for guys?

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I'm sure you are satisfying him and if you're not there when he's doing it then it shouldn't be a problem. At least he isn't seeing someone else to satisfy him.

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Ah............... you are killing me.... that is exactly what he tells me but... no... I can't accept that I feel like is cheating.... It kills me inside... to the point that I feel like calling it quits on this relationship...... :mad:

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You can't split up because he likes to masturbate when you're not there. It does seem like its really bothering you so you should tell him this but he isn't doing anything wrong.

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Oh ... My god! Tell him I've been doing that for the past 5 years... and he just wont stop... so wait.. u think is totally normal.? so that means been w/ a girl daily having sex w/ her daily and wakeing up every other morning and masturbating as soon as she 's out the door is totally normal? WOW ... I don't need to do that for what IF next to me I have the real thing which should be much better than my hand!! But i guess he is just a horny guy... I don't know what to do w/ him anymore ..but getting used to him doing that I DON"T KNOW>......

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If you've been with him for six years and you want to split up with him because he wanks then you're an idiot.

Get a grip, you're blowing this out of proportion. Does he beat you? Cheat on you? If so, those are valid reasons to leave, but let the man have a bloody wank in the mornings for gawds sake!

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No... I m not an IDIOT he is.... this guy is just too much... there is more to my story ok...but what i really wanted to talk about was he masturbating problem.... not my whole life... and there for this is one of the reasons... why im seriously thinking on just calling it quits.. on this guy...

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If you're not happy in a relationship for any reason then you need to talk about it or consider ending it. Do what will make you happiest.

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Well yeah.. I guess... I just can't beleive you guys think what he is doing is totally normal.... watching porn to be able to masturbate.. to me is consider cheating...im sorry but it is.... he is looking at someone else to get where he need s to ...

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Originally posted by prettynpink
Well yeah.. I guess... I just can't beleive you guys think what he is doing is totally normal.... watching porn to be able to masturbate.. to me is consider cheating...im sorry but it is.... he is looking at someone else to get where he need s to ...

I think a lot of men do this... and women too.

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I totally agree w/ u but a person that lives w/ their couple ?? it just doesn't seem right! And yeah ! before I got w/ him I used to even do it my self! but now that I have him I feel no need to ... I don't know!!! :banghead:

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He's an idiot 'cause he masturbates?! It's a natural thing, it doesn't mean you're not doing enough. If you weren't good enough, I think he'd of said by now.

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Originally posted by prettynpink
I totally agree w/ u but a person that lives w/ their couple ?? it just doesn't seem right! And yeah ! before I got w/ him I used to even do it my self! but now that I have him I feel no need to ... I don't know!!! :banghead:

Does it take that much extra effort to write the word 'with' instead of writing w/ all the time?

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So he wanks without you. Big whoop. I get myself off with or without my boyfriend, and it doesn't bother him

You're too hung up on little things. I'd be more annoyed if we DIDN'T have sex, and he wanked on the sly. Now THAT would do my tits in. >:|

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Yeah that is true ... he has said Im really good at it!! but then again he won;t stop ! oh well I guess some day I will get use to it or maybe i should start doing it .... (Oh which by the way i have mentioned to him... and he said hell no!! not in my house !) WHAT DO U THINK ABOUT THAT????? :rolleyes:

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Originally posted by prettynpink
i should start doing it .... (Oh which by the way i have mentioned to him... and he said hell no!! not in my house !) WHAT DO U THINK ABOUT THAT?????[/COLOR] :rolleyes:

That'd get on my goat. I'd give him a slap and say "Oi, matey, it's tit for tat, or you shall never get TIT AGAIN!" And then you'd wave a fist - that'd put him in his place

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chill out,what he is doing is totally normal for most guys,not all guys have to masturbate while they are with someone,but they still do,it is part of their daily routine,something they have done for most of thier life.i wake up next to nick every morning and granted i nor him masturbate everyday,but we still do,it is just something that comes with him and you will have to deal with it. and you said you have lived with him for 6 yrs and he still does it?then there is no stopping it and you will just have to learn to except that he is just a horney guy.guys masturbate.girls masturbate.end of story.

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actually you should probably be complimented- he's probably thinking about you. granted all guys will goggle at the girls in whatever trashy magazine they grab off the top shelf, but you'll find that actually most prefer the real thing, and its the real thing, imperfections and all that gets them going- so don't think of it as cheating- he's fantasising about YOU! Its great!

