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why do good guys never get the girl

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey people - just a thought. the amount of times recently i hear girls telling people and me about how nasty/annoying/unkind etc their boyfriends are, is amazing.
and yet the amount of times i hear these same girls saying 'oh your such a nice guy i don't see how u havent got a girlfriend' is similarly amazing.

why do girls in general go for the bastard blokes, and the nice guys (the ones they say they'd marry) get jack s**t.

maybe its just me being unlucky.
any similar experiences?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    down at fraggle rock *boom boom*

    sorry had to

    welcome

    there is a tread laying around here some where on this topic. but in short girls like the bad guys cos its 'cool' 'exciting' thay move one thou. its a got the t-shirt kinda thing
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nice guys are apparently boring, they drink coco at bed-time and do jigsaw puzzles. The bastards seem more exciting, they spend their time sleeping with other women.

    I am unfortunatly neither, I'm a decent bloke who's always up for a laugh but I can be a really big knob aswell. I don't get nearly enough action; either from women or from my jigsaw puzzles.

    "Excellent!" <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/Gif/burns.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fraggle,

    It's a viscious circle.. speaking from the womans perspective and personally speaking.. we don't go out looking for the bastard but we usually end up with them.. I have yet to meet/date a nice guy.. WHERE THE FUCK ARE THEY.. are they all living on the Isle of Cows???

    There is a bastard in all men, regardless of how "nice" they are... the same applies to women i.e. there's a bitch in every woman..

    It's all about the thrill of the chase, treat 'em mean keep 'em keen.. HOW TRUE..

    If you are a nice guy then you are a rare breed.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I always go for the bad guy look but it is nice when a nice guy comes along and sweeps you off your feet.


    did that sound as bad as it looks <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Annie:
    Fraggle,

    It's a viscious circle.. speaking from the womans perspective and personally speaking.. we don't go out looking for the bastard but we usually end up with them.. I have yet to meet/date a nice guy.. WHERE THE FUCK ARE THEY.. are they all living on the Isle of Cows???

    It is quite obvious Annie that you are a real man hater. Do yourself a favour and shut your mouth if you have nothing decent to add to a discussion. It is obvious you have been In Ireland far to long with the rest of the cabbages.


    There is a bastard in all men, regardless of how "nice" they are... the same applies to women i.e. there's a bitch in every woman..

    It's all about the thrill of the chase, treat 'em mean keep 'em keen.. HOW TRUE..

    If you are a nice guy then you are a rare breed.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I always go 4 bad lads cos there more exciting and wanna do more stuff and in general there more of a laugh! and yeah the nice lads of the world dont seem exciting, they seem boring and ud rather be on ure own with them! ive never met a nice, fun lad! So bad lads win n eday wiv me!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It seems to girls that the nice guys are there to be mates with not to have a releationship with.
    When we get to the age where we are thinking bout gettin married have no fear nice guys... u will win out there, n get the girl because although 'bad' guys seem more exciting at times, the geniune guys who don't go around sleeping wiv other girls (whilst havin a gf) will seem much more appealing! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    xxxs

    No man is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    Well im probably what you would call a geek, i wear glasses don't drink don't smoke, and im doing a programming course. But you should see my girlfriend, you wouldn't put us together if you saw her. I don'tnow if it my biggen or my money, but she met before i was rich so it must be love. Been seeing here for 5 years now!
    Keep trying fraggle you'll meet the right girl who loves you, i did!

    Cheers

    Danny

    Be good and live hard!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Another point of view is that girls need something to fix. If your perfect they feel insecure and don't know of a reason why you would stay with them. How many times have I heard "You are great in bed, but your just to perfect. Sorry" and after only a date or two.

    Thanatos-jr
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Here right, how would the girls define being "nice" and "bad" and "fun"? I'll describe myself and tell me which of the above I am.

    Well I'm always really friendly with most people, I always look out for my mates, I'm described as being "sound as fuck" a lot of the time, I like getting drunk, stoned and pilled out my head, always up for a laugh but I'm never really a dick to anyone, love goin clubbin, not afraid to try anythin new: gotta try everythin twice!! Oh yeh and I'm studying an internet course at uni.

    Edited cos im stoned as fuck and cant type! 'Tis what bongs do tae ya!

    [This message has been edited by BARTONIOUS (edited 21-11-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    big problem, guys! but it works both ways.

    EG: do u know how can u transform a chicken into a pitbull?

    u marry her.

    work seriously damages health
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    interesting response people, but its still unfair.
    i mean i consider myself to be friendly, likeable, i try my hardest to be funny (some of the time it works) im not blessed with the looks of brad pitt but then im not unattractive(as many people have said) i enjoy going out and trying to pull( but i dont sleep around) and i love drinking fairly large amounts of alcohol.
    the thing im not is one of the guys i often see in clubs who hangs out with their 'boys' and makes sleazy remarks to girls as they walk past. why though girls do i see u 9 time s out of 10 snogging these same blokes?

    lifes a bitch...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The thing is, these same blokes have some much confidence and will try to chat up girls, they also will try to chat up just about every girl there so thay are bound to get someone. Bear in mind also that some girls are pretty much the same, and will onlu be snogging these blokes for a one night thing. If you are looking for a relationship, get to know people at college or whatever. Meeting people in clubs is unlikely to lead to anything except one night stands, or maybe a bit more, but you don't really know them. My boyfriend used to be my best friend, he is a 'nice guy' and i love him to pieces.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    does n e 1 out there know how 2 make a girl notice a nice guy i am just seen as "there" by women i simply exist i am a nice guy and i feel i could really show a girl a good time i suppose i am guilty by association my friends r all a bit twat headed when it comes 2 girls and im just seen as 1 of them will this ever change?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Most of the time the nice guys seem boring unless you can unwrap them and find out what they are made of.So keep looking and try chatting up some shy looking guys
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nice guys aint that easy to find, we are normally the ones who stick around to make sure our female friends get home ok. or the ones who are making sure everyone is happy.

    the best way to find a nice bloke is to ask ur mates to set u up with one, that way you know they will be nice, and the guy wont be intimidated by u walking up to them in a club.

    any in my opinion loads of women say they are lookin for a nice guy but deep down they arent *bah humbug* heehee
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well thanku guys, alot of info there. One more question though to throw into the equation. When a girl is going out with a bastard and they meet a 'really nice person'(like me) whos 'so much better than their b/f ' why do the ladies tend to stay with the b/f?
    it always seems amazing to me that someone can moan about their b/f for hours on end but never make the step to split up with them, even though they usually realise they would be a hell of a lot better off with out them.

    it seems to me that many women prefer to be going out with a twat than to be single or getting closer to a truly nice guy?
    is this a security thing or jsut something to really annoy the nice guys?

    fraggle
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