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tied 2 a partner or Swingin' single?
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ok, hey peple, how you doing?
I have recently found myself asking myself the above question, and I thought 'why dont I ask the people who I can trust to dispense some advice?' ok here goes....
I find it hard to talk to people, especially womenfolk, I am the shyest person on this planet and I have to be as drunk as hell to relax competely. I am always psychologically interpreting every comment that is directly or indirectly aimed at me, and it is driving me insane. 2 of my friends have been in relationships which have lasted, one over 3 years and one about 9 months, I have always been surrounded by happy couiples, and due to my inability to 'pull', I am getting more and more wound up and depressed. HELLLLPPP!!!!
Scotty.
p.s., some fool has stolen my name, and Im not the same person who wrote that 'lust or love' topic. I am Male and not gay, althouhg I have no problems with homosexuals, I just don like being referred to as one.
I have recently found myself asking myself the above question, and I thought 'why dont I ask the people who I can trust to dispense some advice?' ok here goes....
I find it hard to talk to people, especially womenfolk, I am the shyest person on this planet and I have to be as drunk as hell to relax competely. I am always psychologically interpreting every comment that is directly or indirectly aimed at me, and it is driving me insane. 2 of my friends have been in relationships which have lasted, one over 3 years and one about 9 months, I have always been surrounded by happy couiples, and due to my inability to 'pull', I am getting more and more wound up and depressed. HELLLLPPP!!!!
Scotty.
p.s., some fool has stolen my name, and Im not the same person who wrote that 'lust or love' topic. I am Male and not gay, althouhg I have no problems with homosexuals, I just don like being referred to as one.
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sorry i can't exactly offer a lot of advice m8, but i can at least show that you're not the only one out there feeling the way you are
Male shyness...
I used to suffer from the same problem. Never approaching girls, when they approached me not knowing if they were interested.. never making the first move.. all that shit...
Way I got out of it, was changed my image.. came more happy with myself.. more confident in myself... That may've reflected in the way I put myself accross altho I still had problems approaching girls... But I got more confident.. more cocky/arogant if u like.
N girls approached me... they pulled me... from that I got even more confident n started playing a bit... refusing girls n leading girls on.. getting a reputation..
N alltho I still dont make the first move with a complete stranger.. I would sorta let them know I'm interested without talking n get them interested enuff to approach me first n talk.
Same here! I just tend to go out and do stuff! But it gets me down when I have no money and I can't go out. I would also love to fall asleep with a girl I love in my arms!
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
scotty, you have to laern to love yourself, as daze said really, and become more self confidant and not care so much about what other people think (although i know its hard, i used to be really shy too). and if you try and forget the issue your friends are in relationships or have been, it doesnt reflect badly on you or make you any less of a person, you just havent found the right girl yet. and like everyone says, if you're not looking, thats the most likely time you'll find someone, when you're least expecting it! funny how that works. but just try nto to worry about it, you dont need a girlfriend to be a better person or anything, and believe me, relationships have their hassles as well as the good points! you WILL find someone one day, dont worry! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
1 Life= 1 shot
if nothing else, make it a good one for yourself!
Funny how when you click on the profile it comes up the same though????
any ideas anyone?
j9
Blimey, that's fast <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
He just seemn cool 2 me.
kidding, u will find somebody, I did it without trying!
S2H
I think we either have 2 people who are exactly the same on our hands (very unlikely) or else someone who is just writing things to see how people reply! What do you think scotty 2 hotty?
*Tara*
[This message has been edited by TaraReader (edited 19-12-2000).]
Hopefully one day you'll meet a bloke you like enough to make the leap of faith (it always is) and trust him. Noone's perfect, so you'll have to accept his mistakes, but if you can learn to trust everything will look rosier. Good luck, but you will have to try, trust won't be easy no matter who he is.
Hope this thought is relevant to something/one, cos I can't remember why I posted it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
Viti kuin muuri.
Fancy a date with me cause I put the gerr back in swinger baby <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> Sorry been watching Austin Powers too much.
Seriously though, you really don't have anything to worry about cause you are a nice girl and a guy will be more than happy to be with you! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
As for meeting people, I'm shy too BUT you have nothing to lose if you try!
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
Don't taunt the newbies Turtle, naughty boy lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
j9
Anyway, I'll tease who I bloody well like. Divine, welcome to TheSite. Don't let me put you off - most ppl here are nice. Avoid Monkey_Boy. He's a trouble making. Ignore j9 - she's a 65 year old drunkard <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> You know i'm joking guys. Both are wonderful ppl.
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
now where's my zimmer frame, I cant see it now someone's nicked my glasses
j9
luv and peace guys
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
*Tara*
The original Scotty has been here for a while & posts intermittently, I got a bit confused with the "other" one, still, never mind eh?
j9