tied 2 a partner or Swingin' single?

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ok, hey peple, how you doing?

I have recently found myself asking myself the above question, and I thought 'why dont I ask the people who I can trust to dispense some advice?' ok here goes....

I find it hard to talk to people, especially womenfolk, I am the shyest person on this planet and I have to be as drunk as hell to relax competely. I am always psychologically interpreting every comment that is directly or indirectly aimed at me, and it is driving me insane. 2 of my friends have been in relationships which have lasted, one over 3 years and one about 9 months, I have always been surrounded by happy couiples, and due to my inability to 'pull', I am getting more and more wound up and depressed. HELLLLPPP!!!!

Scotty.

p.s., some fool has stolen my name, and Im not the same person who wrote that 'lust or love' topic. I am Male and not gay, althouhg I have no problems with homosexuals, I just don like being referred to as one.

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i'm exactly the same i'm really shy and coupled with a lack of confidence it's a death sentence really, plus girls just don't fancy me i just keep hearing the same excuses over and over again. to be honest if a girl ever actually said yes i'd probably faint and i wouldn't have a clue where to go from there.

sorry i can't exactly offer a lot of advice m8, but i can at least show that you're not the only one out there feeling the way you are

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Seems like the most common problem ever nowadays..
Male shyness...

I used to suffer from the same problem. Never approaching girls, when they approached me not knowing if they were interested.. never making the first move.. all that shit...

Way I got out of it, was changed my image.. came more happy with myself.. more confident in myself... That may've reflected in the way I put myself accross altho I still had problems approaching girls... But I got more confident.. more cocky/arogant if u like.
N girls approached me... they pulled me... from that I got even more confident n started playing a bit... refusing girls n leading girls on.. getting a reputation..
N alltho I still dont make the first move with a complete stranger.. I would sorta let them know I'm interested without talking n get them interested enuff to approach me first n talk.

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Originally posted by RachaelHolmes:
I love being single, just wish I wasn't so damn lonely all the time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

Same here! I just tend to go out and do stuff! But it gets me down when I have no money and I can't go out. I would also love to fall asleep with a girl I love in my arms!

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Girl-From-Mars

aww thats so sweet broken heart! you'll find someone for you one day, im sure of it, you seem like a really nice person from reading stuff on here youve posted, a girl out there would just love you to be her boyfriend i expect.

scotty, you have to laern to love yourself, as daze said really, and become more self confidant and not care so much about what other people think (although i know its hard, i used to be really shy too). and if you try and forget the issue your friends are in relationships or have been, it doesnt reflect badly on you or make you any less of a person, you just havent found the right girl yet. and like everyone says, if you're not looking, thats the most likely time you'll find someone, when you're least expecting it! funny how that works. but just try nto to worry about it, you dont need a girlfriend to be a better person or anything, and believe me, relationships have their hassles as well as the good points! you WILL find someone one day, dont worry! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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thanx GFM, but I dont know, i know this sounds crazzzy but it got me so down at one point that i contemplated not waking up the next morning! its just the last 3 girls i have really liked, have given me the 'your such a good friend, and Im not ready for a relationship, then 2 days later had a new boyfriend, Im just so depressed!

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Girl-From-Mars

thats a shame <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; its a bit insensitive of them togo out with blokes days after theyve said that to you, do they not think you'll notice or something? maybe its because they value your friendship so much and dont want to ruin it? it can be a valid reason, a couple of friends of mine didnt go out for ages, despite being crazy about each other, because of the friend thing. that friend has a thing about ruining friendships, hes had a lot of shit happen to him from supposed "friends". but honestly, you WILL meet the right person one day! sorry i dont know how old you are or anything.. if you go to uni, what about then? you're sure to meet loads of liek minded people and might find someone you have loads in common with. its only happened for me recently, ive never been out with anyone before my current boyfriend, too shy to do anything about it! anyway, good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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I feel the same way. I'v been single for the past 6 months. I know it doesn't seme like a long time. I have only had 2 real boyfriends in my life.

