Painful masturbation

Former Member

Whenever my boyfriend fingers me he can never seem to find the right place to get in, so ends up too far down and in completely the wrong place and sometimes it really hurts!! I tell him to stop and then we try again, but he has never found where to go and we have been seeing each other 5 months now!!! I dont know whether I should try showing him where to go because even though I tell him to move his hand up etc, he still doesnt manage it!! He's 19 but a little inexperienced in all this, so I dont want to make him feel embarrassed about it and also I dont want to embarass myself! Has any1 got any suggestions as to how I can get him to get his hand in the right place?? Any tips at all on mutual masturbation would also be a help! THANKS!

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Nobody knows your body better than you. If you want to enjoy it you need to tell him what you prefer and how you want him to do it. It is very unlikely that he will get it right if you leave it to trial and error.

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When he's in the wrong place & it hurts, put your hand ontop of his & gently guide him. You don't even need to say a word, until he's in the right place, then let him know by telling him how nice it is. Boost his ego & he'll be even more willing to learn.

Never tell him that he's doing it wrong, just tell & show him how to do it right.

He will thank you for it & you'll have a better time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

j9

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Originally posted by Whowhere:
Nobody knows your body better than you. If you want to enjoy it you need to tell him what you prefer and how you want him to do it. It is very unlikely that he will get it right if you leave it to trial and error.

Ditto.

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I second j9's advice I was gonna say something to that effect myself b4 i read her reply.

When I have been with a guy and not liked what they have been doing I have just moved their hand gently to where I like it.
Im a bit like a driving insrtuctor sometimes though with people i've been with for a while.
Left, Right, Up, Down, Faster, Slow down and then comes the emergency stop!

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Maybe also get him to have a good look, so he actually understands your anatomy a bit better as well? I'm sure he wouldn't complain too much <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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Hi mate, i usually just shove my fingers right up my girlfriends ass, she never complains! then i pull out a great log from her ass and munch on it! lovely stuff!

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Hi mate, i usually just shove my fingers right up my girlfriends ass, she never complains! then i pull out a great log from her ass and munch on it! lovely stuff!

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We really don't need posts like this on TheSite, and if I was a moderator this would be removed.

I expect if you continue to post like this, flimmyjoyd, you will be banned shortly <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

j9



[This message has been edited by j9j9 (edited 17-12-2000).]

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Word on the street, Flimsyjoyboy, is that your girlfriends log tastes just about as good as she looks. Given that she is real premier league compared to most of the other pigs you've bedded, it speaks volumes about your taste, style and ability, or rather the complete lack of it.

Now crawl back to your u-bend, cockroach

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fj has left the building...

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<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; Heehee

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karla strikes again! what would we do without you getting rid of these freaks mate?!
anyway back to the topic, i just wanna echo advice thats already been given. definitely go for gentle encouragement rather than criticism. but if you don't guide him with what to do then chances are you'll never enjoy it.