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Most likely he's just a very horny bloke (nothing wrong with that, works to your advangtage) and in the morning he wakes up horny but has neither the time or energy to have sex so he masturbates.
I don't know how you can see anything wrong with this.

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Awww........ That' s sooo sweet!!! Shu... He better be thinking about me when he is doing it I very much doubt it though he is watching porn while at it!! so I guess... Is just a guy thing and I obviously gotta learn to leave w/ it .... As hard as I do find it!! though......

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Perfectly normal. You'll find a lot of men watch porn within a loving and caring relationship. It evolves from a need to be on your own from time to time - you've done it all your life etc. And a man isn't cheating on you if he just looks at a raunchy mag from time to time - its merely viewing sex from a different perspective. I'm sure he prefers you to the porn - which does he do more?

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He's not an idiot for masturbating while in a relationship, even if you do live together, and have sex every day. He's just got a high sex drive, and is doing what is only natural and normal. At least he isnt' going elsewhere!

Even without such a high sex drive, it's normal to masturbate while in a relationship. You get horny, your girlfriend isnt' available, you masturbate. Simple as that.

And you are over reacting to it, as is he with his remark when you said you should start masturbating. You both have a problem of the idea of either of you masturbating while in a relationship, and living together.

When you say he's doing it as soon as you leave, why is that? Is it simply because there isn't the time for another session in the morning, or that you don't want to have sex in the morning, either because of getting up late, or because you don't want to be all sweaty and icky for the day. I've been like that with an ex before, having to masturbate because I'm as horny as hell, and she didn't feel horny, and didn't want to get "icky" before work/college.

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how bout you set your alarm a hour early every day and give him a good fuck or something before you get up?.. sex 2 times a day... no need to play with himself and you get to join in too...

just a suggestion.

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It is perfectly normal for a guy to masterbate when he is with a girl, no matter how long they have been together... I'd actually be more worried if he didnt...but then thats just me.
What makes you so sure he does it the minute you walk out the door...? You aren't there, so you cant know for sure surely?
Or do as Ertrael says, get up earlier and shag him before you leave.
Has he ever seen you masterbate? if he hasnt, show him and he may change his mind about you not being allowed to do it in his house... I've been told it's a good sight to see from a guy's point of view...

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I don't think there's much point me replying to this as everyone has already said what would but I'll add my 2 cents worth.

Have you ever thought that your fella has a much higher sex drive than you? I have a much higher drive for sex than all of my girlfriends. I think a large percent of guys wake in the morning with a case of the 'ol "morning glory" so they masturbate. There's no harm in it, his not doing anything wrong and not hurting anyone and it ain't calssed as cheating that's for sure. Cheating in my book is physicly doing something with someone else while still with their partner. I think you need to sort out your insecurities before getting to pissed off over it... unless his doing it like 10 times a day lol!

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It definitely sounds like he has a high/higher sex drive. Nothing wrong with it. It's natural. Personally I feel like shit when I wake up in the morning and having a wank is the last thing on my mind.

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Maybe just waking up next to you and seeing you turns him on so he needs to find a release! Most guys look at porn when they wack off, but he only wanted to jerk off because hes seen you! be flattered!

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Originally posted by Mr_Wobble
He's not an idiot for masturbating while in a relationship, even if you do live together, and have sex every day. He's just got a high sex drive, and is doing what is only natural and normal. At least he isnt' going elsewhere!

Even without such a high sex drive, it's normal to masturbate while in a relationship. You get horny, your girlfriend isnt' available, you masturbate. Simple as that.

And you are over reacting to it, as is he with his remark when you said you should start masturbating. You both have a problem of the idea of either of you masturbating while in a relationship, and living together.

When you say he's doing it as soon as you leave, why is that? Is it simply because there isn't the time for another session in the morning, or that you don't want to have sex in the morning, either because of getting up late, or because you don't want to be all sweaty and icky for the day. I've been like that with an ex before, having to masturbate because I'm as horny as hell, and she didn't feel horny, and didn't want to get "icky" before work/college.

Ok now you are making sense..... yeah that is one of the reasons I hate to have sex in the mornings... Is not my thing... i like forplay and the whole package mornings I don;t do.... but he could just wait till the night!!! god im not going anywhere else but home to him,,,, but see even if we have it at night great and sweaty and all that he still feels the need in the morning is like oh mmm yyy gooodddd relaxx.....