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If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
it's a he.
Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.
~*cHoOsEy LoVeR~*
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thank you emma. careful, ur associating urself with me again, dangerous hobby.
If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
Look, the sort of girl that wonders if she should at 16, have a baby with a guy she has known for 2 months, is not going to college.
I didn't vote for the welfare system, but if the system is there, you might as well abuse it, and hopefully if enough people abuse it, enough social problems arise, people will start to think that maybe, just possibly, welfare is a PROBLEM, not a solution.
1. A dog
2. Money
3. An old woman
so, your 18 bf doesn't seem to belong to any of these categories. I've had 18, I also wanted a child with my ex at that age, but (I know it sound stupid) time changes people.
U better think twice, coz you might otherwise hurt your (still unborn) child
work seriously damages health
OK, KZA, were u ever 16? I remember feeling broody at 16. It's silly, naive, adolescent feelings (sorry Nikki). They pass pretty quickly and common sense sets in. Luckily enough I never acted upon them. And yes, I'm at university, am set to graduate with a possible first class honours degree and have a fantastic relationship with my fiance. Yes, Nikki should not have a child now. Anyone can see that. No, she is not some social welfare scum of the earth. She's just young and in love. Leave her alone.
Why you'll never be prime minister. Too blinkered a vision of life.
umm...whoever sed i wont be going to college, i dont think u realise im fromengland, i have left school and im in college now...my boyf wont cheat(altho i know nothings ever certain--im not as naive as i may come across!) he was cheated on by his ex and i genuinely believe he wouldnt do that to me...and can i stress.....and im usin caps for attention not 4 bein aggresive....IVE KNOWN HIM WELL OVER TWO MONTHS!! I KNOW HIM REALLY WELL, I WAS MATES WITH HIM WHEN HIS GIRLF CHEATED ON HIM, AND HE WAS CRYIN ON MY SHOULDER(WELL KINDA!) AND IVE SEEN HIM BE A MALE SLUT SINCE THEN ASWELL (LOL) AND THEN HE CALMED DOWN...WAS SINGLE FOR A WHILE...AND WE GOT TOGETHER.
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oh yeh the 'welfare system'--american term there! i dont think i'll need it coz he starts trainin to be a firefighter soon and gets an excellent wage...and thats just for training!!
i swear im not p****d off or angry im just getting my point across...im in quite a good mood actually....regardless!!
even tho there r a lot of ppl warning me against it....would u still chat to me about anything...if i was pg would u be happyish 4 me??
Yeah I know your from england, thats why I called it university.
Well what do they call that in England. Its still welfare right? I wanted to talk about Domestic Purposes Benefit vs. Unemployment Benefit. But wasn't sure if those terms are used in England either. Thought everyone would understand 'welfare'.
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1. Don't trick him into it
2. He hasn't said he'll marry you
3. Marriage is no guarantee you won't fall apart when the demands of a young child become too much. Make sure you understand the cost of having a child.
5. You can't change your mind after the kid is born, he can!
6. You can't stop caring for a child when the demands become too much
7. What happened to no 4!
However! If you really think you can cope with the demands and pressures this will put on your relationship
and can remain strong - do what feels right
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1. Don't trick him into it
2. He hasn't said he'll marry you
3. Marriage is no guarantee you won't fall apart when the demands of a young child become too much. Make sure you understand the cost of having a child.
5. You can't change your mind after the kid is born, he can!
6. You can't stop caring for a child when the demands become too much
7. What happened to no 4!
1= I wouldnt have too (and i never would!) he wants to have a baby aswell, he's just as keen--if not more--as me!
2/3 = I think i made it clear on here that i dont think that im ever gonna be 'safe'. theres no guarantee's on anything!
5= i truly dont think he would, even if he did, he'd still pay maintenance coz his ex thought she was pg and he wasnt gonna have n e thin to do with it but he was still gonna give her money for it.....at the worst situation, i would be prepared to be a single parent, i think i made this point clear aswell, anybody considerin being a parent shud be prepared tro do it by themselves...just in case.
6= so true, but i speak to single teen mums on the net and they give good advice
7= well i cant remember who it was before, but someone had something stuck up their bum--must be number 4! heh heh!
in a word, i think u r insane. im sorry if that sounds harsh, but thats wot i think. remind me again - whats the big rush? youve got about another 20 years at least during which ull b able 2 have kids, so y not wait, enjoy ur youth, and have kids in a few years time? if everything is as u say it is, then ur b/f and u will still b 2gether, and ull have more quailifications/money/stable future etc. about the welfare state - i just hate ppl who scrounge off that. bloody commies (sorry, socialists) shud neva have set the damn thing up in the first place. its why we have such a low productivity ratio in the uk - ppl just think 'oh, i dont actually have 2 work, the government will give me money 4 doing nothing' so they dont work as hard as in say, the US or japan. sorry, but gtg!
Because I want more stars.
don't criticise welfare, for people who really are hard up, because of a disability, or something serious, then welfare is fantastic, but it's so abused that it becomes crap.
Devon
The earth is made of dirt and wood, and I'd be water if I could
be glad u rnt like that.
dont forget when i was planning on goin for benefits i had a legit reason, some ppl get it when they r workin and totally abuse the system.
IF he did split up with you, or you with him then what I am trying to say is that generally the bulk of the childcare is taken up by the mother. I know single parents and although the father is still around, they actually have lone responsibility for the day to day care of their child while the father just takes them at the weekend. Thats all.
I saw it with my own parents and they were married for 21 years or more - my mum still ended up with most of the stress, strain and financial hassle. Yes you would get financial help but doing things like getting a kid dressed, to school, the creche, round the shops, to bed, etc etc will be your sole responsibility if it all goes wrong.
I totally understand what you are saying....and I am prepared to do all that...my sister is a single parent of two..and she has no financial help from the kids dads. I am not naive to the whole situation, ive made sure ive thought everything thru and i have had my doubts(i would be daft not too) but i am, i feel, as prepared as im ever gonna be! I am in contact with a lot of teen parents on the net thru clubs. also my best mate is trying to get pregnant coz i am...i set her broodiness off...which is daft coz i dont think she thinks about it like i do....i'm gonna have a loooooong talk with her then if she does decide to go through with it....we'll have each other <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">(but not in the sense of old women living together with 30 cats!!)
ANd remember that, when you have a child- that's what your primary job is. You can forget about concentrating on a career or anything, your baby will need you to have money NOW and not after university, so it might take you a long time to get through- if you have to work to provide.
People wait, and they break up, and people have babies later and can't look after them properly. So I will hold nothing against you cos you're sixteen. Only if you dont really want a baby for the right reasons. And if you want one for yourSELF, then that's wrong. It's selfish and wrong and you won't be a good mother. But I'm not saying I think that.
Perhaps it's not sensible, though. You are making things harder for yourself than you would be if you just held on for a while.
Oooh- read your last post now. Are you pregnant? Did you do a test or are you late or what? I thought you weren't going to start trying til christmas!!
i fell pregnant after knowing my b'friend 4 about 3-4 months my little girl is now 7 months and we are still together make sure the lad will stick by kid if u 2 split up i think kids need a good male role model if u are pregnant then good luck
becky and baby phoebe
Seriously mods, can we sort out an auto-close on these?
I think you are missing the fact that this thread is about 3 years old, as already stated
When will it stop.... when will it stop :mad: Fllippin new members read the bloody rules!
Yus, but i don't ever remember doing something so silly