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HELP!!! male masturbation!! guys I need help..
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Help ... people actually u guys.... I 've been living w/ my boyfriend for 6 years our sex life is great ok... but yet in the mornings when i have to get up early to go to work this guy has the need to masturbate...ok.. even if we just had great sex the night before.. I think he has a problem , he says is normal... what do u guys have to say about that? and it really bugs me him doing that I get sooo pissed off. ... but no matter what I do He won't stop.. and he thinks I never find out but I do all the time he does it I find out and go all out of control...Im I over reacting??? HELP....
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Get a grip, you're blowing this out of proportion. Does he beat you? Cheat on you? If so, those are valid reasons to leave, but let the man have a bloody wank in the mornings for gawds sake!
I think a lot of men do this... and women too.
You're too hung up on little things. I'd be more annoyed if we DIDN'T have sex, and he wanked on the sly. Now THAT would do my tits in. >:|
That'd get on my goat. I'd give him a slap and say "Oi, matey, it's tit for tat, or you shall never get TIT AGAIN!" And then you'd wave a fist - that'd put him in his place
I don't know how you can see anything wrong with this.
Even without such a high sex drive, it's normal to masturbate while in a relationship. You get horny, your girlfriend isnt' available, you masturbate. Simple as that.
And you are over reacting to it, as is he with his remark when you said you should start masturbating. You both have a problem of the idea of either of you masturbating while in a relationship, and living together.
When you say he's doing it as soon as you leave, why is that? Is it simply because there isn't the time for another session in the morning, or that you don't want to have sex in the morning, either because of getting up late, or because you don't want to be all sweaty and icky for the day. I've been like that with an ex before, having to masturbate because I'm as horny as hell, and she didn't feel horny, and didn't want to get "icky" before work/college.
just a suggestion.
What makes you so sure he does it the minute you walk out the door...? You aren't there, so you cant know for sure surely?
Or do as Ertrael says, get up earlier and shag him before you leave.
Has he ever seen you masterbate? if he hasnt, show him and he may change his mind about you not being allowed to do it in his house... I've been told it's a good sight to see from a guy's point of view...
Have you ever thought that your fella has a much higher sex drive than you? I have a much higher drive for sex than all of my girlfriends. I think a large percent of guys wake in the morning with a case of the 'ol "morning glory" so they masturbate. There's no harm in it, his not doing anything wrong and not hurting anyone and it ain't calssed as cheating that's for sure. Cheating in my book is physicly doing something with someone else while still with their partner. I think you need to sort out your insecurities before getting to pissed off over it... unless his doing it like 10 times a day lol!