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I am fat
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Hi everyone, I'm new to this site and was just after a bit of advice. Basically my trouble is that I can't get any girls, because I'm fat! I've tried dieting and all, but it doesn't seem to do any good. Any advice?
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First off how old are you, and exactally how tall are you and how much do you weigh?
Cool =-)
...What i would go with is every time you get home from school/work go for a 1hr walk, get the cd player from the store, and just go with the music. That made me go from 17 Stone to 11 Stone (6'3)
When I walk around I often see fat people (both males and females) with partners. Evidently these people HAVE partners because their SO is attracted to their personality or even physically attracted.
So that doesn't necessarily mean that being fat doesn't mean you have to be alone and dateless.
Maybe the girls you try to hit on or associate with are particularly shallow or they simply aren't attracted to fat males.
I'm big and have a fiance, and have had one-night stands, my housemate's fiance is big, etcetera etcetera.
If you think "no-one wants to fuck me because I'm fat" then nobody WILL want to fuck you; in order to be attractive you have to be confident, or at least not staring at your boots the whole damn time. People like all shapes and sizes, you just have to have the confidence to appeal to them.
And?
Some girls dig big blokes.
If you aren't confident then you won't ever find anyone, even those who like big men.
People like different people, but you have to let them.
Perhaps losing a stone in weight will give you more confidence.
Sounds to me mate, you just want a quick fix.
You need to be in the frame of mind to WANT to lose weight. If you're accepting it, and not have any intention of working for what you really want - poonani
Um .. what do you want us to say? Obviously you haven't tried hard enough and a defeatist attitude won't help either. And perhaps if the girls you choose are all slim little Britney look-a-likes, then you probably will be disappointed.
Seems harsh I know but life is unfair ...
Why tomorrow? Why not now?
Never put off for tomorrow what you can do now.
Ilora x
1) atkins diet: do this for no more than 4 weeks - but stick to it stricly. Lay off the carbs and get down to your ideal weight. By sticking to it for a short time you'll lose the weight without doing too much damage.
2) this is the important part - keeping the weight off. This part of the diet is slightly more conventional - regular exercise, heating healthily etc. Try to do regular exercise every day - no exuses whatsoever. The excercise should become more easier with the weight already lost. A good idea would be to team up with a mate or join some kind of sports club - this would make you actually do the excercise rather than say "oh i'll do it 2moro" and so on.
If you do not lose enough weight in the 4 weeks of being on the diet you could stay on it a little longer but its extremely important not to stay on it too long ! By staying on it your cholesterol will build up meaning you will have an unhealthy heart and would also mean you cannot play sports easily.
Hope that helps, any problems or questions or anything feel free to PM me Busey, and any1 else for that matter
Just a note there, Average chicks arnt ugly man, I can assure you from experance they are you best first girlfirends. As long as you get to know a person mentally you will get to them physically as well.
Best advice i can offer is something people tell me to get rid of. When i said i was fat, i was, and i kept that mentality, this in my mind allowed me to keep the weight off. "Do i want that macca's nah, ill go to subway ;-)" Subway is the best!
First off, you should lose weight becuase YOU want to, not because other people do. Second off, your health should come first which means 1) you should probably lose some weight but 2) do it slowly and sensibly. This means no faddy diets like Atkins - you'll only put everything back on again.
Exercise is an absolute must - start small with wlaking and build up as you get fitter. Take a lookie here for loads of useful features.
Start by cutting all the extra junk food out of your diet then when your body has adjusted to that, take a goopd look at what you are eating. The key is to have a balanced det that fills you up ad gives you all the nutrients you need. Make sure all your food groups are represented.
Look here for lots of health and diet features.
Good luck!
Good luck mate!
its not that what made me say oh my god.
its the fact that you are steriotyping people by the way they look.
Just because you find yourself unattractive it doesnt mean you can only shag someone who you find unattractive.
Everyone has their own opinion of what is and is not attractive, most people seeing the brain as the most attractive feature, with an attitude like yours chances are nobody will like you as a person
I don't agree with that, thin people dont all go for thin people & fat people don't all go with fat people.
As for advise for Buseyfan, i think you need to do a little growing up before you go looking for a girl. Losing your virginity isn't a race you know!