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do you think that if someone hits their child regularly as their main form of discipline, then what do THEY do when they lose their rag?
Agreed.
although I dont think people who occasionally lose their temper and give their child a quick slap in anger should necessarily be barred from being parents. all children try and wind their parents up at some point, and from a logical point of view, it seems forgivable to me if a child is on a wind up, and the parent slaps it. It happens in the animal kingdom all the time. I have watched my cat swat her kittens when theyve annoyed her, although I never saw her swipe them to teach them anything in particular.
To swipe when annoyed could be seen as just instinctive behaviour, not calculated.
Children learn a lot from their parents and if a parent spanks or threatens to spank a child they are basically saying that violence or threat of violence (I'll spank you if you ....) is acceptable.
I don't know any pro-abortionists. I know plenty of pro-choice people though.
What the hell thats got to do with hitting children though, I haven't a scooby.
as a parent i used to count to three.one ...two ...three ...my kids would very rarely get the slap. they knew if i reached four they'd get one. they would push it to the very last moment and then conform to my wishes ...no pain needed.
Sorry i wouldnt agree with that.
Im obviously as your aware much older than you and as a kid I was chased round the house by my mother who used to give me the slipper (not a hard beating, just a slap). I used to work the shit of her, I was a total twat tbh. I was like most teenagers and I would work her as far as i could and I DID deserve the slipper. I have not grown up violent, I dont fight, I dont slap my Daughter at every given chance, I dont beat nobody up.
There is nothing wrong with a slap. long as we are talking slap and not a good hiding then its fine.
do you think because children do not get smacked/punished as much could be why we now have so many unruly children in society?
But to address the question, I was never ever smacked as child and it did me no harm. I don't think children should have any fear of their parents. I had friends when I was growing up who were scared of their father's in particular because their mums would say things like 'just wait until your dad gets home...' and they would be smacked for something they did several hours before - that kind of 'hiding' isn't appropriate to discipline children.
I am not against other people gently tapping their children on the hand but I don't think it should ever be done ages after the event, in public or on the body.
FAR too many kids are growing up in a world where parents are afraid to slap their kids, and this results in the dont-give-a-shit attitudes i see everywhere today, and the increasing amount of yobs.........ha i am tempted to give these kids a good belting for their parents.........but i dunno if i would be as harsh with my kids, i did resent the punishment sometimes, esp. when it was not my parents and when i did not feel it was justified or i was not forewarned.......
i have not grown up violent, far from it i am very relaxed and feel it should be up to the parents, and they should not be put off by the govt, just because some parents abuse should not stop parents smacking their kids when necessary..........should be out of love for the child/wanting them to grow up to be a good person, and not about taking out stress/anger on your kids. There's a clear difference.
From my own experiences it is the children who were hit / slapped / smacked as children who seem to grow up to be yobs.
I learnt to be scared of violence. Put me in a situation where there is the possibility of me getting in a fight and ill start to shake. Even when I'm sticking up for my friends I'll get an adrenaline rush and it'll make me feel really upset and jumpy! I'm not saying anyone enjoys getting into fights - just that I associate violence with fear and so stay very far away from them!
I think some of the kids round here would be better off if they had had the same, or maybe they had regular also timetabled smacking
I think its far more to do with lack of boundaries and the influence of a materialist capitalist culture.
Kids/teenagers know they cant be smacked and get away with murder.
In schools teachers have no control over certain pupils and I personally beleive that because things like caning have been banned the kids know there is Jack shit the teachers can do to them, so what do they do ? Yeah, they get away with murder and teachers have to take verbal abuse from these youngsters.