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I'm just wondering how you met her?
Most people in their early 20s would hardly come into contact with 16 year olds in a socialising sense. They probably go uni/work, and the 16 year olds still go school.
You can't meet them at the pub/club cuz they're too young, so how did you even meet her, let alone talk to her, let alone get flirty with her, let alone start loving her....?
I agree with Kaffrin, she probably has a millions crushes a day.
*Why do I ALWAYS read Kaffrin's name as...... Karrafin??? :crazyeyes *
Ive done plenty of things you lot would seriously disapprove of, I look back and think a lot of it I would have done differently given the chance again, but then on the other hand, past experiences have made me who I am today.
I dont think a 16 year old having a relationship with a 25 year old is going to ruin her life, unless he stops her from doing what she wants and trying to get her to settle down, because hes at a different stage in life to her. As long as hes not being abusive or coercive then theres nothing wrong IMO. Just because hes older doesnt mean hes any more likely to do that.
Irrelevant of whatever your personal tastes may be, you've got to agree that he's found someone who's simple existence makes him happy.
And that's marvellous
16 = kid - no matter what anybody says
18 = "adult"
It would also depend on how streetwise she is. My boyfriend's parents were married when his mum was 16, and they were pretty happy then. But she was very streetwise - if the girl's still at school and still very much a child then it seems unlikely, to me, that it's going to work out. You'd both be wanting different things from the relationship. You also have to look at how it would affect your reputations - I know it's not supposed to be an issue, but if you're both going to get a lot of stick from your mates for the age gap then it could eventually begin to bother you.
Most people, at 16 though, are still pretty "young". And at 25 you tend to be a LOT more grown up, therefore there probably is too big a gap.
Does anyone think an 18yr old going out with a 15 yr old is a big age difference?
I mean go for it if you want, but if I were in your position I wouldn't. People are still naieve at 16, I mean how many 16 year olds know what they want from life at that age? How many are 100% aware of their sexuality, of who they are?
No offense, just an opinion based on life. I know people in relationships that have bigger age gaps that do Ok.
Not if you're a pikey
Lol, i thought I'd typed that bladdered, n not remembered it - coz I'm exactly the same, ive got a friend I flirt with whos 13 n im 16, but only messin around etc. n just good m8's. I don't really get called a perve for it though. N if i did I would laugh it off:D
Anyone noticed that it seems to be the older generation which seem to find the age more of an issue than the younger people on the forum.... maybe because they may be parents and had these worries themselves....
just a thought
HARSH... (but fair)
Yes. I'm 18, my 2 kinda major relationships have been with boys who are now 17. That's probably the youngest I would go; maybe 16. But I have a completely different life to those lads now. When I went out with them I was at 6th form and they were at school, and now they're at 6th form and I'm at uni, and I think that's partly what broke me and my last boyfriend up.
Not just because we may be parents part is because we have been 25 and we know what its like to be 25. I cannot understand why a 25yr old would be interested in a kid, unless its like to have some trophy on their arm kinda thing............sorry but if she was 18/19 and he was 25/26 then id think totally different, at 18/19 she is an adult and will have properly matured (hopefully)
Nobody can say really, but if we base it on an age thing then a 16 yr old needs to be meeting people somewhere near her own age, not someone who is 9 years older. A 25 yr old has had his fun and should let the 16 yr old have her fun. If they happen to meet up in a couple of years and they wanna carry on then go for it, but just wait that bit of time.
Agree totally and then have her growing up thinking all men are Bastards.
not disagreeing with you hun, just an observation that there seems to be a divide in this thread
Get this, she used to go out with a 35 year old right after her 16th birthday, and she was sleeping with him.. and he knew her for like 4/5 years before hand..
Does anyone else think that is a tad FUCKED up?
It is a bit, but I think you should confront her with this if you're still bothered by it, rather than flaming her for her past.
We have had a lot of conversations about it so it's all OK.
Personally, my younger sister is 16 and I think for anyone to be looking at her in that way who is 35 years old in my books is as good as a pedophile, and I'd soon be building a patio in my garden if anyone did go for her who was that old..
When my girlfriend would be turning his age now, he'd be 54!
IMO, sicko.
Whatchu talkin' bout, Willis!
Anyways, my sister had a Sugar Daddy when she was 17, he was like..40 odds.
She says it's an experience however it would just sicken me, unless it was Brad Pitt, or Bruce Willis..:flirt:..I'd be WELL into frolicking toward the sack with either one..or both at the same time..:chin:
I'm 18, and I certainly don't feel grown up at all. I've always been mature for my age, yet I'm still pretty naive. Maybe that's just the type of person I am though. Hmm. I couldn't see me dating anyone older than my boyfriend (he'll be 21 in July).
Someone said something about the 16 year old wanting to go out clubbing and the 25 year old wanting to go to pubs. I can honestly say I've never had the urge to go clubbing, and would much rather go for a nice chat in the pub anyday. So in that way they may not be that different.
I agree. That is pretty fucked up.
In America it's spelt without the A.
Well the fact this guys brother, went out with her sister, if you catch my drift.
So this guy has seen her grow from like 12 years old up to 16 (and she hardly looked it), waited til pretty much her 16th birthday before bedding her, cheating on her, fucking her up on drugs then going back to his wife and kids..
And sorry but if she was a month younger and she was still 15, would you consider him being a paedophile then???
just a personal situation.
hicks
thats just getting silly, of course it doesn't matter. in my opinion it starts getting weird when the other person's 10 years older or over... well, that's my opinion anyway. 3 years apart is a healthy gap in a relationship, surely...!
i'm sure they meant to say it was okay really.