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It's totally different from cheating. The guy was her ex. Whatever he gets up to with other poeople after that has fuck all to do with her.
If that happens she might be over the ex by then, if not she's going to get hurt - the same thing that'd happen if wee laura told her.
It's been a month already, and it's a gamble that most people are probably willing to take.
Yeah, keeping something from her friend that she knows would hurt her. Not wanting to hurt your friend seems like a pretty good thing to do to me.
If you were any kind of friend you wouldn't feel less guilty after telling her. If it hurts her then you're gonna be the cause of that hurt, you'll feel shitloads worse cos trust me, it ain't nice to see people you care about hurting cos of you.
And if you tell her and don't feel guilty anymore then you really weren't a good enough friend to begin with.
But at least you know you've been honest with one of your best friends; people who say they don't lie annoy me because not only will they lie to people they don't know but also to their best friends in circumstances like this.
I think you should tell her because then you know you've been honest. A friendship is like a relationship in that one lie, or one untold truth, can undermine the whole thing - maybe not today or tomorrow but in weeks or months.
She's not lying though. Her friend hasn't actually asked her if they've had sex.
If you read my post again it says "one lie, or one untold truth," - which indicates either a lie, or the present situation (untold truth) in that she's keeping something from her friend that concerns her friend.
Maybe her friend wont care. But the fact that Laura cares that her friend doesn't know will affect their friendship.
xxx soph xxx
But that so doesn't work. So if a girl has a boyfriend and goes off and has sex with another guy, but her boyfriend doesn't ask her if she's had sex with another guy, that means she's not lying to her boyfriend?