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Originally posted by Scotty 2 Hotty:


p.s., some fool has stolen my name, and Im not the same person who wrote that 'lust or love' topic. I am Male and not gay, althouhg I have no problems with homosexuals, I just don like being referred to as one.

Funny how when you click on the profile it comes up the same though????

any ideas anyone?

j9

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Scotty, I think we should get together.

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Originally posted by Jessica_r:
Scotty, I think we should get together.

Blimey, that's fast <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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I was just kiding!!!
He just seemn cool 2 me.

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read my new topic in the sex category, just too late!

kidding, u will find somebody, I did it without trying!

S2H

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that is strange j9! Even their interests are the same....I wonder....!!!
I think we either have 2 people who are exactly the same on our hands (very unlikely) or else someone who is just writing things to see how people reply! What do you think scotty 2 hotty?

*Tara*

[This message has been edited by TaraReader (edited 19-12-2000).]

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I hate bein single and Im terrified that I will be for the rest of my life, yet Im never confortable in a relationship as I dont trust blokes and I feel too vulnerable. Guess I cant win really can I!?

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Cheers Rach...just excuse my mood 2nite...am very fed up with life right now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">. Thanx for making me feel better though <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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Originally posted by lolly:
I hate bein single and Im terrified that I will be for the rest of my life, yet Im never confortable in a relationship as I dont trust blokes and I feel too vulnerable. Guess I cant win really can I!?

Hopefully one day you'll meet a bloke you like enough to make the leap of faith (it always is) and trust him. Noone's perfect, so you'll have to accept his mistakes, but if you can learn to trust everything will look rosier. Good luck, but you will have to try, trust won't be easy no matter who he is.

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i can;t remember the exact line, but I know it was our of good will hunting when Robin Williams (innit?) - the pshrink - says "No one's perfect - we love the a person for their idiosycnracies." How true that line is...it's what identifies ppl.

Hope this thought is relevant to something/one, cos I can't remember why I posted it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;

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Originally posted by lolly:
Cheers Rach...just excuse my mood 2nite...am very fed up with life right now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">. Thanx for making me feel better though <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

Fancy a date with me cause I put the gerr back in swinger baby <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; Sorry been watching Austin Powers too much.

Seriously though, you really don't have anything to worry about cause you are a nice girl and a guy will be more than happy to be with you! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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U make me laugh broken heart...why the hell would u wanna go on a date with a lard arse pregnant girl?! But if you're offering... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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I only slept with one person for a year and then a month after we broke up I had sex with someone I met and it was so amazing.

As for meeting people, I'm shy too BUT you have nothing to lose if you try!

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It's hard to have sex with someone you haven't met, Divine.

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Originally posted by Turtle:
It's hard to have sex with someone you haven't met, Divine.

Don't taunt the newbies Turtle, naughty boy lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

j9

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But it's true - you try it! You cannot have sex with someone you haven't met - it's physically impossible!!!! Even I can work that out! Jeez...

Anyway, I'll tease who I bloody well like. Divine, welcome to TheSite. Don't let me put you off - most ppl here are nice. Avoid Monkey_Boy. He's a trouble making. Ignore j9 - she's a 65 year old drunkard <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; You know i'm joking guys. Both are wonderful ppl.

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I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.

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hic

now where's my zimmer frame, I cant see it now someone's nicked my glasses

j9

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tara reader you have learnt the drill around here fast! you and j9 make a great team of freak spotters - this one did seem a bit suspicious didn't he!
luv and peace guys

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has scotty2hotty left? I haven't seen a post from him for quite a while now, or maybe I just haven't been looking hard enough <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

*Tara*

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Originally posted by TaraReader:
has scotty2hotty left? I haven't seen a post from him for quite a while now, or maybe I just haven't been looking hard enough <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

*Tara*

The original Scotty has been here for a while & posts intermittently, I got a bit confused with the "other" one, still, never mind eh?

j9