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Wel if you treat girls so shallowly, thats why they are probably the same to you.
As for getting your first time over, whats that supposed to mean? You make it sound like a chore, it will be if you just sleep with anyone.
no, thats not how the real world works.
I have a friend, she has a nice slim figure. Her boyfriend is very overweight, *I* find him unnatractive and *I* think he is smelly.
But she loves him, and she finds him attractive.
Nor is it something to be taken so lightly! You just wanna move on...what if the girl finds it more than just something to get thru.... You're not being fair, on yourself, but seen as you're not that bothered about it.....it wouldn't be fair on the girl don't you think....?
Start thinkng of girls as just that, not pieces of meat.
Sex comes in time, theres no hurry. Sort out your problems & the rest will sort itself out. When girls get a bit older they stop going for the bad boys & start looking at the boys that are gonna respect them ect.
Get yourself a bit more active as it will make you feel better, amnd start trying to treat people with respect. Confidence is a big thing in attraction, if its not there then its hard to like someone if they don't like themselves.
What was that all about lol
Look Buseyfan, "normal" people "our/your age" arn't look-obsessed people as you make it out to be. For the love of god, looks are so over-rated: <-- That IS the real world!! You're kinda stuck in your pessimistic world, and you can't go about treating women like they are there to fulfill your sole objective, which is losing your virginity. It won't mean anything if you do it just to get it out of the way, and you probably WILL regret it. There are other things in life, believe it or not. Treat people based on who they are and not how they look, and they WILL do the same to you.
I would have had some more constructive advice but found your opinions about 'ugly women' rather pathetic so I won't bother. Perhaps you can't get a woman because you're immature and your attitude stinks? Perhaps you're just blaming your lack of personality on being fat?
Or maybe I need to stay in and masturbate over internet porn, either way's good.
Its that sad attitude thats not gonna get you anywhere.....i give up.
So you are a hot blooded male, so what?! others manage to deal with it.
I don't think there is anything else i can say as you clearly need to change you attitude. I have just had a baby & have 3/4 stone to lose. People still look at me like they did when i was a slim size 10...why? Because i treat people the way i like to be treated. I also show a little confidence even if i don't feel that good.
I think we've established here that your problem isn't your weight. In fact, you seemed more bothered about getting laid than improving your health. So fine then, well it seems to me that it's your attitude and your (lack) of personality that's stopping you from getting anywhere (serious) with a girl. You don't know anything but complain about you, your weight and how you can't get laid. No one will find you interesting if all you thihkn about is how at the end of the day you can get into their pants. You best be reading this - THAT is what you should concentrate on changing, seeing as you're obviously not that determined in sorting out your health. You really do sound pathetic - we haven't, everybody has give information on dieting, exercisng, past experience, advice, and you're still complaing and saying yes tomorrow but not until i've perved on porn...:eek2:
Just do something 'bout it!!! Go and find a gym nearby you and sign up! You'll feel beter and then things will come at their NATURAL PACE, guaranteed.
No offence to anyone here, but teens in my experience fail to realise that life is shades of grey. Why SHOULD someone who hasn't had sex yet be shunned and mocked? Is that what you fear? People who would do that (certainly in a malicious fashion) aren't your friends anyhow; don't associate with them.
You also say that you want to be 'normal' like everybody else. Well like my earlier point (shades of grey) normal is subjective. Most teens sleep around (in part) because they are young and are just enjoying their youth. To me it seems that you feel you are missing out on something.
Really?
In my opinion I think most people take BOTH physical attractiveness and personality into account.
Heck, there are even people who judge solely on personality.
The others are right, maybe it's your attitudes that stop your from 'scoring'.
Well at least you can take constructive critiscism (sp?).
Thats all good, but if the geezer wants to lose weight then he wants to lose weigh. Surely thats a good thing? We should be encouraging him.
Look dude, if you wanna lose weight then you're gonna have to change the way you eat, sleep and exercise for the rest of your life.
There ain't no quick fix. tbh I found it pretty silly when you said... "I tried diets but they didn't work"... :rolleyes:
What you want is a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE.
What kinda food do you eat now? Give us an example of what you typically eat on a normal day.
And also how much you exercise.
am I the only one that can see it?
Well maybe you should`ve read them then cause that`s not the case at all. They`re just trying to point out that it`s probably his attitude, not his weight that`s causing his lack of success with the girlies. Whether he wants to lose weight or not is up to him, but probably a whole other story.
Unfortunately, they are the exceptions to the rule. Most slim people are often 'sizest'.
I think Buseyfan may be taking this thead a bit tongue in cheek. I wouldn't worry to much about anyone who isn't prepared to help themselves.